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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 15, 2024 9:10:06 GMT -5
Interesting in that the 2 males that viewed this podcast found it less than helpful and perhaps even possibly detrimental for a man. But the one woman who viewed it thought it was "so good". Could it be one more reason that I have recently been reading many younger people are choosing not to date.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 13, 2024 12:06:50 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 13, 2024 11:52:56 GMT -5
toughtiger said... I need to let him go too and be alone I guess. I feel most of the singles out there were thrown back for a reason... and the men i know a few that are in situations reversed of mine stay and a FWB thing seems like the best solution for both parties ..... my online friend is too far away to be workable I read this as your being open to a FWB given the opportunity. If that is the case I would suggest you put your profile on Ashley Madiso and perhaps some other married but looking dating sites. If you are anything other than ugly as a lap dog or big as a house you will undoubtedly be recieving plenty of hits from men, many of whom are probably in SM's. I am always taken aback when a woman who desires intimacy has trouble finding it. My experience is that it is because she does not activily pursue that intimacy; There are a # of reasons women do not open them selves up to sex outside the marriage, and i suppose for the women those reasons are valid. Maybe I am just a man with low inhibitions, but if I were a woman and I wanted intimacy, damn if I wouldn't go after it.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 11, 2024 12:29:43 GMT -5
ironhamster may I direct message you to ask about your two friends who opened their marriages and how that worked for them? I’m at a crossroad in my marriage and would appreciate hearing about others’ experiences with this. Thank you! catsloveme,...you might also look up the posts of baseballgirl. she also was successful in opening her marriage and making it work with her H
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 11, 2024 9:30:04 GMT -5
lonelyhubby,...If you are a senior man I have been reading that the pellet implants are not recommended for you. That would be me also as I am 76. I use testosterone cypionate injections once a week as my method of TRT. 1/2 cc puts my testerone in the 600-700 range which is perfect for a male my age. I do have to take anastrozole to address the Estrogen created when the testosterone in broken down for use in the body. I started with topical medication but it did not have any effect on my T levels so after 2 months my doctor prescribed injections which raised my T level. Unfortunately my then W had pretty much lost her libido following menopause, so we were really mismatched libido wise at that point. You might consider reading up on testerone cypionate.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 11, 2024 6:12:13 GMT -5
Long term medican issues are the hardest hurdle to deal with in a SM. The illness generally isn't the fualt of the sick partner, it is something incidious that affects the marriage and sometimes treatment doesn't improve the medical concition, and can even make a SM worse. It's understandable the partner who is ill can suffer a lose of desire from comlications of the illness. The problen then becomes what can be done to keep the marriage viable from an intimacy standpoint. I am in general agreement with toughtiger. Coming to an agreement with the misses about having a "friend" for you seems a reasonable approach. Taking a "don't ask, don't tell" policy with consideration for the person experiencing the illness, can make life easier for both parties. Couples who genuinely care about each other should want to go all out to insure as much intimacy in the mariage as possible. If your spouse is unable to provide you with any sexual acts then that partner should be open to allowing a 3rd party to provide the missing sexual component. As long as care is taken to insure the infirm spouse is not deprived of what intimacy their condition permits. Talk to mrs.music about this approach and see if she is willing to go along. Hopefully she can see the potential "good side" in the arrangement.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 8, 2024 16:30:23 GMT -5
I went to the link and note there are several things to recommend the snach block. One was that the block could help you get a better angle for your pull. This sounds like it would be good to use if one still practiced the withdrawal method to prevent pregnancy.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 8, 2024 12:09:06 GMT -5
This reminds me of a cat I used to have. I would wake up in the middle of the night because the cat was crouching on my chest, french kissing me. Just for the record, the cat was a female.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 8, 2024 12:06:55 GMT -5
My doctor has prescribed a new medication for me. This morning I started checking on pricing. My online pharmacy, through my advantage plan is usually far more reasonable on pricing. But initially it may not be for this medication. The online pharmave showed to be 5 times the cost as compared to 3 local pharmacies. It pays to comparison shop everything.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 7, 2024 18:30:22 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 6, 2024 18:39:28 GMT -5
I think there's a general view that most women prefer the man to take charge, not in everything. I'm thinking more in terms of planning a date night. All of us have had the conversation with our wife's like this, M: what do you want for dinner? W: anything. M: How about Chinese? W: nah, I don't feel like Chinese. M: ok how about Italian? W: no not Italian. M: what do you want? W: i don't know. I feel like in these cases it's easier just to say, grab your stuff honey we're going to to Joe's kitchen. When I experienced this sort of wishie washie behavior from a woman on a restaurant selection I went with plan B. That is to head to restaurant that featured a buffet. So they could choose, chicken, beef, fish, all sorts of veggies and numerous deserts. If they can't find something on the buffet lines, then they can go hungry.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 6, 2024 9:28:48 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 6, 2024 9:10:50 GMT -5
My W apologized to me today and made some excuse as to why she had an attitude yesterday and took it out on me. Whatever. I see potential here. Her introspection (regardless of quality) is an essential skill; maybe the door is open for a discussion. Having the ability and willingness to be self-critical tells me that improvement may be possible if she’s willing to have frank discussions with you. Or maybe I’m just projecting because mine would never take accountability so no progress was possible. DC It reads to me like she is only being polite. She acknowledges her bad behavior on this instance, but come tomorrow or the next dsy that behavior will mainfest again. This says to me the behavior is so ingraned in her personality that it is unlikely to change. even if counseled by a 3rd party. I don't see her making the mental shift required to foster respect toward aquacat. Maybe I am too jaded at this point, but after seeing this sort of behavior on the part of refusing wives for so many years here, I don't see much to be optimistic about when it comes to progress.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 5, 2024 18:50:09 GMT -5
The way I look at it if I can't perform on my next lay, I will lick my way through it😝.I'm a giver Have you read the posts on TriMix , it's a steep curve? You could be watching snails race but 15 minutes after the injection you will be standing tall.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 5, 2024 7:06:07 GMT -5
I sincerely appreciate your comments and the general challenge by others. The fact is that (drumroll...) I finally left. But my story is not yet at a point that I'm ready to share the details here.
The theme of my own thinking / reaction / comments here is that it's not an easy decision financially, and the impact of financial sacrifices extends way, way beyond the bank account. Like, being in a position to retire at 52 but now having to work another decade (because she's actually taking 20 years of savings). That is a gut-wrenching achievement to have ripped from your grasp, and enough to give anyone serious pause.
DC
This sounds really positive for you DryCreek. I know the financial hit is a kick in the gut but later when you have time to process it, I think you will be glad you bit the bullet now. I experienced the same thing decades ago,when my 1st W decided to go. But I lost 1/2 of everything and then had a whopping child support payment every month. So it could always be worse. Best of luck going forward....
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