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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 21, 2024 19:30:40 GMT -5
I'm posting this here, because I think it's a very large problem for men and women going into a second,or third relationship. Especially as we age and women have basically given up on the prospect of being able to enjoy sex again. And , especially after getting out of years of a SM!!
For the record- my experience with the woman i had a relationship with after my divorce was blessed with being able to have multiple orgasms with little effort. However we where able to learn together ,through experimentation and communication how to "do it right", with her guidance. Enough about that...
What I would really like is feedback from those of you who are, or will be, entering a new sexual relationship in the future, and if you expect the man to figure it out, when you haven't figured it out for yourself?
I liked the part of the story when the author said " it's okay for the woman to be satisfied with the times when it doesn't happen and the times when it does."
When my opportunity comes again in the future I plan on asking the woman " have you figured it out? Please guide me,show me, walk me through it" Back to " ask and you shall receive!"
PS: As I get older , I fear more and more woman who blame it all on menopause ( or are refusers) and will not be interested in sex at all, let alone rediscovering an orgasm.
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Post by toughtiger on Feb 23, 2024 10:10:05 GMT -5
Many people do not know what works and if they do they may not speak up. both sexes. afraid to hurt feelings or egos .... i know i spoke up and he claims i emasculated him .....
Some partners think they are "good" cause some well timed ooh and ahhs just to get it over with.
i see no problem in talking about your likes / dislikes and ask for what works for you.
Women should find out by themselves what combination is to the safe. then share it with their chosen partner.
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Post by Missingout on Feb 23, 2024 13:11:58 GMT -5
Many people do not know what works and if they do they may not speak up. both sexes. afraid to hurt feelings or egos .... i know i spoke up and he claims i emasculated him ..... Some partners think they are "good" cause some well timed ooh and ahhs just to get it over with. i see no problem in talking about your likes / dislikes and ask for what works for you. Women should find out by themselves what combination is to the safe. then share it with their chosen partner. I agree 💯% |
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 28, 2024 10:48:41 GMT -5
.... i know i spoke up and he claims i emasculated him ..... Nope, he emasculated himself. |
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Post by aquacat on Feb 28, 2024 11:45:38 GMT -5
My wife will usually have one orgasm but that's about it. She says she does not go solo to find out what she likes as she has no desire for solo play.
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 29, 2024 11:59:39 GMT -5
My wife will usually have one orgasm but that's about it. She says she does not go solo to find out what she likes as she has no desire for solo play. I hope this was a good article for you and will give you the strength to remember it's not you! it's her! |
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Post by Missingout on Feb 29, 2024 12:19:13 GMT -5
The way I look at it if I can't perform on my next lay, I will lick my way through it😝.I'm a giver
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Post by m76 on Mar 5, 2024 9:25:51 GMT -5
I wish I had a use to even open this video.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 5, 2024 18:50:09 GMT -5
The way I look at it if I can't perform on my next lay, I will lick my way through it😝.I'm a giver Have you read the posts on TriMix , it's a steep curve? You could be watching snails race but 15 minutes after the injection you will be standing tall. |
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Post by Missingout on Mar 6, 2024 4:35:21 GMT -5
The way I look at it if I can't perform on my next lay, I will lick my way through it😝.I'm a giver Have you read the posts on TriMix , it's a steep curve? You could be watching snails race but 15 minutes after the injection you will be standing tall. Yes I have. I don’t have a problem solo but if you ad a participant to the mix I’m not sure what might happen. I have read shamwows posts and it got m thinking of what could happen since it’s been so long since I have been with someone else. I hope when it come to that day I don’t do to much thinking and get to work.😉 |
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 9, 2024 6:56:24 GMT -5
Have you read the posts on TriMix , it's a steep curve? You could be watching snails race but 15 minutes after the injection you will be standing tall. Yes I have. I don’t have a problem solo but if you ad a participant to the mix I’m not sure what might happen. I have read shamwows posts and it got m thinking of what could happen since it’s been so long since I have been with someone else. I hope when it come to that day I don’t do to much thinking and get to work.😉 My bet is that you will do fine when the time comes. There's a lot of chemical help options for guys. I find Cialis generics offer me the best bang for the buck, but everyone is different and what works for one guy may not help another. Psychological issues won't likely benefit from the chemical help, though. Ask anyone that has ever tried swinging or exhibitionistic sex. Stage fright is a real thing and the drugs won't help because what they help with isn't where the problem is. Orgasms for women, though? I am totally on board, but every woman is different, and likely different at different times in her cycle, so we men need some guidance and we shouldn't be afraid to ask for as much. |
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Post by shamwow on Mar 16, 2024 8:50:01 GMT -5
Have you read the posts on TriMix , it's a steep curve? You could be watching snails race but 15 minutes after the injection you will be standing tall. Yes I have. I don’t have a problem solo but if you ad a participant to the mix I’m not sure what might happen. I have read shamwows posts and it got m thinking of what could happen since it’s been so long since I have been with someone else. I hope when it come to that day I don’t do to much thinking and get to work.😉 No doubt that getting out of a SM has the potential to play havoc with the ability to perform with a new partner. Decades of masturbation as your only release trains your body to expect that experience rather than that of having a partner. In my case I had that situation coupled with lowered testesterone over the years and you have the potential for a humiliating mess when you finally get free and are with someone new. But as with everything, where there is a will there is a way. I got hormone replacement therapy (for the low T) and have generic viagra for when I need a little boost (or just for fun!) Now almost 7 years out of my SM the only time I have trouble is if we are doing a quickie on a schedule or if I can hear one of the adult kids in the kitchen next to our bedroom. At that point it is more of a mental thing than anything physical. Sometimes just taking a break for a minute is all it takes to determine the "coast is clear" and we start back up again. I guess my point with several years perspective is that if/when you find yourself with a willing / enthusiastic partner and their is a speed bump, be kind to yourself. You can make sure it's not physiological pretty easily, but I would EXPECT to see a mental block after the mindfuck of being in a SM. If you are with a quality person and you Talk with them about this, you may very well find that it shall pass. At least that's what happened for me (after dealing with the physiological aspects). |
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