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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 27, 2024 16:57:46 GMT -5
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 28, 2024 9:25:55 GMT -5
I had trouble taking her seriously when at 15 seconds into the video I saw this -  There is no such word as scalate.
She goes on further using some truths to bolster her BS just like any pick up artist. Her difference is to pick up subscribers to boost monetary return. An example was when she mentioned touching when asking these intimate questions, "touch her leg", without any hint of consent to touch. Really? Touch her leg before you have asked what she likes, what are her boundaries? No wonder so many women hate the dating scene when men are given pointers like this. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 28, 2024 10:09:54 GMT -5
jim44444,...I lasted a bit longer than you did. But I wasn't very far into this video when I concluded it was mostly BS and clicked off. I feel sorry for any guy who takes this womans advice to heart. He is likely to have a short and not so sweet experience with the women he is trying to romance.
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 28, 2024 10:18:49 GMT -5
jim44444,...I lasted a bit longer than you did. But I wasn't very far into this video when I concluded it was mostly BS and clicked off. I feel sorry for any guy who takes this womans advice to heart. He is likely to have a short and not so sweet experience with the women he is trying to romance. Thanks for the information! I did not see any of this when I viewed this video twice. ( I wonder why? I view her on youtube and see a number of short videos from her with no additional adds?))Instead it was 15 minutes long,with 15 pointers about slowly working your way up to talking about sex and acting upon it. |
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 28, 2024 10:37:21 GMT -5
Thanks for the information! I did not see any of this when I viewed this video twice. ( I wonder why? I view her on youtube and see a number of short videos from her with no additional adds?))Instead it was 15 minutes long,with 15 pointers about slowly working your way up to talking about sex and acting upon it. Yes, some of what she said is valid. Start off with benign questions to establish if there is any common interest in pursuing a relationship. Then in subsequent (if any) date question what a relationship looks like. Do not get into graphic detail but do establish boundaries and how they would interact. Of course if all they are looking for is a booty call then establish that quickly and accept any rejection with respect. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 28, 2024 11:29:04 GMT -5
Thanks for the information! I did not see any of this when I viewed this video twice. ( I wonder why? I view her on youtube and see a number of short videos from her with no additional adds?))Instead it was 15 minutes long,with 15 pointers about slowly working your way up to talking about sex and acting upon it. Yes, some of what she said is valid. Start off with benign questions to establish if there is any common interest in pursuing a relationship. Then in subsequent (if any) date question what a relationship looks like. Do not get into graphic detail but do establish boundaries and how they would interact. Of course if all they are looking for is a booty call then establish that quickly and accept any rejection with respect. Yes, there is a spell error...but cmon' she uses the word escalate repeatedly!! ( i'm the last person on the planet to be commenting on spelling errors that can't be fixed due to spellcheck from a computer) As far as leg touching goes? That I can easily comment on.... women constantly sit beside me at dance studios and immediately press their leg right against mine, hand on my knee, hand on my shoulder, full body hugs after a dance,etc...it doesn't go any further because I don't want it too. They're older than me and I don't want to mislead them. My past woman of three years on our first date, once in the restaurant, immediately said " here sit beside me", leg pressed against mine, hand on my leg. Heck the first time I met her and we sat beside each other she was a big toucher! She's Italian! It's her personality! Me? I need a real strong lead to be that bold! I really liked her comment about messing it up and going from zero to a hundred after a small sign of affection. last week I went on two dinner/dancing dates with a woman who introduced herself to me on the dance floor. She's visiting here in Florida for a few weeks and going back to New York. Their was hand holding, walking to the river holding hands, dancing Tango, bodies pressed together around groups of other dancers, lengthy conversations, some about sex and dating,past relationships,divorce,etc... ( me listening) legs pressed together at the table, her trusting me to give her rides to every location, hugging and kissing good night. All on a first and second date. Had she not been going back home, this article would have applied to more advancement of the intimacy. All good 'practice dating' without getting too emotionally involved ( which I would prefer. the emotional involvement but....that's for another post) |
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Post by warmways on Mar 13, 2024 15:44:28 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 15, 2024 9:10:06 GMT -5
Interesting in that the 2 males that viewed this podcast found it less than helpful and perhaps even possibly detrimental for a man. But the one woman who viewed it thought it was "so good". Could it be one more reason that I have recently been reading many younger people are choosing not to date.
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Post by mirrororchid on Mar 18, 2024 20:53:31 GMT -5
Tried to summarize the transcript below.
I think it might make sense to ask a prospect about minefields her past romantic partners have run afoul of.
Some might be obvious, but maybe she'd tell you about a habit you know you also have?
What if his hobbies drove her insane and you've always meant to take one of them up?
Maybe his obsession with BJs turned her right off and you catch the vibe that she doesn't do those anymore? (and it's important to you to at least start things off with some less vanilla activity)
You might clue in to some red flags or dodge some bullets before they even fly past you a la Neo.
The physical interaction part...saying the intimate conversation turns you on?
I think that might give American women a major case of the creeps/ick.
She says she's European and rather openly sexual while yanks are prudish.
It could make much of her advice to Americans in need of tweaking.
Or... I'm unusually skittish.
My "game" admittedly takes a glacial pace.
Perhaps I waste extraordinary amounts of time "beating about the bush" as she puts it.
IsThisIt is European and appears unfazed by the forthright approach suggested here.
The piece may well be valid, but it's reception may vary by locality.
...you guys are unsure of how to escalate things with women you are afraid to scare them away you're afraid to say the wrong thing but the one difference between kind of the nice guy and or the bad boy is that the bad boy assumes that a woman is just as much of a sexual being as he is and that is the difference that is the attitude that you need to go into when you are having these types of conversations because I will tell you from a woman's perspective he is right you think that we are just these nonsexual creatures and these tiny little princesses that don't enjoy it
...if you are uncomfortable and if you make it a big deal then it's going to feel like a big deal to her the more that you can
control your facial expressions the more that you can act calm and collected and confident when talking about this the more safe that she is going to feel with
you
...make sure you're in a darker setting right make sure you're going to dinner potentially have had a glass of wine you're on date three or 4
...start talking about experiences that she's had in the past like:
when did you experience your first kiss
...what her love language is
...start off with like these PG or even G-rated questions that will lead you and that
...if she says that touch is one of her love language then you can ask her "do you like a little bit more PDA (public display of affection)... would you like it if I held your hand as we were walking down the street?"
...you don't want to go super intimate super quick right the first question maybe not even the second question or the third question because it's it can come across as that you are
only wanting to sleep with her
...start with lighter questions
...what are some things in the in your past that you really liked in a guy
...what are some of the things that that he did for you
...what are some things that guys have done that you've liked that have flirted with you
...how do you like to receive affection?
...what is it that you're looking for in a relationship?
...what are some things that haven't worked out for you in the past in your relationships
...what are some things that you find really attractive in in a man that you're seeing ?
...how does a man show you that he is very attracted to you
what does that make you feel like
what is it that
you're looking for
what's one thing that really
frustrates you about men
what is one
thing that you've had in your past
that's been really frustrating for
you
how would you change it and what
do I need to know in order to not make
those same mistakes again
you guys
should be having these intimate
conversations ... over a glass of
wine or if you're not of age yet over
some mini golf but you know make sure
that the setting is right having coffee
and sexual conversation at 9:00 in the
morning doesn't necessarily do it for
most women it's not very romantic
definitely try and ask some intentional
questions
how many times does does she want to see
you in a new relationship how many times
does she want to hear from you as far as
text messaging as far as phone calls
the ultimate question ...how does a man make you feel safe ?
what do you
think makes constitutes a good
relationship?
how many times a week would
be your ideal to potentially have
intercourse?
did you ever struggle with
this in your past relationships?
are you
a sexual person ?
what are some things
that you haven't tried that you
potentially want to try in the bedroom
that you haven't done yet?
what are some places
that are ayous for you ?
do you like your
ears being kissed?
do you like your neck
being kissed ?
where are some places that
that really do it for you?
when you were growing up how
comfortable was it for you and in your
household talking about these things?
... Americans can be a
little bit more prude when it comes to
these conversations. all my European
Watchers know exactly what I'm
talking about and then you want to start
getting pretty into it because... if you beat around
the bush and you don't have these
important conversations in the very
early stages of dating I really hate to
say this but I don't care if you scare a
woman Away by having these types of
conversations because what you need
to differentiate and what you need to
know is if you are being used
if you
are taking her out to fancy dinners if
you ...and not get
anything in return that's a woman who's
probably never going to want to sleep
with you so you have to differentiate
whether or not a woman is going to have
your same type of value system when it
comes to the bedroom
having these open
and upfront honest conversations and
asking her ..."are you a sexual
person" or "how long do you
think you could go without potentially
pleasing yourself" those types of
questions are going to give you a lot of
information ...because you're not looking
to get into a relationship where it's
dry
I know you men and I understand that
you want to also have an amazing
sex life so asking about you know the
craziest place that she has ever done it
or potentially what type of videos that
she likes to watch
what is it that that
really gets her going
what's the hottest
thing that a guy can do during the act
now you don't have to use them all at
one time
you know you can spread these
out within a couple of weeks if you're
having conversations and there is
something that leads you down this road
you want to be natural about it
you don't want to hammer her with all 15
questions all at one time but you want
to start to trigger something in her
because when a woman feels safe with a
man you're going to feel a very little
push back and if she challenges you
...you can be honest you want to own
your sexuality and don't apologize if
you consider yourself a sexual person
if she responds with why you asking
me this or I don't feel comfortable
that's great that's good information for
you to have but ... have a
playful smirk on your face... if a
woman is not talking to you about these
things and is not being honest with you
then most likely she's not on the same
page with you
don't forget when you
were talking about these things kiss her
on the cheek or kiss her on the ear or
whisper some you know words of
encouragement in her ear touch her on
the leg and just tell her how hot she is
how hot she is for opening up to you and
really encourage her and say maybe
you're turned on a little bit by the
conversation
...you touch her
leg that's only going to help you in
your Pursuits of the conversation tell
her how beautiful she is tell her how
much you're enjoying to getting to know
her tell her that you really appreciate
her vulnerability and the fact that she
is opening up to you and then continue
on with ... a couple more
questions that are a little bit more
charged ...
has she ever had an O if someone's gone down
on her?
has that been harder for her?
does she like having that type of
stimulation in that area ?
... starting a little bit
more you know G or PG rated at the
restaurant ... but then invite her over
to your place ... and
then get her to a place where she feels
safe and then you can ask her ...
what kind
of toys does she like?
is she into lingerie ? does she sleep naked ? does she not sleep naked?
...remember women are
sexual beings and if you think that
women do not enjoy it as much as you or
if you think that we are not as sexual
as you you are wrong my friend own it be
the leader be comfortable in the
conversation...
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