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Post by skguy on Jun 5, 2016 12:37:31 GMT -5
Without going into details, shit hit the fan here. I had "the TALK" with H and now the tension is sky high. I will be okay, but it's going to be a messy ride. I believe in positive energy, so if you can, send some my way! xo Sending positive thoughts your way You're a brave and strong woman Hugs
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Post by skguy on Jun 4, 2016 21:29:03 GMT -5
I see what you mean. I'd love to have you make my world go black. The fact we can't is so depressing. You know I would!!! I know you would.
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Post by skguy on Jun 4, 2016 21:13:58 GMT -5
I want to make a guy's world go Black. Just not my husband's. :-( So depressing. I see what you mean. I'd love to have you make my world go black. The fact we can't is so depressing.
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Post by skguy on Jun 3, 2016 11:17:24 GMT -5
Some of us might be feeling left out. Plus some of us with overactive imaginations are thinking all sorts of things. Not me. But maybe someone ;-) Hmmmm. Not buying that you are not one of the guys with an overactive imagination!!! I have no idea why!!?? My story is falling apart
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Post by skguy on Jun 2, 2016 16:34:44 GMT -5
Since you're the one who has to travel the farthest, you let us know, ggoldAre any other guys feeling a bit left out? Or just me? But if it's just me, I'm sure I could keep you three ladies entertained'! Some of us might be feeling left out. Plus some of us with overactive imaginations are thinking all sorts of things. Not me. But maybe someone ;-)
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Post by skguy on Jun 2, 2016 16:17:50 GMT -5
I finally had my court date today to have temporary support orders set. Apparently my STBX's lawyer thinks she is on a TV show and turned it into a special kind of hell for me. She persistently poked at my character until my lawyer finally stood up and asked if the judge was interested in listening to us list each other's flaws. She pointed out that we were trying to take the high road and not respond but that it was getting ridiculous. The judge asked his lawyer to "quit nit picking and start focussing on the big picture." Basically, I ended up getting the support I had asked for, including a portion of my attorney's fees. I wish I could feel a little more triumph or something, but all I can feel is exhausted. It was almost impossible to sit there and listen to his lawyer either outright lie or implicate that I was a terrible wife and mother. I managed to keep my composure but I was shaking. I knew it would be hard, but it was even more awful than I thought. My favorite lie was his attorney insisting that I have access to an account that she knew I didn't - she personally handed me statements that have only his name on them right before we went in. Well, as of today I have the user name and password, but my name still isn't on the account so I still can't use that money. I'm literally sitting there with the proof in my hands and I can't say a word. Of course my attorney told the judge exactly what was going on. And his lawyer went on and on about how I've made no attempt to get a job when they both know full well that I have to finish the semester I'm teaching right now before I can seriously job hunt (they also both know I had a second interview yesterday for a job so it really really isn't true). I just wanted to stand up and yell, "You both know that's not true!" I could never understand why they have people do that in movies and TV, but now I get it. It's incredibly hard to listen to lies about yourself and not want to jump up and defend yourself. I guess maintaining control of myself is what has made me so tired. Anyway, I totally get that it was a success for me, but the cost was pretty high. I hope I'll feel better about it later. Great job. Such a horrible experience for you to go through. Such great self control when ever part of you wants to yell out the truth. You're for sure trying to take the high road even the other side is resorting to every ugly trick in the book. Even though you're exhausted - you should be proud of yourself. :-)
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Post by skguy on May 30, 2016 21:38:58 GMT -5
If you had the opportunity to meet in person, someone from here, would you? I would in a heartbeat. Though for me I think that's highly doubtful, I think I'm the only person from Canada on here. Either that or the rest live where it's colder and have sex just to keep warm. I'm from Canada. Probably far from you. There are people I'd love to meet One in particular. She means a lot to me. Actually, there are several people on here I'd love to meet. Some in the US some in Europe. I'd also like to go on a run with a certain runner. But not sure if I could keep up.
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Post by skguy on May 30, 2016 19:18:22 GMT -5
Sorry, but you all need to do some SERIOUS research. Many women. myself included, still have a strong and healthy libido post menopause. in my case, 11 years post menopause. Why do you think they make and market Estrace and Premarin vaginal cream? I am deeply saddened by the misinformation and ageism and sexism presented in this thread. NI am 5'7", 135 fit pounds and have the stamina and energy of many 40 somethings. I have to agree with omixochitl and the other women who have commented on this post. Pre, post-menopause,etc. If a woman was attracted to me, and me to her, I would make love to her at any age. No matter the age, I think there would always be a passion between the right two people. No matter the age. If the chemistry is there, I would do all kinds of naughty things with a woman older then me. If we're both into it, lets enjoy ourselves.
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Post by skguy on May 28, 2016 21:45:24 GMT -5
I'm brand new here, in a sexless marriage from day 2 almost 4 years ago. A friend pointed me here, probably so I would stop whining to him, since he is in a similar situation. Teach me, oh wise ones, how not to run screaming into the night? Welcome Pseudofrozen, I don't think I have any great answers for you. It is helpful to find others in a similar situation. Sometimes you'll feel like crying on this board - sometimes you'll laugh.
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Post by skguy on May 28, 2016 21:42:59 GMT -5
Thank you Z and Petrushka! I am not even sure where to start with my story. I've been reading a few of the posts and find myself shaking my head in agreement. I hate being in a SM, but not sure if I can leave anytime soon. He has moved me away from our hometown near Chicago to NY for his job/promotion. I had to give up my amazing job, family and friends to sit alone with our young son in a new city while he travels most of the week for his job. Feeling hopeless, sad, lonenly...how does a hard working go getter like me wind up like this??? Welcome to the forum. Sounds like you gave up so much. I hope you find some good support here. :-)
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Post by skguy on May 26, 2016 21:36:29 GMT -5
I hope to have a man in my life who truly feels this way about me. So nice. I hope your dream comes true. You deserve it.
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Post by skguy on May 23, 2016 18:06:33 GMT -5
There has been some discussion in other threads about private messaging. I realize that I am not an admin. I just thought I would share my thoughts on the subject. First of all, we talk about some sensitive subjects here. I have given details about my life here that I have not told anyone else. In order for this forum to work, I have to have that trust in my fellow forum members. But there are times when I need more discretion than the forum provides. I might have an issue too personal for the open forum or a personal question which a member may not want to answer in an open forum. For such instances, I use personal messages. They may not be solicited, but I don't think they are intrusive. Because of the trust factor, I try to PM carefully. No pestering, no overtly sexual messages, and no requests for pics. If you don't answer, I got your message. No need to send any more. That is how I handle PMs. I too have pm'd on here. I sometimes want to give someone extra support, and I feel more comfortable in a private pm. So far, so good. I'm not out to make somebody's situation worse than they already have it. I think most people on here have been through a lot. And are going through a lot. I try to be super careful that I don't ask something inappropriate. As I'm not a woman, I don't get those harassing type pm's that some seem to get. No place for people like that here. I worry about the woman on here (men too). But mostly the women, because I think so many have been mistreated, controlled, abused, etc... Not saying that doesn't happen to men, but I think it's just different. ie. the harassing private messages that some of the women have mentioned. Someone on here told me they almost always get 'penis' pics from the men even before they've get a chance to get to know one another. So I sometimes pm because I want to give support. And sometimes I'm truly worried about welfare of some of the posters. I want them to know there are good guys out there, and we don't want to make their situation worse. Hopefully all of my pm's have been appropriate to whoever received them.
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Post by skguy on May 17, 2016 15:22:18 GMT -5
Hello everyone. I found this website after searching online for support. I had a session with my therapist this morning and was steered in the direction that she always steers me, to find "my half" of this problem. I'm so tired of trying to figure out what I'm doing to contribute, even if it's only half. I just need some support now. My heart is torn up and I'm so exhausted. Welcome. :-) I've only been here for a week. Great people here. Take care.
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Post by skguy on May 17, 2016 11:18:29 GMT -5
That's so terrible for you. My heart breaks for you. Hugs
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Post by skguy on May 17, 2016 8:41:09 GMT -5
petrushka seems like chances are not that big for getting that ticket lol. Maybe I win the lotto. Oh wait.... I've never played that too.... A person had almost zero chance to win, but lately I think how much I would like to win an obscene amount I don't need very much, so I would just like to share and help people. You can't help everyone, but you could sure change the lives of a few. I would start with people on this board who needed help to escape, etc There was a Florida powerball winner who won 100's of millions. He helped a woman who was losing her sight. Pocket change for him - everything for her. I would love to help people like that.
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