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Post by tamara68 on May 15, 2016 2:50:08 GMT -5
I know you have found me on this site. This is the place where I like to write. Enjoy. Most of it should not be a surprise to you. I have found some wonderful friends here who understand the way I feel and don't consider me crazy for wanting a bit of happiness and intimacy. For wanting to do the things that suit me and make me feel good. For longing for affection. For longing for a bit of freedom. For longing for new experiences. For longing for getting rid of constantly being watched and controlled. For wanting to be myself!
It is perfectly fine for me that you want to be yourself too. But you and I can not be both ourselves in the same house. I have told you many times before I want to leave. I am willing to do it as reasonable as possible. And not necessarily right away. Unless you make me want to leave immediately.
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Post by sand5280 on May 15, 2016 2:54:47 GMT -5
I wish you could see the smile and goosebumps I have now.
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Post by tamara68 on May 15, 2016 2:56:01 GMT -5
@sand I wish that too!
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Post by wewbwb on May 15, 2016 5:09:19 GMT -5
tamara68 you are strength and courage to us all. You are the best of us. You deserve all the happiness in the world. You should never want for anything.
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Post by tamara68 on May 15, 2016 5:32:04 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2016 12:23:43 GMT -5
tamara68 you are the very personification of grace under pressure, beautiful lady.
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Post by Chatter Fox on May 15, 2016 12:27:43 GMT -5
*stands up and cheers*
Well done! Gutsy, honest, yet respectful. So proud of you right now!
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2016 16:27:13 GMT -5
I know you have found me on this site. This is the place where I like to write. Enjoy. Most of it should not be a surprise to you. I have found some wonderful friends here who understand the way I feel and don't consider me crazy for wanting a bit of happiness and intimacy. For wanting to do the things that suit me and make me feel good. For longing for affection. For longing for a bit of freedom. For longing for new experiences. For longing for getting rid of constantly being watched and controlled. For wanting to be myself! It is perfectly fine for me that you want to be yourself too. But you and I can not be both ourselves in the same house. I have told you many times before I want to leave. I am willing to do it as reasonable as possible. And not necessarily right away. Unless you make me want to leave immediately. Dude whoever you are let me give you some advice: people in this little rejection club are at the end of their rope. She means this, so if you don't make any changes, don't be shocked if you get a certified letter from a lawyer.
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2016 20:45:50 GMT -5
tamara68, you deserve to be loved exactly the way you are.
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Post by wewbwb on May 15, 2016 21:01:30 GMT -5
tamara68 , you deserve to be loved exactly the way you are. And treasured for the person she is.
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2016 21:40:49 GMT -5
Good for you. I hope he finds this and it make him think. But most of all, I hope you find your joy. I hope I have the courage to find mine too.
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Post by Rhapsodee on May 15, 2016 22:21:53 GMT -5
Hugs.
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Post by RumRunner on May 15, 2016 22:34:43 GMT -5
I know you have found me on this site. This is the place where I like to write. Enjoy. Most of it should not be a surprise to you. I have found some wonderful friends here who understand the way I feel and don't consider me crazy for wanting a bit of happiness and intimacy. For wanting to do the things that suit me and make me feel good. For longing for affection. For longing for a bit of freedom. For longing for new experiences. For longing for getting rid of constantly being watched and controlled. For wanting to be myself! It is perfectly fine for me that you want to be yourself too. But you and I can not be both ourselves in the same house. I have told you many times before I want to leave. I am willing to do it as reasonable as possible. And not necessarily right away. Unless you make me want to leave immediately. Good for you tamara68... stand up for yourself and most of all be happy....
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Post by tamara68 on May 16, 2016 1:31:42 GMT -5
Thank you all so much, I am crying now reading your responses. I am so glad to have your support. I wish I could hug you. Xxx
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Post by itsjustus on May 16, 2016 1:41:10 GMT -5
Note to Mr. tamara68. Now that you've found her place where she gets to escape to, where her thoughts of you, your marriage, and herself can flow freely, where she can be herself and just enjoy, you can finally read in black and white the damage and the pure angst your control and manipulations have done. I hope it shocks you. I hope by seeing you thru her eyes, thru her writing, and thru the eyes of others here, that you find some humility, some kind of shame for what you've done to a beautiful person, as well as your daughter. I hope that you're smart enough to realize that even if you don't agree with all that's said, you know "the other side of it" you'd say, that her words here are her reality. Her perceptions. Her day to day life, with you. And I hope it humbles you. But I seriously doubt it will. The least I could hope for is that you see that blaming her, for all the issues, all the problems, all the "chaos" in your ordered life, isn't true. And pointless. I doubt she is entirely blameless, no one in a marriage this dysfunctional is. I lived with a woman as controlling and demeaning as you for 32 years. I understand tamara68 and the hard life she's lead. I understand you. I know where the dysfunction starts, the seed of it that lead to all of the "blame" I shared in it. And it wasn't me. It isn't your wife. My biggest fault, was staying for so long. Now it's her turn, to fix it. To live. For herself, for the daughter, and even for you. Let it go. Let her go easily. It's time. tamara68, I'm proud of you, and I'm thinking of you. I'm sure you did not expect this nor exactly welcome it happening, but it is a good way to show him all of the very real reasons you've said so many times before you want to leave. Stand your ground Use it. You are offering to be reasonsonable, to take time. More than he deserves. But don't let manipulation and demeaning abuse sway you. If need be, walk away. It's finally time you get to be yourself. I'm happy for you!
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