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Post by skguy on Dec 30, 2016 22:59:11 GMT -5
Yes my good friend, blame it on him. I know you work hard to try and fix things that need fixing. Always there for you.
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Post by skguy on Nov 21, 2016 22:19:24 GMT -5
I recently met someone nearby from what appears to be the perfect home. Big beautiful house. Money. Nice children etc. All appears well, except for the part where the lady of the house is my special friend ;-) Because behind closed doors she's not treated how a woman should be treated. Meanness. Berating. Backhanded compliments, body shaming...All those not so fun things. Glad you two found each other! Biggest problem is I talk too much and say dumb things on occasion. Lol But she's very tolerant. Likes me for some reason. 🙄
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Post by skguy on Nov 21, 2016 16:22:35 GMT -5
I'm guilty of this, particularly my husband's brother, brother's wife and family. Big house, three kids, and everything seems to function like a well-oiled machine. He helps around the house. They're reasonably affectionate after 20 years of marriage. And she only has minor gripes about him. Must. Be. Nice. I recently met someone nearby from what appears to be the perfect home. Big beautiful house. Money. Nice children etc. All appears well, except for the part where the lady of the house is my special friend ;-) Because behind closed doors she's not treated how a woman should be treated. Meanness. Berating. Backhanded compliments, body shaming...All those not so fun things.
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Post by skguy on Nov 20, 2016 21:07:00 GMT -5
Welcome. A good thing about this place is you'll realize it's not you.
You'll be able to relate to others stories I'm guessing.
I'm sorry you've had so many years without. You deserve so much more.
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Post by skguy on Nov 17, 2016 12:04:31 GMT -5
I try hard not to snap or be short. First off I don't like to be like that, but sometimes you're pushed over the edge. In my relationship it's not worth it it to snap or be rude. There will be some sort of argument and them I spend hours taking her out hiding slot on the bed. It's probably not healthy that we don't have disagreements but it saves a lot of stress and pain Definitely not healthy. Communication reduced to zero in some sort of detente, with perhaps one or both fingers poised over the nuke button but never daring to press it. I lived like that for decades... Very true.
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Post by skguy on Nov 17, 2016 11:33:14 GMT -5
I try hard not to snap or be short. First off I don't like to be like that, but sometimes you're pushed over the edge.
In my relationship it's not worth it it to snap or be rude. There will be some sort of argument and them I spend hours taking her out hiding slot on the bed.
It's probably not healthy that we don't have disagreements but it saves a lot of stress and pain
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Post by skguy on Nov 10, 2016 12:11:40 GMT -5
You take care the best you can. You're always in my thoughts. Always hoping for something great for you.
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Post by skguy on Oct 22, 2016 10:30:44 GMT -5
Having a pity party. Some days are better than others. I feel very empty, scattered, disconnected. I think my birthday coming up on Saturday is bringing up feelings that another year has gone by and nothing has changed because I have not done anything about it. I'm so pissed off at myself for being a coward. It's one of those days. :-( You're not a coward. There is nothing easy about any of this. You're one of the best people I know. Always there for you Hugs
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Post by skguy on Sept 21, 2016 10:29:08 GMT -5
My wife sort of scratches my head. I guess you'd call it a 'scritch' Like scritching a dogs head.
So it's nice to have contact. It's nice to have some touch. But then she gets carried away and can almost hurt me.
Besides that negative, I'm quite often asleep or almost asleep, and it ends up waking me up. Then I can't sleep. So that sort of defeats any of the nice part.
So that's is not snuggling. It's the closest I get. I do hold her and spoon her when she needs comfort. I don't even get aroused from that anymore. Just go through the motions.
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Post by skguy on Sept 14, 2016 22:33:55 GMT -5
I think wanting to read the lighter posts sometimes makes sense. I haven't been on here for a while. When I'm on here I get caught up in the stories. A lot of people get dealt some really shitty cards.
I feel for those in pain on here. I know I can't directly help but you sure want to.
I hope to do better at again offering support to all the great members on here.
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Post by skguy on Sept 2, 2016 22:24:10 GMT -5
So happy for you. :-)
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Post by skguy on Aug 21, 2016 10:48:36 GMT -5
I have trouble telling if my recent sadness is related to depression or general sadness and stress.
I also have an unsatisfying job. One where I don't accomplish a lot on a regular basis. That takes a huge toll on my psyche. If I have a productive day, my mood improves 200%
I used to sort of block out the fact I have no intimacy in my life. But now I think about it all the time. Maybe because I'm getting older and feel time is running out.
My wife has depression. And I think I've spent so many years waiting for the other shoe to drop, that I'm just depleted.
Maybe I'll check out his books to see if I can find anything helpful.
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Post by skguy on Aug 20, 2016 20:58:46 GMT -5
So sorry. I can't wait until all this is behind you. You deserve so much better.
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Post by skguy on Aug 7, 2016 20:04:38 GMT -5
Congratulations. I'm so happy for you :-)
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Post by skguy on Jul 1, 2016 12:34:06 GMT -5
Might just be a refuser to me. She used to be pretty good at it before. That's why it's frustrating.
Plus I'm looking pretty good for my age lol. At least someone on this board appreciates my effort. ;-)
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