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by angeleyes65
Nov 6, 2019 13:29:45 GMT -5
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Seek and offer support in dealing with a sexless marriage.

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by elynne
Nov 16, 2019 17:14:41 GMT -5
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Resource for trying to fix a sexless marriage... or getting out of one.

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by greatcoastal
Nov 13, 2019 20:19:11 GMT -5
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Focusing on the challenges of staying in a sexless marriage. Share advice, pitfalls, successes, and setbacks.

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by worksforme2
Nov 14, 2019 16:44:36 GMT -5
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For those who have "escaped": share your experiences both positive and negative.

517 11,220 She said “YES!”
by shamwow
Nov 14, 2019 18:59:13 GMT -5
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by baza
Nov 15, 2019 20:20:07 GMT -5
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The best advice for dealing with an SM from around the web -- reposted here to preserve the wit and wisdom.

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by saarinista
Nov 8, 2019 3:00:24 GMT -5
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Sometime it helps to make light of the situation: humor is a great healer!

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misssunnybunny: Here is some info from the Welcome board, from when we all first started: iliasm.org/thread/4/quick-start-site-works Hope it helps! Oct 22, 2019 16:14:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Real Mustang Guy....To see the latest posts, stories, replies, move your scroll arrow left to ILIASM Forum and wait. The General Category will appear. Move your arrow downto the word General and left click. All the categories will appear. Oct 22, 2019 17:19:53 GMT -5
RealMustangGuy: Thank you worksforme2. That helps but this site is really confusing for me for some reason. I'll keep trying to figure it out though. Thank you again for your explanation. Oct 23, 2019 8:15:40 GMT -5
RealMustangGuy: misssunnybunny, thank you as well for your link. I'll study that and hopefully it will help me figure this site out. Oct 23, 2019 8:16:35 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! I do hope it helps. Oct 23, 2019 20:44:53 GMT -5
RealMustangGuy: Hope everyone has a great weekend. Oct 26, 2019 9:02:26 GMT -5
warmways: Happy birthday solodriver! Oct 30, 2019 9:17:55 GMT -5
solodriver: Thanks warmways :) Oct 30, 2019 23:36:15 GMT -5
RealMustangGuy: When using a member's username in a post, how does one get it to be in different color and work as a link? I can type in the name but after posting it doesn't look the same as when others use member's usernames in their posts. Nov 2, 2019 11:37:25 GMT -5
bfar: Just stumbled on this article:https://masculinebydesign.com/sexless-marriage-is-symptomatic-of-emasculated-husbands/ was more than a little disconcerting. Are we digging ourselves further in the hole by trying to be all enlightened and sensitive? Nov 3, 2019 13:46:42 GMT -5
petrushka: Mate, what's the alternative to all enlightened and sensitive here? Rape? Coercion? Sexual assault? Thanks, but I can do better than being a complete arsehole (or psychopath for that matter). Nov 3, 2019 21:11:53 GMT -5
bfar: Petrushka... I'm just wondering if we shot ourselves in the foot, as it were, by giving giving up on our strength, and giving in to the feminist agenda of making men irrelevant. Nov 5, 2019 11:30:21 GMT -5
petrushka: Sorry, I don't buy into that at all. I'm not giving up anything. I've been into the "feminist agenda" for nearly 60 years. Having an empowered partner empowers me. I want strong women around me who take responsibility for themselves and who can face me Nov 5, 2019 17:20:16 GMT -5
petrushka: I see 'strong men', and controlling bullies, as basically weak, lacking confidence and self esteem -- hence they think they need to assert themselves that way. I loathe patriarchy as much as matriarchy. Partners should be equals. Nov 5, 2019 17:24:43 GMT -5
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there. Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label. Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar. Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5 *
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works. Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5 *
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