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Post by skguy on May 16, 2016 20:16:47 GMT -5
Hello all, LITW here ... new name, same me. Details of the name switch available upon request. Thank goodness... your new name is much easier to pronounce. Too funny. lol
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Post by skguy on May 16, 2016 9:02:26 GMT -5
So they don't compare to mountainrunner's pics but I went for a run took the best trail photos close to my house. These trails are the result of a man made lake and the trees/bushes that have been there since the lake. The last pic is a 100ft trail up to a how highway overpass lol I like hills as well. Not so long that you die, but up and down.
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Running
May 15, 2016 20:18:18 GMT -5
Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 20:18:18 GMT -5
That canyon looks beautiful. I love trail running. Not too much of that around here, but I do like it. The path and terrain distracts you compared to just pounding the pavement. I'm sort of back into running, but not too much. I'm on the verge of leaving the Clydesdale weight class, so that makes running easier. I have to find myself a running partner. Especially for winter. Helps with the motivation. You might be surprised where you can find trails - see if there is a trail running group in your community (MeetUp is a good place to check). You can also check local parks - many of them have trail systems. If you're willing to drive a little, your trail options open up enormously. Here's where a running buddy can REALLY make a difference since it's very easy to blow off a run if you have to get in the car and drive half an hour or more to get to it. If someone else is depending on you, it makes it easier to motivate yourself. Enjoy getting back into running! For me, it's as good for my mind as it is for my body. I'll try and be way more consistent with my running. I need to improve more. If I hit upon one of the trails around her, I'll take photo and share it.
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Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 15:01:05 GMT -5
Emoliate
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Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 14:53:35 GMT -5
@sand my grandpa has Alzheimers, and my grandma is on kidney dialysis and has fibromyalgia. We already live an hour away from them and don't see them often. I don't want to be away from them. And I personally think this move is all about power and control. I don't know how the education system is down there. Not a clue. I have a hard time because a lot people in my religious community, say they understand Autism but don't always. Their kidz will come up to me and ask if they're slow. My mother would a whooped me in all kinds of ways if I had said that to somebody when I was a kid. And I'd only be allowed to befriend who my husband wanted. I know because thats what my husband and his friends did to me when we first got married but I was too naive to realize what he was doing. I don't think most people understand autism. People are all over the spectrum, and most of the time you don't even know someone has it. Sometimes religious communities think they have all the answers and people end up not getting the help they need. Some school systems seem to have great support - while others don't even acknowledge it.
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Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 11:50:13 GMT -5
Orleans
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Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 11:11:52 GMT -5
Sing
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Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 10:47:55 GMT -5
So good of you to offer to share something you had enjoyed previously. Great effort on your part. So sad you got nothing back
I'm sure you do make friend everywhere. You sound like you're a really fun person
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Running
May 15, 2016 8:51:41 GMT -5
Post by skguy on May 15, 2016 8:51:41 GMT -5
That canyon looks beautiful. I love trail running. Not too much of that around here, but I do like it. The path and terrain distracts you compared to just pounding the pavement. I'm sort of back into running, but not too much. I'm on the verge of leaving the Clydesdale weight class, so that makes running easier. I have to find myself a running partner. Especially for winter. Helps with the motivation. You might be surprised where you can find trails - see if there is a trail running group in your community (MeetUp is a good place to check). You can also check local parks - many of them have trail systems. If you're willing to drive a little, your trail options open up enormously. Here's where a running buddy can REALLY make a difference since it's very easy to blow off a run if you have to get in the car and drive half an hour or more to get to it. If someone else is depending on you, it makes it easier to motivate yourself. Enjoy getting back into running! For me, it's as good for my mind as it is for my body. You're right about finding trails. We actually have some trails here. This city was built on a flat plain, but does have a creek running through it. Luckily, those with foresight, built an amazing park around this creek. So there are some trails. And outside of the city, there is a valley (same creek) and the trails there are quite good. That's what I need. A running buddy. I've always ran 99% of the time by myself. I have had a running partner on occasion. Taught my wife to run years ago. We do have a running store with club. The times are no good for me currently, but I hope to rectify that. I do have a highly energetic four legged partner. She's never not wanted to go lol
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Post by skguy on May 14, 2016 22:54:23 GMT -5
Benjamin
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Post by skguy on May 14, 2016 21:23:37 GMT -5
I think I might just go with the lack of intimacy. I do t need actual sex per say, but some intimacy so we just don't feel line close friends. If I was having sex 12 times a year I might not define it as sexless. But that's because I'm getting zero now. So 12 might at least have me looking forward to it. I remember past sex and wish for some of that. :-) I always thought that. But I now think it is very hard to have real intimacy in a relationship without the sex. We had a relationship with no touch and no physical affection at all, and over the last couple of years we have managed to massively improve that side of things. It doesn't come naturally to my wife and I think she often doesn't 'feel' it the same way I do. But it is hugely better. How intimate is it though? I now feel intimacy requires real openness and vulnerability on both sides. And it is very hard to have that feeling when there is a huge wall around sex. It is a bit like saying I will share myself with you so long as you don't go near the stuff that is uncomfortable for me. I agree. I guess because I haven't even got to have what I classify as intimacy, I sort of put the thought of sex on the backburner. I'm sure if we had that intimacy, things would naturally progress. I'll keep working on it with my wife.
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Running
May 14, 2016 10:00:47 GMT -5
Post by skguy on May 14, 2016 10:00:47 GMT -5
That canyon looks beautiful.
I love trail running. Not too much of that around here, but I do like it. The path and terrain distracts you compared to just pounding the pavement.
I'm sort of back into running, but not too much. I'm on the verge of leaving the Clydesdale weight class, so that makes running easier.
I have to find myself a running partner. Especially for winter. Helps with the motivation.
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Post by skguy on May 14, 2016 9:46:47 GMT -5
I heard on this clip of a tv show I found from YouTube, describing a sexless marriage as anything less than 12x a year. How do you define it? Do you define it by the overall lack of intimacy? Sexual or emotional? Nearly sexless (1x a month or less) or completely sexless? I would love to know. I think I might just go with the lack of intimacy. I do t need actual sex per say, but some intimacy so we just don't feel line close friends. If I was having sex 12 times a year I might not define it as sexless. But that's because I'm getting zero now. So 12 might at least have me looking forward to it. I remember past sex and wish for some of that. :-)
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Post by skguy on May 13, 2016 21:21:42 GMT -5
Duke
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Post by skguy on May 13, 2016 17:45:14 GMT -5
I think if the right opportunity came along I might go for it. I'd almost prefer another spouse that is frustrated as well, but not necessarily. I have two female friends I've ended up emailing for different reasons - but strictly platonic. I could easily fall for either of them. I would never cross the line with them but I can feel my strong attraction to them. Yeah. It's a dangerous game with friends. I have met an ex a bunch of times. We were always compatibly sexually but never had a proper relationship. We were fuck buddies before and have now reverted to that due to my refuser and his gf is farrrrr too vanilla for him. It is suiting us both at the moment. How long for? Who knows. I'm beginning to get frustrated with the short periods of time we can manage. I'm a shit liar too and hate deception so it doesn't really sit that well with me. Yep. It would be a dangerous game. I certainly don't have any friends at the moment where I think this could even happen. I've lived a sheltered life lol. I cound't find an ex if you paid me lol
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