Missingout
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Post by Missingout on Jan 28, 2024 13:13:55 GMT -5
And this is the point i recommend the tease game. Its a borrow from the boys and the BDSM crowd minus the sadism. Learn to build her up to her orgasm but not quite all the way and dont let her orgasm... lol sounds bad but I dont know how else to say it. Be the owner of her new found orgasm. When she is freaking out wanting to let loose, take her with your own body. Teach her slowly how to transfer those sexual feelings to you. So what it takes a toy to get there, that doesn't matter. Ride the wave! 😂🤣😳 this is exactly how it is done boys!!! Surfs up!! |
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Post by csl on Jan 29, 2024 7:54:45 GMT -5
And this is the point i recommend the tease game. Its a borrow from the boys and the BDSM crowd minus the sadism. Learn to build her up to her orgasm but not quite all the way and dont let her orgasm... lol sounds bad but I dont know how else to say it. Be the owner of her new found orgasm. When she is freaking out wanting to let loose, take her with your own body. Teach her slowly how to transfer those sexual feelings to you. So what it takes a toy to get there, that doesn't matter. Ride the wave! I believe this is called "edging". |
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Post by isthisit on Jan 29, 2024 18:07:24 GMT -5
Hi all, My W has never been that keen on using sex toys in our relationship, but she has humoured me and she is willing to try out any new ones I get to see if they do anything for her... Mostly they don't but can be used for back massage etc etc... however we have found one... an orange vibrator, that has quite a low setting, that really is hitting the spot. First time she was not that keen (normal I would say) as I played around her V, and I sensed she would "put up" with me playing around for a while and then ask me to use my fingers.... and then she just said "just there" and tensed up....let out an involuntary gasp and had a hard orgasm... then on Tuesday using the same vibe, just before she came, she uttered some incomprehensible words before submitting to gulping down air and tensing up for a solid few minutes of orgasm.... The unusual thing is that she WhatsApp's me today and said that if she could not sleep she would be coming to me for "sleep assistance with our orange friend" and this is the first time I consider she has made a "pull" request about sex/sexual activity without any nudging, prompting or pre-messaging from me. I consider this to be a step forward, although I will be mindful to make sure I am not being replaced by our super efficient buzzing friend as there is no chance of PIV action after she has come using that... As an FYI she said the orgasm was "intense" and "massive" and not like any she had felt before.... seems new experiences are just their for the taking ( if you are allowed to try..... ) This is great to hear, your patience with your wife is ever so slowly being rewarded and I hope that this is making you happy. Your comment that there is no chance of PIV following a technology assisted orgasm was a surprise though. After hors d’oeuvres I would be up for the main course all day long. And I would not be too happy about not getting it either. It seems unfair that getting your W off prohibits you getting what works for you. I hope you at least get a BJ. |
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Post by mirrororchid on Jan 30, 2024 13:08:36 GMT -5
And this is the point i recommend the tease game. Its a borrow from the boys and the BDSM crowd minus the sadism. Learn to build her up to her orgasm but not quite all the way and don't let her orgasm... lol sounds bad but I don't know how else to say it. Be the owner of her new found orgasm. When she is freaking out wanting to let loose, take her with your own body. Teach her slowly how to transfer those sexual feelings to you. So what it takes a toy to get there, that doesn't matter. Ride the wave! I've been a bit concerned about a lover becoming dependent on the toy. This strikes me as a plausible preventative measure. It makes a lot of sense. Thanks. isthisit 's refutation is good to hear. The one does not preclude the other for everyone. |
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Post by week5of35years on Jan 31, 2024 6:21:43 GMT -5
Hi, all very good points.... we did so again on Sunday just gone and she had numerous orgasms but not as intense as at first and then we did make love PIV straight afterwards, which she suggested/initiated, I was surprised but happy about that... we both came which was really nice... I will certainly have a go at the edging with the aim of going PIV mid vibrations so to speak. I do feel that variety and her adventurousness are improving... I am seeing her become an active participant more frequently and this gives me strong hope for the future around variety and frequency and me not having to initiate for 100% of the time or face the risk that everything stops..... I enclose my tracker (ps. frequency was hit in Jan as I got a virus just after my B day on the 6th and was hit with a "bells Palsy" which has been very, very annoying, but I am glad to say, seems to be now on the mend after blasting me with steroids and antivirals for 10 days)  |
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Post by sweetplumeria on Jan 31, 2024 9:23:54 GMT -5
Sorry you got sick but your chart looks fantastic!!!
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Post by isthisit on Jan 31, 2024 18:54:44 GMT -5
Hi, all very good points.... we did so again on Sunday just gone and she had numerous orgasms but not as intense as at first and then we did make love PIV straight afterwards, which she suggested/initiated, I was surprised but happy about that... we both came which was really nice... I will certainly have a go at the edging with the aim of going PIV mid vibrations so to speak. I do feel that variety and her adventurousness are improving... I am seeing her become an active participant more frequently and this gives me strong hope for the future around variety and frequency and me not having to initiate for 100% of the time or face the risk that everything stops..... I enclose my tracker (ps. frequency was hit in Jan as I got a virus just after my B day on the 6th and was hit with a "bells Palsy" which has been very, very annoying, but I am glad to say, seems to be now on the mend after blasting me with steroids and antivirals for 10 days) Get in there week5of35years ! You’ve fixed your Mrs. I am very happy to declare that, at the moment, my pessimism was unfounded. Let’s see if she can keep it up. Bad luck with the Bell’s palsy. Professional opinion; it is perfectly safe for patients with Bell’s palsy to receive BJ’s. Cheer you up no end, that would. |
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Post by week5of35years on Feb 2, 2024 3:59:39 GMT -5
isthisit you made me laugh... "perfectly safe for patients with Bell’s palsy to receive BJ’s" .... and the rest!!! Thanks for your comments, part of me holds some scepticism still and we will have to see where we go from here...
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