lanie
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Post by lanie on Feb 20, 2022 13:16:04 GMT -5
I’m ready for an extended session for certain. If it were totally up to me I’d incorporate every one of those positions ( and I believe we have in our past sessions) go to sleep, wait for the refractory period to be over and do it all again!
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Post by steve1968 on Feb 20, 2022 18:22:31 GMT -5
Reading through this entire thread gives me (another 'stayer') some glimmer of hope. Thanks for all your candid sharing.
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lanie
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Post by lanie on Feb 21, 2022 10:12:17 GMT -5
Thank you, Steve, for reading it. I’m glad to share my trials and tribulations and success’s here. I’m glad it glad it helps someone.
So, yesterday, even though he wasn’t up for sex, I still got cuddles and kisses and quality time spent togethe, which was also nice to have. Those things were also sorely lacking during what I like to call our “ dark” period.
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Post by rejected101 on Feb 28, 2022 13:30:57 GMT -5
Thank you, Steve, for reading it. I’m glad to share my trials and tribulations and success’s here. I’m glad it glad it helps someone. So, yesterday, even though he wasn’t up for sex, I still got cuddles and kisses and quality time spent togethe, which was also nice to have. Those things were also sorely lacking during what I like to call our “ dark” period. Wow, an actual success story. I truly hope it continues in the same direction for you. Remember there are likely to be lapses on his part and he may need reminding that you count too. |
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Post by baza on Feb 28, 2022 20:08:55 GMT -5
Stories like Sister lanie 's are pretty rare in here. Stories like Brother rejected101 on the other hand are quite common. Of the stories in here telling a tale of bringing the ILIASM shithole to resolution, the method of that resolution is rarely by 'turning the marriage around' But don't take my word for that. Have a look through the postings since this group started (March 2016) and see how many 'turnarounds' you can find. And whilst doing that, see how many ILIASM deals were resolved by the member 'leaving' their ILIASM situation. What you will find is that for every 'turnaround' story you find, there will be at least 30 stories where the method of resolution was 'leaving'. And during your examination of the membership you'll see that far and away the most numerous stories are where the ILIASM deal remains 'unresolved'. If you are going to resolve your ILIASM deal, it is pretty unlikely that the method of resolution will be 'turnaround' It is far more likely - by a factor of about 30 - that the method of resolution will be 'leaving' And the most likely outcome of all is that your ILIASM deal will not be resolved either way but will rather just float along as is, indefinitely. Here's hoping that Sister lanie 's 'turnaround' goes from strength to strength. |
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Post by rejected101 on Mar 1, 2022 17:22:37 GMT -5
Stories like Sister lanie 's are pretty rare in here. Stories like Brother rejected101 on the other hand are quite common. Of the stories in here telling a tale of bringing the ILIASM shithole to resolution, the method of that resolution is rarely by 'turning the marriage around' But don't take my word for that. Have a look through the postings since this group started (March 2016) and see how many 'turnarounds' you can find. And whilst doing that, see how many ILIASM deals were resolved by the member 'leaving' their ILIASM situation. What you will find is that for every 'turnaround' story you find, there will be at least 30 stories where the method of resolution was 'leaving'. And during your examination of the membership you'll see that far and away the most numerous stories are where the ILIASM deal remains 'unresolved'. If you are going to resolve your ILIASM deal, it is pretty unlikely that the method of resolution will be 'turnaround' It is far more likely - by a factor of about 30 - that the method of resolution will be 'leaving' And the most likely outcome of all is that your ILIASM deal will not be resolved either way but will rather just float along as is, indefinitely. Here's hoping that Sister lanie 's 'turnaround' goes from strength to strength. I’d also say that if the turnarounds that have occurred, the percentage of relapse is probably very high and of the leaving the Iliasm, the percentage of people who ultimately regret the decision is exceptionally low. |
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Post by mirrororchid on Mar 8, 2022 6:43:12 GMT -5
...What you will find is that for every 'turnaround' story you find, there will be at least 30 stories where the method of resolution was 'leaving'. And during your examination of the membership you'll see that far and away the most numerous stories are where the ILIASM deal remains 'unresolved'. I'm wondering how many of the "unresolved" posts are situations where the people that visit do not resolve their SM, stop posting here, and split up later and we just don't hear about it. Once out of an SM, many don't find the board relevant anymore. Much love to all the escapees who update us regularly! The turnarounds may abandon us too, so we never find out if they crash and burn later. It's possible a lasting turnaround can create a mindset of "never again". They know sexlessness is fixable and a second round becomes untenable quick enough that they do not return to say that the turnaround ultimately failed. T'would be nice to get updates from everyone who posts then scoots, but... we do what we can with what we got. |
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Post by catlover on Mar 8, 2022 7:55:25 GMT -5
Hi mirrorchid, I'm still here, actively working on setting up an FWB outsourcing arrangement. Texting/messaging through KiK has been going hot and heavy, meeting up next week face to face.
She is also in a sexless marriage, apparently, the husband is not interested in sex. Will be interesting to hear her story in more detail.
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Post by lanie on Mar 25, 2022 16:29:26 GMT -5
Hi everyone!
Still here, still happy with the “ turnaround” results. Honestly, I would prefer the frequency be higher, but it is frequent enough to be entirely reasonable. Maybe I’ve a touch oh nymph ( albeit loyal, lol) .
Retirement is seeing him taking lots of naps. Perhaps he had some catching up to do. It’s been very pleasant , sharing the household chores and my continuing job outside of the home has him helping out even more. Getting along well. All in all, no complaints from me!
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Post by baza on Mar 26, 2022 2:12:33 GMT -5
Well, you seem a lot happier than you did back in September Sister lanie , so that's a big tick in the Win column. |
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Post by catlover on Mar 26, 2022 7:58:07 GMT -5
Hi mirrorchid, I'm still here, actively working on setting up an FWB outsourcing arrangement. Texting/messaging through KiK has been going hot and heavy, meeting up next week face to face. She is also in a sexless marriage, apparently, the husband is not interested in sex. Will be interesting to hear her story in more detail. Got to meet up with the new lady yesterday, all went swimmingly well and now to plan our first liaison where flesh can hopefully meet flesh in a resoundingly pleasant fashion. :-) Also working on making new friends and meeting people. Accepted as a full member of the Legion in my small town yesterday, will be nice to hang out with like minded folks. (bunch of old farts like me HaHa) |
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Post by lanie on Apr 7, 2022 17:01:15 GMT -5
I’m pleased to be able to say we went to an out of town concert, stayed in a hotel and he I itited I. The AM. It’s nice to not always be the one who I Oates!  Loving this phase of our marriage. Things are just better in so many different aspects! |
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Post by mirrororchid on Apr 8, 2022 4:58:23 GMT -5
I’m pleased to be able to say we went to an out of town concert, stayed in a hotel, and he initiated in the AM. It’s nice to not always be the one who initiates!  Loving this phase of our marriage. Things are just better in so many different aspects! Thanks for the glimpses of Oppositeland, Lanie. Good on Mr. Lanie. I tampered with the quote. Hope I got it right. |
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Post by lanie on Apr 8, 2022 20:54:03 GMT -5
Oh my gosh Mirrorchild, you got it right. Thanks for making the corrections that I missed.
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Post by lanie on Apr 25, 2022 7:13:52 GMT -5
Just a quick update…things are still well in Lanies world. He initiated again over the weekend. I’m keeping track of the “ how often” we make love, so as to not go backwards to that bleak dark period when it was absent. I’ve noticed that everything seems much smoother now…it expands into all of our interactions. I sure do want to keep it this way!
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