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In many of her entries she gives the bad news to men that once a week is plenty for an older woman in menopause.
She also explains that low / no libido women can appreciate physical intimacy if they make conscious decisions to engage with tools like scheduled sex. 

Men who get all whiny about once a week probably aren't regulars at ILIASM.org


I added an edit.
It's what I get for listening halfway and commenting. Lesson learned.

She explains for "pre-occupied" spouses, romantic gestures aren't going to help. If anything, such anxious husbands are already very engaged with their wives and perhaps have gone overboard into harassment, especially if the wife is avoidant.

So she explains that it is the avoidant husbands who'll benefit most from deliberately choosing to be romantic and they may find they enjoy it, once it is under way.
This may have some grain of truth if expense and ambiance at the cost of actual quality cuisine have annoyed him in the past. Then again, romance, to my mind is knowing what your partner will enjoy and that may be expensive and/or pretentiousness. In such cases, you have to engage practicality by recognizing a few nights of pointless profligacy is cheaper and potentially more effective than twice as many frugal endeavors. Practical romance is so...sterile. But then again, scheduled sex is unsexy, so... "Responsive" romance and sex are both shadows of "the real thing", but half a loaf, am I right?