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Post by Carol on Jul 2, 2018 23:59:03 GMT -5
I have a question for the men out there. If someone that you dealt with on a professional level but flirted with came back to you and told you that they had feelings for you long afterwards the last time you talked to each other would you be flattered or think the woman was kind of a psycho? Looking for honest answers here!
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 3, 2018 0:18:12 GMT -5
Carol, that’d be a really fast start off the line. If much time had passed, some other dynamics might be at play, like a new interest. I would say the door is wide open to make an invitation for coffee, test the waters, get a feel for the chemistry, then open the kimono (so to speak...)
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Post by baza on Jul 3, 2018 0:31:29 GMT -5
At one point, I was doing some consultancy work for this Company and had a lot of inter-action with this particular chick. This included some flirting that she generated (and I went along with). I thought her sexy, but a bit nuts. Anyway, a couple of months after that consultancy gig finished she rang me up and asked me out for lunch. Sensing a potential few more buck$ might be available from her employer I accepted, thinking this was a 'business' matter. I was mistaken. Cut to the chase Sister Carol , I was both 'flattered' AND 'thought she was psycho'. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 3, 2018 6:36:34 GMT -5
I would be flattered. Would i think she is psycho? No I wouldn't. Especially now, after a divorce and a SM. I am much more aware,that there are many reasons why someone could show feelings for you again from a long time ago.
It would be a great opportunity to stick your foot in the water.
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Post by elkclan2 on Jul 3, 2018 7:14:58 GMT -5
why not set up a professional lunch or coffee it's possible to do that and then see if the flirting is still there and the interest is still there?
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 3, 2018 15:40:43 GMT -5
Carol, the answer is I would be flattered. Unless she was a pyscho before. Honestly I find flirting fun even if there is no chance of progression. If you do contact him what is the worst that can happen? He says NO but you and I and everyone here are experts at processing that reply.
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Post by ihadalove on Jul 3, 2018 19:51:54 GMT -5
Flattered, definitely.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2018 19:54:57 GMT -5
Add me to the "flattered" category, Carol. |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 3, 2018 20:09:52 GMT -5
Fortune favors the bold!
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Post by ted on Jul 4, 2018 19:04:39 GMT -5
Even if I didn't want to pursue things with you, I would be flattered that you gave me the opportunity. I'm with bballgirl : be bold! You have nothing to lose. Now, if only I could apply my own advice.  |
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Post by petrushka on Jul 5, 2018 7:29:30 GMT -5
I haven't heard of the "Me Three" movement being started up yet (that being the one of men complaining about being hit on by women). Yes, I know, a bit tongue in cheek. But still. I've been hit on many times when I was still young and pretty ... and I never felt agrieved or molested. If I didn't want anything to do with her (or considered her a bit of a psycho) it was a friendly smile and a 'thanks, but no thanks' from me - as well as a feeling of surprised pleasure that someone would want me. In fact, I've always managed to turn down advances without wrecking the relationship. Guess I am lucky I never had a female psycho stalker.
And if I was open to it, well, you can figure that out for yourself.
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Post by JMX on Jul 5, 2018 22:54:20 GMT -5
I haven't heard of the "Me Three" movement being started up yet (that being the one of men complaining about being hit on by women). Yes, I know, a bit tongue in cheek. But still. I've been hit on many times when I was still young and pretty ... and I never felt agrieved or molested. If I didn't want anything to do with her (or considered her a bit of a psycho) it was a friendly smile and a 'thanks, but no thanks' from me - as well as a feeling of surprised pleasure that someone would want me. In fact, I've always managed to turn down advances without wrecking the relationship. Guess I am lucky I never had a female psycho stalker.
And if I was open to it, well, you can figure that out for yourself.
It’s interesting you brought this up in this particular way because it immediately triggered in me - In this current climate - were I a man - I would never allow even a casual encounter at work that might be open to even a glimmer of impropriety. |
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Post by petrushka on Jul 6, 2018 0:09:18 GMT -5
I haven't heard of the "Me Three" movement being started up yet (that being the one of men complaining about being hit on by women). Yes, I know, a bit tongue in cheek. But still. I've been hit on many times when I was still young and pretty ... and I never felt agrieved or molested. If I didn't want anything to do with her (or considered her a bit of a psycho) it was a friendly smile and a 'thanks, but no thanks' from me - as well as a feeling of surprised pleasure that someone would want me. In fact, I've always managed to turn down advances without wrecking the relationship. Guess I am lucky I never had a female psycho stalker.
And if I was open to it, well, you can figure that out for yourself.
It’s interesting you brought this up in this particular way because it immediately triggered in me - In this current climate - were I a man - I would never allow even a casual encounter at work that might be open to even a glimmer of impropriety.
Yes, in my life currently: total moratorium. I just won't go there. I had thoughts of going part time language teaching in my retirement, and I am even reconsidering that. All it takes is one person with a grudge and an agenda ... 200,000 dollars of legal fees later you can consider yourself lucky not to be in the jug. We just in the last few months had that happen to a couple of teachers. That is, they got vindicated in the last few months, the process had taken a year or two. Of course, career and life ruined.
The new Age of Puritanism is here. Of course, there are many women who disagree with the current climate, as you call it. I know that. But strangers, I don't think I'll be ever as trusting again with un-known women as I used to be.
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Post by JMX on Jul 6, 2018 0:15:31 GMT -5
It’s sad, really. Don’t get me wrong - some stories are chilling. However, this reduces the work-place boinking pool to douchebags and dumbasses. Unintended consequences for a place most sexually active people spend the majority of their waking hours. Oy Vey.
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Post by solodriver on Jul 6, 2018 0:43:57 GMT -5
Very flattered, but very careful
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