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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 23:07:37 GMT -5
That's when I'd try to "cop a feel" off her - and get told, "leave me alone". I would get the three pats, which was his signal that he was done. Three pats? This is called "Tapping Out". He's giving up. You won and didn't leave it in the judges' hands. |
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 8, 2016 0:10:21 GMT -5
ok, so my turn to chime in I guess.
During a rejection early on, "we are
married now, we have the rest of our lives
to do it, you can wait"
My thoughts: a) yes, but now is good for me
too.
B) its not a bank, it doesnt gain interest.
Later on(years), during an argument about it I was
told to "jerk off in the shower"
or even another argument later(years)
"go fuck someone else"
In retrospect, should have took her up on that one.
And later finding out through experience,
holidays and birthdays mean nothing.
Nor does the thought of hotel sex on vacation.
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 8, 2016 1:19:01 GMT -5
A devastating statement while in the middle of intercourse..... "Do you think it will rain today?"
If that doesn't kill the moment, I don't know what does.
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 8, 2016 1:50:30 GMT -5
A devastating statement while in the middle of intercourse..... "Do you think it will rain today?" If that doesn't kill the moment, I don't know what does. Sadly, the only thought that comes to mind is to make some thunder noise, pull it out, spray it on her and say "yup" |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 16:09:53 GMT -5
ok, so my turn to chime in I guess. During a rejection early on, "we are married now, we have the rest of our lives to do it, you can wait" My thoughts: a) yes, but now is good for me too. B) its not a bank, it doesnt gain interest. Later on(years), during an argument about it I was told to "jerk off in the shower" or even another argument later(years) "go fuck someone else" In retrospect, should have took her up on that one. And later finding out through experience, holidays and birthdays mean nothing. Nor does the thought of hotel sex on vacation. Damn. Who doesn't like hotel sex?? My refuser was the same way, though...except he didn't want me to find another man. |
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 8, 2016 18:19:54 GMT -5
ok, so my turn to chime in I guess. During a rejection early on, "we are married now, we have the rest of our lives to do it, you can wait" My thoughts: a) yes, but now is good for me too. B) its not a bank, it doesnt gain interest. Later on(years), during an argument about it I was told to "jerk off in the shower" or even another argument later(years) "go fuck someone else" In retrospect, should have took her up on that one. And later finding out through experience, holidays and birthdays mean nothing. Nor does the thought of hotel sex on vacation. I no longer try to plan any kind of travel with her. There is NOTHING worse than being shoved up in a hotel room with your refuser. I could manage it all when the kids were still with us, but now that it's empty nest, I am NOT staying in a hotel room with this woman ever again. In fact, the thought that now this is killing my interest in traveling (and I do love my traveling) is REALLY pushing me hard to blow this thing wide open and be gone. I have lost ALL interest in my interests over the years.......I just can't find the peace needed to enjoy any of them anymore. This is so bad, it's no longer on her, or 'her fault'.......this is now squarely on me. My life is MY responsibility. So..........see ya later! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 18:41:49 GMT -5
ok, so my turn to chime in I guess. During a rejection early on, "we are married now, we have the rest of our lives to do it, you can wait" My thoughts: a) yes, but now is good for me too. B) its not a bank, it doesnt gain interest. Later on(years), during an argument about it I was told to "jerk off in the shower" or even another argument later(years) "go fuck someone else" In retrospect, should have took her up on that one. And later finding out through experience, holidays and birthdays mean nothing. Nor does the thought of hotel sex on vacation. Damn. Who doesn't like hotel sex?? My refuser was the same way, though...except he didn't want me to find another man. I'm betting 90% of those "Go Fuck someone else!" statements are pathetic attempts to appear cold and calloused toward the refused spouse. My wife once said that, but then three weeks later threatened me with the old "I'll Ruin Your LIFE!" thing if she ever caught me cheating on her. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 19:26:15 GMT -5
Damn. Who doesn't like hotel sex?? My refuser was the same way, though...except he didn't want me to find another man. I'm betting 90% of those "Go Fuck someone else!" statements are pathetic attempts to appear cold and calloused toward the refused spouse. My wife once said that, but then three weeks later threatened me with the old "I'll Ruin Your LIFE!" thing if she ever caught me cheating on her. I so don't understand that part of refusers. If they don't want sex with us why do they care if we get it elsewhere. I' m guessing control issues, fear of someone they know finding out and/or fear the refused will leave and quit fulfulling THEIR needs (for money or housework or a whipping boy/girl or whatever). Mine claimed he wanted to be the one fulfilling that part of my life. While many things between us have improved since I moved out, that has, unsurprisingly, not changed. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 19:37:22 GMT -5
I'm betting 90% of those "Go Fuck someone else!" statements are pathetic attempts to appear cold and calloused toward the refused spouse. My wife once said that, but then three weeks later threatened me with the old "I'll Ruin Your LIFE!" thing if she ever caught me cheating on her. I so don't understand that part of refusers. If they don't want sex with us why do they care if we get it elsewhere. I' m guessing control issues, fear of someone they know finding out and/or fear the refused will leave and quit fulfulling THEIR needs (for money or housework or a whipping boy/girl or whatever). Mine claimed he wanted to be the one fulfilling that part of my life. While many things between us have improved since I moved out, that has, unsurprisingly, not changed. I'm sure you're right. Particularly with refusing wives. The thought of the breadwinner out googlie eyed and bonerfied over another chick has to be terrifying if she's not providing any other benefit. My wife, if asked what she provides for me, will provide a litany of great things she provides (taking care of the kids, cooking yummy food, cleaning my clothes and house, paying the bills, etc.). But I'm pretty sure she understands that ALL of it except for the kids part can be bought or I can do it myself. Once many years ago -- maybe 10 or more -- I was traveling on a project and spending a lot of time away. I guess she had been talking with some of her friends, and she had become insecure that I might meet someone while living away for 2-3 weeks at a time. So she called me and wanted me to reassure her. That was weird. |
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 8, 2016 20:06:24 GMT -5
Damn. Who doesn't like hotel sex?? My refuser was the same way, though...except he didn't want me to find another man. I'm betting 90% of those "Go Fuck someone else!" statements are pathetic attempts to appear cold and calloused toward the refused spouse. My wife once said that, but then three weeks later threatened me with the old "I'll Ruin Your LIFE!" thing if she ever caught me cheating on her. A) @kat Right!! I know, hotel sex is awesome...from what I remember of my days when stuff like that happened. B) @creel Yup. thats about right, she was pissed because I was pushing for what I wanted. Followed by several discussions later about how I better not be cheating, and some discussions about how i should wear more/different clothes when I take the dog out for a quick piss in the morning or at night. Awful damned protective of some shit she dont use, I must say. |
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 8, 2016 20:08:30 GMT -5
ok, so my turn to chime in I guess. During a rejection early on, "we are married now, we have the rest of our lives to do it, you can wait" My thoughts: a) yes, but now is good for me too. B) its not a bank, it doesnt gain interest. Later on(years), during an argument about it I was told to "jerk off in the shower" or even another argument later(years) "go fuck someone else" In retrospect, should have took her up on that one. And later finding out through experience, holidays and birthdays mean nothing. Nor does the thought of hotel sex on vacation. I no longer try to plan any kind of travel with her. There is NOTHING worse than being shoved up in a hotel room with your refuser. I could manage it all when the kids were still with us, but now that it's empty nest, I am NOT staying in a hotel room with this woman ever again. In fact, the thought that now this is killing my interest in traveling (and I do love my traveling) is REALLY pushing me hard to blow this thing wide open and be gone. I have lost ALL interest in my interests over the years.......I just can't find the peace needed to enjoy any of them anymore. This is so bad, it's no longer on her, or 'her fault'.......this is now squarely on me. My life is MY responsibility. So..........see ya later! Bumble, Amen on this one. I would love to travel to some great places, but getting there and not getting enjoy travel sex, yeah, never mind. I will stay home. |
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 8, 2016 20:17:06 GMT -5
wdftbc, sex (for most of us) truly is the spice of life. It makes EVERYTHING better. Imagine traveling to someplace like Tuscany, or Hawaii, or Rio............and KNOWING you will not have any intimacy at all from your spouse. That's a fucking strait-jacket maker right there.
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 8, 2016 21:15:42 GMT -5
wdftbc, sex (for most of us) truly is the spice of life. It makes EVERYTHING better. Imagine traveling to someplace like Tuscany, or Hawaii, or Rio............and KNOWING you will not have any intimacy at all from your spouse. That's a fucking strait-jacket maker right there. Damn right it is, sex is the effin cherry on top. I dont even want to travel two towns over knowing there will be no nookie, let alone to an actual exotic location, especially where there might be a beach, and women in bikinis, and alcohol. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 21:31:59 GMT -5
Well, I love to travel. But if there isn't going to be any sex, then I don't want to travel with my man at all. In that case, I'll go alone or with friends and just consider it a non-sexual adventure.
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 8, 2016 21:39:20 GMT -5
Well, I love to travel. But if there isn't going to be any sex, then I don't want to travel with my man at all. In that case, I'll go alone or with friends and just consider it a non-sexual adventure. kat..........there is no such thing as a non-sexual adventure.  |
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