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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 30, 2016 10:05:18 GMT -5
No. He's watching documentaries and Russian car crashes on YouTube. Seriously. I kid you not. I can compete with porn but Russian car crashes? I apologize for making light of a dismal situation, but I usually will find humor in almost anything, and so have you. We have read countless stories of partners being lost to internet porn. You can now start your own site or forum on the car crashes. Russian, Mexican, Australian. Not many members from Greenland. Sometimes my humor is misunderstood. I'm pleased you saw it. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 30, 2016 10:12:54 GMT -5
When I was 21, I had a one year old son and had just had twin girls. He said "You're old and loose now. What happened to the tight teenager I married". Fun. Loose at 21. No, he's old and can't get it up without a blowjob now. We had a rather infuriating thread on EP not long ago about men who can't maintain an erection anymore and blame it on their wife's "loose" vagina. Maybe it's loose because his limp dick isn't stretching it. That's it! That's why we don't have sex any more! It's because I decided that since he won't go down on me, why the hell should I do it for him. Now there seems to be an impasse. The refused is now the refuser and I'm the stubborn one. |
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Post by wewbwb on Mar 30, 2016 12:03:49 GMT -5
Sounds good to me Deedle!
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 30, 2016 12:39:51 GMT -5
I remember one of my favorites: " I don't know when I will be ready!", " it would just be duty sex"
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 30, 2016 15:20:57 GMT -5
That's when I'd try to "cop a feel" off her - and get told, "leave me alone".
I would get the three pats, which was his signal that he was done.
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Post by sand5280 on Mar 30, 2016 15:24:13 GMT -5
22 years ago on my honeymoon I was told, "no one has sex on their wedding day" - ok- doesn't explain the last 5 years though.... Why not on the wedding day? Or Memorial Day? Or Flag Day? September 3 (it only comes once a year)? Washington's Birthday? |
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Post by wewbwb on Mar 30, 2016 15:32:12 GMT -5
22 years ago on my honeymoon I was told, "no one has sex on their wedding day" - ok- doesn't explain the last 5 years though.... Why not on the wedding day? Or Memorial Day? Or Flag Day? September 3 (it only comes once a year)? Washington's Birthday? You're asking the wrong partner. I'm just as curious. I'm beginning to think it's a Centennial type of thing. |
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Post by wewbwb on Mar 30, 2016 15:39:19 GMT -5
That's when I'd try to "cop a feel" off her - and get told, "leave me alone". I would get the three pats, which was his signal that he was done. From start to finish? Three pats? I'm sorry. (Actually upon reflection - it's been so long I may only last three pats.  ) |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2016 15:57:27 GMT -5
I know this may sound benign compared to many of the other reply's posted, but it broke my heart and my will. "Im just not attracted to you" - "Nothing you can do will change that, your not to fat, or too skinney or too brunnet or to blond, not what you wear or dont wear, Im just not attracted to you. So you cant fix it" I know he ment well, but there is/was nothing I could do to fix our issue, the loss of hope was the worst. Don't let him try to take it back when you leave him. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 30, 2016 16:29:55 GMT -5
LOL. I get the three pats if I hug him too long or press myself against him or if I'm feeling really perverse I lay down on top of him.
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Post by jim44444 on Mar 30, 2016 17:41:52 GMT -5
Deedle,
Maybe when he said "You need to give me some down time." you could have suggested he take his down time 'down there'. A win-win.
Sadly your H clueless in the art of romance.
Oh wait, this is not RelatetoThat, I can express myself freely.
He is a FUCKING ASSHOLE NONFUCKING ASSHOLE.
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Post by darktippedrose on Mar 30, 2016 18:09:44 GMT -5
No, he's old and can't get it up without a blowjob now. We had a rather infuriating thread on EP not long ago about men who can't maintain an erection anymore and blame it on their wife's "loose" vagina. Maybe it's loose because his limp dick isn't stretching it. That's it! That's why we don't have sex any more! It's because I decided that since he won't go down on me, why the hell should I do it for him. Now there seems to be an impasse. The refused is now the refuser and I'm the stubborn one. I think thats counter-refusal. counter-refusal is a form of self-preservation. It protects you. You know when your refuser offers you sex, its reset-sex. Sex just to get you off their back, or just to get you think things might change and they get too keep the life style they want. They want the benefits of marriage without being married. Counter-refusal is a normal response to protect yourself from harm. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 30, 2016 18:59:31 GMT -5
Deedle, Maybe when he said "You need to give me some down time." you could have suggested he take his down time 'down there'. A win-win. Sadly your H clueless in the art of romance. Oh wait, this is not RelatetoThat, I can express myself freely. He is a FUCKING ASSHOLE NONFUCKING ASSHOLE.Ya know what is effing crazy! In every way except sex he is the perfect husband. He is everything a woman could want as long as she doesn't want sex. |
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Post by unmatched on Mar 30, 2016 19:54:03 GMT -5
Deedle, Maybe when he said "You need to give me some down time." you could have suggested he take his down time 'down there'. A win-win. Sadly your H clueless in the art of romance. Oh wait, this is not RelatetoThat, I can express myself freely. He is a FUCKING ASSHOLE NONFUCKING ASSHOLE.Ya know what is effing crazy! In every way except sex he is the perfect husband. He is everything a woman could want as long as she doesn't want sex. That's like a mechanic with a beautiful air-conditioned waiting room, friendly helpful receptionists, free coffee and cookies and an on-site masseur, but they won't actually fix your car. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 23:03:24 GMT -5
My wife is very thin, all her siblings are thin.......I am built like a linebacker. I lift weights, a lot. I'm just a big guy. But I have heard things like, "I'm not attracted to your body, you need to lose weight", or "I can't be like those wives on The Biggest Loser who seem not to mind," (I am not even remotely like any BL contestant)....."Your body is a wonderland......but not in a good way," and then giggled...............Holy Fucking Shit. And besides my BODY, she has criticized me about so many other things just about who I am and how I do things (which are NORMAL). She once said, "Hey, let's get some beers and go to the park, get outside for awhile." This was when the sexless stuff was just beginning......I was kinda excited because I thought, 'oh, she wants to spend time with me!'.... ....but we get to the park, find a table, and she starts listing out all these criticisms of me......very calmly......just 'i don't like this, this, this, this, this, this, this, or this', basically. And that was our outing. Of course I was a SM newbie back then, holding out hope, giving up control, just being a pussy. I have grown out of that and I won't be putting up with this shit much longer....like a week or so. I'm out. NO ONE should be subjected to such insults and criticisms, especially from the ONE YOU CHOSE TO MARRY!! So you get the talks too. I'm not thin. Far from it. 5'8" and 150# I am about five pounds over what I want to be. But it suits me. To show how much I've changed, I've started asking if it's going to be an "Everything that's wrong with Dee" talk because I don't want to hear it. If I change and become the way he wants me to be, I would no longer be me. I've told him he should have married that cute little contracts specialist that was in love with him. He says she was boring. That's what he wants, right? He says he just wants less chaos. Baby, I am chaos. How much less of me do you want? Dee, 5'8" and 150 lbs sounds about textbook for a fit woman. I'd say you're pretty close to thin. |
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