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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 27, 2016 16:47:47 GMT -5
On our honeymoon, "We don't have to have sex every day." "Don't kiss me with your mouth open." "Keep your tongue in your mouth."
After sex, "I see the allure of plump women. It would be better for me if you had some padding."
While attempting a discussion about my desire for oral sex and foreplay, "I know what you want and it will never happen."
Wanting to discuss some sexual issues, "Why do you always spring things like this on me? This isn't the right time." When is the right time?
The explanations:
"I really need some down time, work is very hectic."
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"I just can't change gears and shut my mind down. I need down time."
Or
"Not until I lose some weight. I feel too fat now. I can't lose weight until I get some down time."
Or
"I really don't need needy people pulling at me all the time. You need to give me some down time."
"I have a very small window in which I can fall asleep and that's right when I get in bed."
"You ripped me out of REM now I'll never get back to sleep."
"You're like a 17 year old boy. I'll be happy when you get past all this and settle down."
"You're just too big for me. I can't feel anything."
"I don't think I have any regrets in our marriage." What marriage?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 18:38:29 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I have heard comments like that for 28 years. On my honeymoon, my wife said she did not not see why sex was supposed to be part of the honeymoon
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Post by darktippedrose on Mar 27, 2016 18:45:22 GMT -5
When I was 21, I had a one year old son and had just had twin girls. He said "You're old and loose now. What happened to the tight teenager I married".
Fun. Loose at 21.
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Post by TheBumble on Mar 27, 2016 19:55:40 GMT -5
Eight years ago.......beginning of the end.......... "If you want sex, you can see a prostitute." Haunts me every day.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 19:59:00 GMT -5
When I was 21, I had a one year old son and had just had twin girls. He said "You're old and loose now. What happened to the tight teenager I married". Fun. Loose at 21. Ugh, he sounds like the absolute worst! Like the kind of man who would start a cult, sleep with all the girls and women in it, and then kill everyone. |
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Post by Dan on Mar 27, 2016 20:22:37 GMT -5
On our honeymoon, "We don't have to have sex every day." "Don't kiss me with your mouth open." "Keep your tongue in your mouth." Egads, Dee. So sorry. At least I had a few "normal" years. The worst thing I can report from the honeymoon is this: against my advice, she got her hair permed two weeks before the wedding... "It's just going to be a body wave," she told me. But the stylist TOTALLY botched the job. It was so tight, it looked as though they had used knitting needles instead of rollers. While she looked fine at the wedding (with an ENORMOUS amount of "damage control"), the "bad perm" stayed with us for months to come. On the honeymoon, her silky hair was still badly damaged -- it felt kind of "crispy". And the hot/humid air made it frizz out badly; in most of our honeymoon snapshots, her hair looks like that of Bozo the clown! |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 27, 2016 21:10:21 GMT -5
I'm so sorry I'm laughing! My mom would give me perms because my hair was so fine and thin and needed "body".
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 21:25:27 GMT -5
Oh, damn. Some of the things they say are just childish and stupid. ("Now isn't a good time," when it's *never* a good time.)
Other things are just plain cruel. Remarks about people being too big or too small, etc....that is heartbreaking.
My guy once said he didn't like the way I smelled. After that I was always scrupulously careful to wash well ahead of time.
It didn't change anything.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 21:39:46 GMT -5
Oh, damn. Some of the things they say are just childish and stupid. ("Now isn't a good time," when it's *never* a good time.) Other things are just plain cruel. Remarks about people being too big or too small, etc....that is heartbreaking. My guy once said he didn't like the way I smelled. After that I was always scrupulously careful to wash well ahead of time. It didn't change anything. Do you mean he said he didn't like the way your pussy smelled? That is really insulting. I cannot imagine insulting a woman so intimately. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 21:41:56 GMT -5
Oh, damn. Some of the things they say are just childish and stupid. ("Now isn't a good time," when it's *never* a good time.) Other things are just plain cruel. Remarks about people being too big or too small, etc....that is heartbreaking. My guy once said he didn't like the way I smelled. After that I was always scrupulously careful to wash well ahead of time. It didn't change anything. I have a zero tolerance policy for dumb remarks. Don't like some feature of my body, well that's ok because something about yours has been bugging me too. Don't like my bodytype? No problem, hasta la vista, I know how to find someone(s) who does like it. Being separated and no longer trapped is wonderful. I feel more alive fhan I have in years. I also feel like I'm working without a net alot of days. But it feels great not to be made to feel less than because of one man's opinions. I am me, take me or leave me, I know someone who I match with is out there and I will look until I find him, I'm not settling for less than acceptance. If I die before the search reaches a positive ending, I will have enjoyed every step of the journey. |
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Post by Dan on Mar 27, 2016 21:54:52 GMT -5
Being separated and no longer trapped is wonderful. I feel more alive than I have in years. I also feel like I'm working without a net alot of days. But it feels great not to be made to feel less than because of one man's opinions. I am me, take me or leave me, I know someone who I match with is out there and I will look until I find him, I'm not settling for less than acceptance. If I die before the search reaches a positive ending, I will have enjoyed every step of the journey. Wow! Helen! Do you know what that sounds like to me? That sounds like something called "healing".
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 27, 2016 22:57:59 GMT -5
Oh, damn. Some of the things they say are just childish and stupid. ("Now isn't a good time," when it's *never* a good time.) Other things are just plain cruel. Remarks about people being too big or too small, etc....that is heartbreaking. My guy once said he didn't like the way I smelled. After that I was always scrupulously careful to wash well ahead of time. It didn't change anything. I have a zero tolerance policy for dumb remarks. Don't like some feature of my body, well that's ok because something about yours has been bugging me too. Don't like my bodytype? No problem, hasta la vista, I know how to find someone(s) who does like it. Being separated and no longer trapped is wonderful. I feel more alive fhan I have in years. I also feel like I'm working without a net alot of days. But it feels great not to be made to feel less than because of one man's opinions. I am me, take me or leave me, I know someone who I match with is out there and I will look until I find him, I'm not settling for less than acceptance. If I die before the search reaches a positive ending, I will have enjoyed every step of the journey. Yay for you Helen! You have come a long way in the past year! It's good to see. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 23:10:02 GMT -5
Devastating is right. That's totally demoralizing. It's cruel and callous. What is wrong with these people? Don't they understand how hurtful these words are? Surely we all haven't married cold hearted narcissists. I'm so sorry.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 27, 2016 23:10:40 GMT -5
On our honeymoon, "We don't have to have sex every day." "Don't kiss me with your mouth open." "Keep your tongue in your mouth." After sex, "I see the allure of plump women. It would be better for me if you had some padding." While attempting a discussion about my desire for oral sex and foreplay, "I know what you want and it will never happen." Wanting to discuss some sexual issues, "Why do you always spring things like this on me? This isn't the right time." When is the right time? The explanations: "I really need some down time, work is very hectic." Or "I just can't change gears and shut my mind down. I need down time." Or "Not until I lose some weight. I feel too fat now. I can't lose weight until I get some down time." Or "I really don't need needy people pulling at me all the time. You need to give me some down time." "I have a very small window in which I can fall asleep and that's right when I get in bed." "You ripped me out of REM now I'll never get back to sleep." "You're like a 17 year old boy. I'll be happy when you get past all this and settle down." "You're just too big for me. I can't feel anything." "I don't think I have any regrets in our marriage." What marriage? He says I'm too sensitive and I hang onto things too long. I need to get over it. |
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Post by DryCreek on Mar 28, 2016 1:03:30 GMT -5
He says I'm too sensitive and I hang onto things too long. I need to get over it. Oh, like this marriage that you've been hanging onto? He should think twice before suggesting a mantra of "let go and get over it"... |
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