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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 24, 2017 12:02:07 GMT -5
I just saw this on fakebook. To me it looks like all the makings of a SM. It will be interesting to see what kind of response it gets. Half way through it I was thinking, "and what actions are you taking to make it any better? A few flowery words, and that's it?" www.parent.co/dear-husband-im-not-the-person-you-married/ |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 24, 2017 12:10:16 GMT -5
Agreed, I wouldn't want to be the husband and read that.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2017 13:11:21 GMT -5
I was thinking of this as a reply...
Thank you for being honest. I am sorry that you have made the decision that our relationship is no longer a priority to you. I would be happy to help you with your responsibilities, and figure out how to prioritize them. I believe that together, we can make things better.
However, if you choose to continue to say that this is all I get from you, I understand. I will be taking care of all of my own needs from now on. I will continue with my career, work hard, and provide for you and the boys. I will help you with housework and all other duties.
Since I am nothing to you but a sperm donor and a paycheck, I will stop bothering you with any of my needs. I get three weeks of vacation per year. I will be taking the boys on a vacation one week, and spend another week on vacation by myself, and I will take off a third week to keep the boys while you vacation by yourself. If you want to take them on another vacation, please feel free.
I think it is tragic that you are not able to save any positive aspects of yourself for me, the person you promised to love and cherish forever. But you are free to make that choice. However, you must realize that there are women who do all that you do in addition to working full time and have no husband at all.
So I will be looking elsewhere to have my sexual needs met so you will not be further burdened. I am sorry that you have forced me into this choice. By the way, you may want to acquire some job skills, because as soon as our youngest child leaves for college, I will be right behind him.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Mar 24, 2017 13:20:52 GMT -5
I just saw this on fakebook. To me it looks like all the makings of a SM. It will be interesting to see what kind of response it gets. Half way through it I was thinking, "and what actions are you taking to make it any better? A few flowery words, and that's it?" www.parent.co/dear-husband-im-not-the-person-you-married/Yep. I sniff an SM in the making there too! Ugh. |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 24, 2017 13:38:44 GMT -5
Oh Lord I want to reply to that so bad.
I am a mom, I work, raise my little and go to college. When I go to bed at night and worry about everything I didn't do, I make a list. Don't just keep rattling that crap around in your head, write it down, use an app, don't worry that you will forgot about it tomorrow, again. When your mind is clear of the "oh I forgot" and "I need to" you can be you again. When that woman isn't a full time mom anymore she is going to zero sense of self.
When you aren't thinking about minute stupid things all the time it will allow you to see the things your missing. Like how strong his arms are when he picks you up, or how he has the faintest new smile line forming on his face, or that he took the extra time even when tired to congratulate your children for their little accomplishments. That is the beauty of really enjoying your husband and she is really missing out.
Sorry for the sappy.
All aboard the angry roommate train... Choo choo
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Post by lyn on Mar 24, 2017 13:44:34 GMT -5
Jesus, just have sex with him, whiney little twat.
These "articles" bolster the already incessant stereotype that men are the sex maniacs and women the frigid b*tches.
These "articles" seemingly erase the women, like the glorious women of iliasm, with NORMAL sex drives. We just don't exist. Where are we?
Gender-biased bullshit really gets me going - and no NOT in a good way. It's just the societal norm unfortunately.
K, putting my homogenized mask back on.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2017 14:26:11 GMT -5
Jesus, just have sex with him, whiney little twat. These "articles" bolster the already incessant stereotype that men are the sex maniacs and women the frigid b*tches. These "articles" seemingly erase the women, like the glorious women of iliasm, with NORMAL sex drives. We just don't exist. Where are we? Gender-biased bullshit really gets me going - and no NOT in a good way. It's just the societal norm unfortunately. K, putting my homogenized mask back on. This is something that really burns me up. So many people assign the low libido stereotype to all women, when I know that it is nowhere near as true as I have been led to believe. Frankly, I think the wonderful ladies here are the normal ones, and the frigid bitches are the exceptions! Sorry for the rude phrase, but I hate that society thinks normal women just endure sex for horny men. |
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Post by solodriver on Mar 24, 2017 14:42:08 GMT -5
"Frankly, I think the wonderful ladies here are the normal ones..." AMEN FLASHJOHN!!!!!!!!!  |
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 24, 2017 14:43:39 GMT -5
So, so many of us could have a field day tearing this apart ,line by line! Those of us who are aware of what we endure.
What's sad is how many other people will see this article, accept it, relate to it, agree with it, and continue down their destructive path, because they have more verification that their selfish controlling ways are justified.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 24, 2017 15:24:08 GMT -5
Jesus, just have sex with him, whiney little twat. These "articles" bolster the already incessant stereotype that men are the sex maniacs and women the frigid b*tches. These "articles" seemingly erase the women, like the glorious women of iliasm, with NORMAL sex drives. We just don't exist. Where are we? Gender-biased bullshit really gets me going - and no NOT in a good way. It's just the societal norm unfortunately. K, putting my homogenized mask back on. I was talking about this with someone recently. Until as recently as a few months ago, I honest to God had no idea that a SM existed where the husband had the low libido. I've said it before that I think that the ladies have it tougher than the men in this situation. At least we can read about the cold fish in this article and say "typical", the idea of a woman with a normal sex drive being trapped in a sexless marriage (other than for medical reasons, of course), simply doesn't cross most people's minds. Society really does a mind fuck on us sometimes, doesn't it? |
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Post by Copernicus on Mar 24, 2017 15:36:51 GMT -5
"Just have sex with him, whiney little twat..." That has got to be the best one-liner I've seen/heard for a long time - I love it! Brilliant post Lyn, absolutely spot on. |
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Post by Apocrypha on Mar 24, 2017 15:58:16 GMT -5
Isn't he in the same marriage that she's in?
The narcissism in gender-based advice is consistent, at least.
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 24, 2017 16:24:46 GMT -5
Okay, read a few more articles on that site. I don't mean to parent shame, but a lot of what I just read is so manipulative and negative.
Also, there were a few article in the feed of this week alone that all hinted at very little to no sex in their marriage being good or normal... Yeah, bout that, why don't we just make sure your son never becomes married to my daughter!
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 24, 2017 16:36:54 GMT -5
Shame on her.
Eventually the chickens come home to roost.
His acceptance and her selfishness might make it very awkward to have a great sex life again someday, especially if he's getting some on the side or being forced to wack off to porn.
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 24, 2017 17:08:20 GMT -5
So the article has her Twitter handle, she also has an article a few months later about not threatening divorce. So not all is not well in Paradise.
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