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Post by solodriver on Mar 28, 2017 3:31:59 GMT -5
Just an observation, but I can't recall ever hearing "But...I am a DAD" as a reason not to fuck your wife. Granted, there are many reasons here, but I don't recall hearing that particular one. The closest thing to "I am a DAD," might be my ex - who couldn't be sexual if one of our pets was in the room; and would do anything for one of them before he would do me. And I felt like I couldn't say a word - since it was my idea for us to have pets in the first place. I'm an animal lover, so how could I possibly be upset at what a devoted "parent" he turned out to be? I had the same excuse from my wife: "I can't because the dog can hear and see us and I don't want to close him out of the room!" When I suggested we go somewhere else away from home without the dog, the answer because, "I don't trust ANYONE to take care of the dog properly."
End of sex life.
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Post by obobfla on Mar 28, 2017 5:27:02 GMT -5
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Post by eternaloptimism on Mar 28, 2017 5:49:33 GMT -5
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 28, 2017 8:03:36 GMT -5
The closest thing to "I am a DAD," might be my ex - who couldn't be sexual if one of our pets was in the room; and would do anything for one of them before he would do me. And I felt like I couldn't say a word - since it was my idea for us to have pets in the first place. I'm an animal lover, so how could I possibly be upset at what a devoted "parent" he turned out to be? I had the same excuse from my wife: "I can't because the dog can hear and see us and I don't want to close him out of the room!" When I suggested we go somewhere else away from home without the dog, the answer because, "I don't trust ANYONE to take care of the dog properly."
End of sex life.
That is crazy to me over a dog. I wish my H would have given me crazy excuses that didn't make sense but I think they know exactly what excuse will work. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 28, 2017 10:17:58 GMT -5
I'd take the same approach , after the divorce. When I find that woman who desires me , and I desire her. There's a whole lot of re-building that needs to be done! |
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Post by shamwow on Mar 28, 2017 11:13:13 GMT -5
The closest thing to "I am a DAD," might be my ex - who couldn't be sexual if one of our pets was in the room; and would do anything for one of them before he would do me. And I felt like I couldn't say a word - since it was my idea for us to have pets in the first place. I'm an animal lover, so how could I possibly be upset at what a devoted "parent" he turned out to be? I had the same excuse from my wife: "I can't because the dog can hear and see us and I don't want to close him out of the room!" When I suggested we go somewhere else away from home without the dog, the answer because, "I don't trust ANYONE to take care of the dog properly."
End of sex life.
At least she spelled out exactly where you stand in the social hierarchy. |
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Post by solodriver on Mar 28, 2017 13:24:13 GMT -5
I had the same excuse from my wife: "I can't because the dog can hear and see us and I don't want to close him out of the room!" When I suggested we go somewhere else away from home without the dog, the answer because, "I don't trust ANYONE to take care of the dog properly."
End of sex life.
At least she spelled out exactly where you stand in the social hierarchy. Yep, exactly like Gunny Sgt Hartman said :"You're the lowest form of life on the earth." |
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Post by shamwow on Mar 28, 2017 14:26:48 GMT -5
At least she spelled out exactly where you stand in the social hierarchy. Yep, exactly like Gunny Sgt Hartman said :"You're the lowest form of life on the earth." How tall are you, Private? |
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 28, 2017 14:32:32 GMT -5
At least she spelled out exactly where you stand in the social hierarchy. Yep, exactly like Gunny Sgt Hartman said :"You're the lowest form of life on the earth." Once you've determined that she is cruel, irrational, isn't remorseful, and blames you for her behavior, stop wondering "why?" and ask yourself,why you are still tolerating it. This should be where the rubber meets the road. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2017 15:00:00 GMT -5
Yep, exactly like Gunny Sgt Hartman said :"You're the lowest form of life on the earth." How tall are you, Private? I didn't know they stacked shit that high! |
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Post by shamwow on Mar 28, 2017 15:04:27 GMT -5
How tall are you, Private? I didn't know they stacked shit that high! Ah, an educated man! |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2017 15:07:22 GMT -5
I had the same excuse from my wife: "I can't because the dog can hear and see us and I don't want to close him out of the room!" When I suggested we go somewhere else away from home without the dog, the answer because, "I don't trust ANYONE to take care of the dog properly."
End of sex life.
I am sorry, but this made me laugh out loud. I was imagining your W taking the dog to a canine psychologist and saying, "Doctor, my dog is severely traumatized! My husband forced me to have sex with the dog in the room! And worst of all, he did me PEOPLE STYLE!" |
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Post by Dan on Mar 28, 2017 19:29:21 GMT -5
Dear Laura (using the author of the article's name, assuming it was a first-person article):
1) Get rid of the dog; your husband and marriage are more important.
2) Let the fish die, for heaven's sake; your husband and marriage are more important.
3) BE HONEST. If you feel your H should do half the laundry, and that will allow you to have sex with him... then A) tell him that, B) hold up your side of that bargain. Or maybe some other task; or maybe many. If he helps, make time for him. If you simply then add to the list... you are not being fair.
4) If he is already doing half of the laundry -- or helping with the endless litany of chores you trot out -- then this help is already him reaching out to you, trying to ease your burden... and he is hoping it will allow you to have sex with him. If you're not... don't expect the help to continue indefinitely.
5) You will always be a mother, but your kids will grow and leave; you still -- presumably -- want your husband to still be there and your marriage to be intact.
6) If you don't tend to your husband and your marriage, and both will go away.
7) How did you get inside my wife's head? I think she used basically the exact same line of reasoning as our sex life was flagging in our second decade of marriage.
8) Never mind. Forget 1 through 7. Please just give me your husband's email address. I want to tell him that his sex life is over. Or -- more precisely -- his MARITAL sex life in his CURRENT marriage is probably over. He deserved to be told this bluntly, and be allowed to act on it.
Kindest regards,
Dan
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Post by lyn on Mar 28, 2017 19:30:16 GMT -5
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Post by Dan on Mar 28, 2017 19:33:40 GMT -5
I'm telling you: I'm UTTERLY CONVINCED the Forty Beads Method would have saved my marriage if I found it about a decade before I did. It is not about having "sex every day" for a year... or a month or a week. It is about removing the sense of scarcity around sex. If you make sex feel plentiful, it will engender happiness, contentment, and love. |
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