If you are choosing to stay for the moment Brother
theexplorer , here's some suggestions for you.
Sex, is - obviously - out of the picture.
So you need to cease and desist from any form of trying to beg, cajole, reason, force or manipulate your spouse sexually.
And you need to do this in good humour, not resentfully.
You need to stop complaining about your spouses behaviour.
You need to cease chasing your spouses' "why".
You need to completely and willingly let it go.
Sex is NOT going to be a part of this relationship.
Get the pressure off your spouse - and yourself - by taking this aspect of the relationship right off the agenda.
This relationship is incapable of delivering sex.
RECOGNISE the REALITY of what the relationship is NOT capable of delivering
And conduct yourself accordingly.
Now, without any sexual pressure on the relationship, the relationship can be based on what it IS capable of delivering.
What will probably fuck you up in this, is the festering resentment levels.
You most likely will NOT be able to "accept it" - "let it go" - "genuinely accept it".
You most likely remain resentful, angry, upset and unhappy.
Resentment will steadily poison the other aspects of your deal too.