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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 14:12:41 GMT -5
The Great Wall of Refuser! I am thinking a lot of men would brave the electric fence but that bear trap...a definite deal breaker!
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 12:26:11 GMT -5
His depression is not good for me. This is how it feels to me: It feels like he went into a dark cave. For a while, I kept throwing ropes to him, tried to shine lights to him. But he would just go deeper into the cave. And sometimes, when I tossed him a rope, I would feel a strong pull, trying to pull ME into the cave. Thank you, as always, for your honesty and insight. I think a lot of people can relate to the above. Maybe substitute alcoholism (my H) or bipolar disorder or a host of other challenges but the same idea. I just can't help but feel you merit better all the way around. I have no doubt you will always love him but it doesn't seem like he is in a position, at this time, to treasure and love you like you deserve. It may take some time, but I see you meeting someone that truly completes you.
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 9:52:11 GMT -5
Don't blink becca ! Is it only me that thought that when dry eyeball syndrome hit them they should have just blinked one eye at a time? It's not hard ..... Bloody humans! X Didn't Amy do that in another weeping angel episode? Not that I recall but then I watch those episodes through slightly closed hands in front of my face so I may have missed it. Brilliant idea, eternaloptimism!
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 9:21:29 GMT -5
That one minute time machine short was hilarious! I needed that on this Monday morning.
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 9:10:23 GMT -5
Ah yes. The big ball of wibbly wobbly time-y time-y... Stuff. And thank you for not posting the episode with the weeping angels in New York- I cry every time. Those angels always scare the hell out of me. Creepiest thing ever. Amy & Rory...
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 8:55:16 GMT -5
You're one of my sheroes on this site @smartkat , because you're such a kickass gal. Trust yourself - I know it sounds "easy" but you're someone who makes the right choices, even when the choices are tough. Surrounding you in warm, loving energy and hugs, sweetie. Ditto that! I have been on this forum just a few short weeks and I always love to read @smartkat 's wise remarks. Always spot on!
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 8:50:02 GMT -5
Why Charleston? The historic area, great food, rivers, beaches... Savannah is similar too. Wilmington and Charleston have entirely different dynamics. But for a sleepy beach visit, Wilmington is cool. The greater history, the arts scene ( ever been to Spoleto?), the music scene, the nightlife, the culture and fancy parties (I love an excuse to get dressed up and go bust out my Southern Gentlemen side from time to time), and the 300+ year old houses and gardens. I spent my first two years in the Navy stationed there, and those two years were incredibly formative (including in the sense of this tiger getting his stripes), so there's also a powerful nostalgia factor tied in. Savannah is similar, and I also fell in love with the town on weekend trips down there. It's been probably 13 years since i was there last (The Roommate has kept finding excuses for us not to visit), and I really, really want to go back soon. I get it. I love Charleston too but partial to Savannah. Savannah is about a decade behind Charleston on the restoration side of things but they are getting there. It must just be super cheap to film down South. Savannah has had it's fair share of movies including Forrest Gump, Something to Talk About, Glory, The Longest Yard, Midnight in the Garden of Good & Evil and Magic Mike XXL. I try to get there as often as I can and visit.
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 7:51:20 GMT -5
I think I missed something here :/ Me too. It makes me sad that people think they are not welcome here. Like I told you the other night, I think of us as one big (slightly dysfunctional) family complete with awesome siblings, crazy cousins and the perverted uncle or too (yep wewbwb I am talking to you) but still a family of sorts. I hope they reconsider and join us again.
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 7:21:37 GMT -5
Why Charleston? The historic area, great food, rivers, beaches... Savannah is similar too. Wilmington and Charleston have entirely different dynamics. But for a sleepy beach visit, Wilmington is cool.
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Post by becca on Sept 19, 2016 7:03:59 GMT -5
This house would be a great B&B. I love Wilmington, NC!
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Post by becca on Sept 18, 2016 19:58:18 GMT -5
I didn't stab anyone today. Does that count? It matters not how far along the road you are, only that you are facing in the right direction. Confucius?
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Post by becca on Sept 18, 2016 12:57:06 GMT -5
haha...to him rubbing my thigh or bare stomach. If it's me, no problem. I know I will see it through to a satisfying end! What's an exposed thigh or a bare stomach? My STBX has been wearing a bra, grannie panties, shorts and a full t- shirt to bed for years now. Then there's the pillow between her legs and two folded pillows up near her face with elbows sticking in my face and backside. Once in a while I get the privilege of her ice cold feet. A bra to bed? No, I get too hot at night for all that. The least amount the better. Sounds like your STBX builds a cocoon.
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Post by becca on Sept 18, 2016 12:35:06 GMT -5
I have woken up several times to rubbing my thigh or my bare stomach. Please say that again, slowly. .... haha...to him rubbing my thigh or bare stomach. If it's me, no problem. I know I will see it through to a satisfying end!
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Post by becca on Sept 18, 2016 11:45:52 GMT -5
Very little snuggling. He will kiss me on the cheek once in awhile. Lately though, the past two weeks, I have woken up several times to him rubbing my thigh or my bare stomach. I believe he is asleep but we don't so much as touch toes any more so it surprises me. It makes me angry that my body responds so quickly but I don't act on it. It will more than likely end up in rejection. After so many years of complete neglect, don't start that now. Just...no.
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Post by becca on Sept 16, 2016 15:52:41 GMT -5
Caris, I can hear your distress in your words. I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I am hoping that it works out that you can remove yourself from the negative individual without uprooting and moving across the country. Especially since you have only recently moved. But I can also relate to wanting to just go and flee and get as far away from it as possible. My thoughts are with you and I hope you can find peace and resolution in all of this.
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