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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 24, 2018 20:45:43 GMT -5
I actually applied for a job at Painting with a Twist. Hoping I could have some part time work helping, assisting, serving the customers. Instead they wanted me to teach classes!
I am not a teacher, I am not a teacher, I am not a teacher! I can show someone (one on one) how to paint, I can show someone my tricks of the trade, I take hours, days to do paintings. the fastest painting I ever did was 4 hrs.
I was told "the crowd can be kind of unruly and people get rowdy, you have to entertain them and steer them. You need to provide all your own ideas and subjects."
That was not going to be a job for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 14:26:41 GMT -5
I did meet three or four men on pof and tinder but mainly pof that were nice men and looking for a genuine relationship but for different reasons I wasn’t attracted to them and I didn’t want to waste their time. The man from Tinder met someone and he’s in a relationship now. I know because he FB friended me right away and I get his feeds. He seems happy and I’m happy for him. Another man I met on POF he’s in a relationship with a woman. I didn’t care for him because all he did was complain about his job. Another man from POF messaged me last week to see how things are going for me. I know he would like to date me. He and I did not have much in common. I liked POF the most. It was free. There are real people on the sites but it’s tough to meet the right one but if you don’t try then you definitely won’t. I recommend if you meet someone for the first time it should just be a cup of coffee at a Starbucks or Panera. Where did you find the man with the recliner? |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 25, 2018 14:50:39 GMT -5
I did meet three or four men on pof and tinder but mainly pof that were nice men and looking for a genuine relationship but for different reasons I wasn’t attracted to them and I didn’t want to waste their time. The man from Tinder met someone and he’s in a relationship now. I know because he FB friended me right away and I get his feeds. He seems happy and I’m happy for him. Another man I met on POF he’s in a relationship with a woman. I didn’t care for him because all he did was complain about his job. Another man from POF messaged me last week to see how things are going for me. I know he would like to date me. He and I did not have much in common. I liked POF the most. It was free. There are real people on the sites but it’s tough to meet the right one but if you don’t try then you definitely won’t. I recommend if you meet someone for the first time it should just be a cup of coffee at a Starbucks or Panera. Where did you find the man with the recliner? Ha! He was POF, my gosh that was a waste of time. A lot of time is wasted on dating sites but you have to have an open mind and a laid back attitude. There are nice people on there but it takes time to find them. So how the heck are you Creel? Good to see you back here! |
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 25, 2018 15:06:13 GMT -5
I had breakfast today with a 42-year-old woman who said she met her current boyfriend on bumble. She's a Christian divorcee college professor with 3 kids ages 14-17. From how she described her boyfriend, he seemed like a good match for her. She's a level headed woman who isn't the type to settle out of desperation.
She also said she had previously met a guy through Plenty of Fish. She said if one is willing to sift through the many people who aren't good matches, one can find gems there. She said one of her friends just married a man she met on Match.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 25, 2018 15:16:39 GMT -5
My question/concern is what is happening on these dating sights RECENTLY? It sounds like they have changed in the past season. All owned by one Corp (Match Inc.) and have gone down the tubes. Including POF, where you know have to pay to see anyone else's picture and get any kind of follow up, on top of shifting through all the bots and false cons. You can read the reviews for yourself on www.sitejabber.com/ |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 25, 2018 15:23:01 GMT -5
My question/concern is what is happening on these dating sights RECENTLY? It sounds like they have changed in the past season. All owned by one Corp (Match Inc.) and have gone down the tubes. Including POF, where you know have to pay to see anyone else's picture and get any kind of follow up, on top of shifting through all the bots and false cons. You can read the reviews for yourself on www.sitejabber.com/I don’t know I have not been on POF since last Summer and I never paid a dime. I know my brother uses Bumble - that might be free |
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jul 25, 2018 16:05:56 GMT -5
I believe POF and OKCupid have free messaging. Bumble and Tinder are two of the few sites not owned by Match group I recently caved and joined OK Cupid. Tired of being alone and I'm having no luck meeting someone in real life..only been a member a few weeks, and no real connections yet. The men there seem to be real, not fake, and state what type of relationship they want. We'll see how this goes...  |
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 25, 2018 17:08:36 GMT -5
GC, the person I mentioned who's dating someone from Bumble met him this spring.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 23:18:01 GMT -5
Where did you find the man with the recliner? Ha! He was POF, my gosh that was a waste of time. A lot of time is wasted on dating sites but you have to have an open mind and a laid back attitude. There are nice people on there but it takes time to find them. So how the heck are you Creel? Good to see you back here! I'm divorced. Kind of sad. I expect to be better in a few days. Better yet in a few weeks. I thought about you a while back regarding your funny stories of those guys that couldn't walk up the stands at a baseball game |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 26, 2018 5:41:29 GMT -5
Ha! He was POF, my gosh that was a waste of time. A lot of time is wasted on dating sites but you have to have an open mind and a laid back attitude. There are nice people on there but it takes time to find them. So how the heck are you Creel? Good to see you back here! I'm divorced. Kind of sad. I expect to be better in a few days. Better yet in a few weeks. I thought about you a while back regarding your funny stories of those guys that couldn't walk up the stands at a baseball game Things will be better. There is life after divorce and it’s better! Hugs |
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 8, 2018 12:23:43 GMT -5
I believe POF and OKCupid have free messaging. Bumble and Tinder are two of the few sites not owned by Match group I recently caved and joined OK Cupid. Tired of being alone and I'm having no luck meeting someone in real life..only been a member a few weeks, and no real connections yet. The men there seem to be real, not fake, and state what type of relationship they want. We'll see how this goes... Any news? |
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Post by misssunnybunny on Aug 8, 2018 13:05:09 GMT -5
I believe POF and OKCupid have free messaging. Bumble and Tinder are two of the few sites not owned by Match group I recently caved and joined OK Cupid. Tired of being alone and I'm having no luck meeting someone in real life..only been a member a few weeks, and no real connections yet. The men there seem to be real, not fake, and state what type of relationship they want. We'll see how this goes... Any news? Signed up at the very end of June. Zero luck online...Messaged with one man for a few days right after I signed up; he disappeared before we even talked about meeting in person. I've matched with one other, but he hasn't messaged and I haven't worked up the courage to message him. Since then, nothing at all, except for a few random slightly inappropriate messages. blah |
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 8, 2018 13:36:01 GMT -5
Signed up at the very end of June. Zero luck online...Messaged with one man for a few days right after I signed up; he disappeared before we even talked about meeting in person. I've matched with one other, but he hasn't messaged and I haven't worked up the courage to message him. Since then, nothing at all, except for a few random slightly inappropriate messages. blah I hear ya' about the courage thing! It also means setting yourself up for more rejection. it's such a mental game. What's it been like for you when you go out on Fri. nights with your friends? Here's my take on it, (please don't hesitate to correct me) when i go to a local restaurant and see a woman that looks close to my age, I already feel I am way ahead of the game. 1) I get to see her. Not some fake pic, or a pic from 10 yrs ago. Now I can decide if there's an attraction. 2) She's right there in my town. No long distance relationship. 3) If she looks close to my age, the odds are good she has children my age. Even better when I see her at a school event. 4) If she is with another woman ,the odds are better that she is single or divorced. 5) We meet at a meetup group for singles. Well that already answers many of the above questions. The other day I was invited to a meetup group called "Liberal Singles" (i'm conservative) I went anyways. That's a whole nother story. So what are your thoughts when you go out with your friends? You deserve to be cherished again! |
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Post by misssunnybunny on Aug 8, 2018 13:43:30 GMT -5
Signed up at the very end of June. Zero luck online...Messaged with one man for a few days right after I signed up; he disappeared before we even talked about meeting in person. I've matched with one other, but he hasn't messaged and I haven't worked up the courage to message him. Since then, nothing at all, except for a few random slightly inappropriate messages. blah I hear ya' about the courage thing! It also means setting yourself up for more rejection. it's such a mental game. What's it been like for you when you go out on Fri. nights with your friends? Here's my take on it, (please don't hesitate to correct me) when i go to a local restaurant and see a woman that looks close to my age, I already feel I am way ahead of the game. 1) I get to see her. Not some fake pic, or a pic from 10 yrs ago. Now I can decide if there's an attraction. 2) She's right there in my town. No long distance relationship. 3) If she looks close to my age, the odds are good she has children my age. Even better when I see her at a school event. 4) If she is with another woman ,the odds are better that she is single or divorced. 5) We meet at a meetup group for singles. Well that already answers many of the above questions. The other day I was invited to a meetup group called "Liberal Singles" (im conservative) I went anyways. That's a whole nother story. So what are your thoughts when you go out with your friends? You deserve to be cherished again! Well, I signed up for online dating because I wasn't having any success in real life, and my friends were encouraging me to try it. Just batting zeros everywhere. Thanks GC, I would like to find that one person, just don't know how (I've tried meetups, book readings, trivia nights, the usual bar/pub scene, museums, nature parks, asking everyone I know if they know any good, single guys, etc. Running out of ideas) |
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 9, 2018 3:13:55 GMT -5
Thoughts on how to meet potential partners:
On online dating, even if you are a woman, you can’t just sit back and await messages. You have to have the courage to reach out. It is a numbers game like looking for a job. Most of the people whom you message will not message back if you are s man. Odds are better for women. Still, women are likely to get inappropriate replies. Still, to win at that game, you have to play it by reaching out with some kind of brief personal message to those who interest you. If you don’t like their responses, move on. Don’t lower your standards. I know plenty of people who have met good partners via online.
As for going to social events and meetups to meet people.
Go only to activities that interest you. Take the time to enjoy the activity not just hunt for a partner. Do something to be of service. Volunteer on a committee. Help set up the chairs. Talk to people of all ages and genders. Don’t just pay attention to potential partners. Make friends.
Going to a meetup of a political group of your opposite orientation is a set up for failure and smacks of desperation. Trust me: people going to a political meetup want to meet others who share their values. One would be viewed as weird or creepy if one went to a meetup for those on the opposite side of your political spectrum. If you are into politics, getting involved in your local party or helping out in a political campaign would be great ways to meet like minded people. My post sm partner and I have both been on our political party’s local executive committee. We did not overlap but we could have.
Keep in mind that being an interesting person who is involved in community or other activities is likely to attract people to you. Do things that interest you. If all you can say about yourself is that you are looking for a partner, people will not be attracted to you. Have responses to, “What’s new?” other than, “nothing” or “same old same old.”
Find ways to make your life more interesting. Don’t view a partner as the key to making your life interesting. No one healthy selects a partner to save a person from misery or boredom.
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