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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 19:07:08 GMT -5
I'm joking in case that wasn't clear. Of course, but others might not know that. Let's keep it subtle. Fun might ensue. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 19:18:36 GMT -5
How close was my Helen T profile?
Do you think it might find a fun guy for you to experiment with?
Now you'll have to post a dating log here like BBallGirl's
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 23:59:06 GMT -5
Fuck my life, I just met an asexual on Tinder. What the hell? What is an asexual doing on Tinder?! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2016 9:06:16 GMT -5
Fuck my life, I just met an asexual on Tinder. What the hell? What is an asexual doing on Tinder?! Probably trying to get sexual. There is lots of this in the world. Folks seeing others having fun makes them want to join in. But if someone can't have fun under their own will, they'll just ruin the originator's fun when they try to join in, or do it on their own. In this, I'd replace the word "Fun" with any life activity or lifestyle that people enjoy. I call folks with this tendency "Borrowers", because they look onto lifestyles they see and think they'll enjoy, and then gum them up because they either refuse to do the "Work", or they simply hate the thing they've glommed onto. When folks use a spouse to do this, the marriage is DOOMED. I think most folks go to universities based on this tendency. MD is probably filled with the biggest offenders. I know very few doctors that really like the field. They liked Medical School, prestige, and the money. But they hate the work, and eventually their lives. I tell young engineers to go do something else when I see they don't love engineering. No sense ruining their lives and getting a bunch of folks killed doing something they hate. I'd bet sex is the same way. Having a beautiful mate and fucking all the time like a rockstar is what I want to do!!! But once they get that opportunity, they find what they REALLY enjoy is video games, gambling, drinking, or porn. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 5, 2018 16:25:56 GMT -5
I've spent several hours reading reviews on hook up sights and dating sights. Also I read everything that's been posted on here regarding Tinder, POF ,Match , Fling, MILF, and OKCupid. Much of the testimonies from the fine group of people on here seem to be dated around 2016/2017 they reflect older reviews of those sights and what they where like then. Reviews today are full of people who where banned for no reason and scammed out of their money. Then there's the fine print , that tells you the majority of these men and woman are " fantasy images" their responses are computer generated, or by paid staff,also that your own pictures and info. are now their property and can be used as they see fit for however long they want. Your emails to honest , good , men or woman never reach them, and or you now have to continue to pay to see if anyone has even liked your profile ( for the few that even read it) POF won't post a man's picture. Then their is the vast majority of people who have left these sights years ago and their profiles remain. Generating more revenue for the owners and more disappointment and heartbreak for the new user of these sights. The paid staff, or computers, know how to give you a dozen or more replies from people who don't exist. Once you pay more money to find out who they are, you then receive no more replies for months until it's time to renew your subscription, then you magically start getting replies again from the computer fantasy images. Sadly it's gone so far downhill that the entire industry sounds like a big scam to get your money, continue to bill you, sell your info to other sights and advertisers, and could care less with people meeting or hooking up with others. www.sitejabber.com/reviews/tinder.com One reply I found the most helpful is titled ""Tinder The Final Insult" by sailaway on 5/06/2018. Reading so many of these negative reviews of people who have recently been scammed on these "dating/hookup sights" I have to wonder, "why should I feel like my results would be any different?" That I should save my time and money. Similar to the advice that's given out on here regarding a SM, "don't waste your time and money, run the other way". |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 5, 2018 19:42:53 GMT -5
Has anyone on here stuck your foot in the online dating/hookup pool recently (the last month or two)? What was your experience?
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 5, 2018 20:58:09 GMT -5
I've considered it, but can't bring myself to give online dating a try. I don't want my pictures and whatever I write on a site to become that site's property. FWIW, almost all the main ones are now owned by one large company, and they reserve the right to take your info from one site and use it to advertise another one (like if you sign up for okCupid, they can use you on POF or Match). The ones that require payment to communicate with matches sound like they have major issues with billing and not honoring stopped subscriptions, and the customer service is next to non-existent. I go out, I talk to people, I try new things/activities outside my regular group of friends, I travel by myself, yet I cannot meet someone to save my life; how does one meet someone without online dating???
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 5, 2018 21:34:17 GMT -5
I've considered it, but can't bring myself to give online dating a try. I don't want my pictures and whatever I write on a site to become that site's property. FWIW, almost all the main ones are now owned by one large company, and they reserve the right to take your info from one site and use it to advertise another one (like if you sign up for okCupid, they can use you on POF or Match). The ones that require payment to communicate with matches sound like they have major issues with billing and not honoring stopped subscriptions, and the customer service is next to non-existent. I go out, I talk to people, I try new things/activities outside my regular group of friends, I travel by myself, yet I cannot meet someone to save my life; how does one meet someone without online dating??? So good to hear from you! How many of your friends (and their friends) have nothing but praise about online dating because it was one to two years ago? From my 2 to 3 days of study and experience it's gotten really bad and changed a lot. "they reserve the right to take your info from one site and use it to advertise another one" So the innocent victim who likes your profile and pic. messages you. You never get it and they never know it. Leaving people to think maybe I need a better picture, maybe I need to change my profile, and on, and on, or they give up, and there went hundreds of their dollars. Do you really want to get me started on how weird it feels to go onto a hook up sight? I felt ashamed. I've never taken a selfie before, I've never talked on line with a woman ( or some person from Indonesia, or a computer )telling them how I would please them sexually.Yet I live with the realization that having sex and intimacy again with a woman (not a prostitute) feels like it would give me that much needed moral boost, and it is not that uncommon to be seeking and desiring after a divorce. Part of the puzzle is my age? What men and woman are (theoretically) looking for as you read about these online dating services. The woman complain,"the only thing a man on these sights wants is a one night stand". And the men complain" the ratio is 70 to 1, the woman on sights like these are out of their prime, and are a 5 but because so many men text them every day they think they're a 10, all these woman want is someone who is rich and looks like Brad Pitt". And the world spins round, and round! I'm left thinking your route is the only way to go. Activities, travel, friends. Heck I actually asked my letter carrier out for a date the other day by leaving her a letter after meeting her and talking with her. ( she had no rings on her fingers) She wrote me back and told me " I'm flattered, but I'm married, I'm sure we can be great friends". Actually I will speak with her as a good friend when I see her. In fact I'm going to let her know " please set me up with any other woman you know who would be a good match for me". Crazy times of bold risks ahead! |
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Post by elkclan2 on Jun 6, 2018 0:47:26 GMT -5
I met my partner on OKC - but this was before many of the site changes. Like greatcoastal says there are many old profiles on there - INCLUDING mine and my partner's. Why? Because I forgot my password. My partner told me straight up his was still on there because he forgot his password and he couldn't be faffed to go through the ridiculous process to delete his account - and I just laughed and said same for me. They make it hard to delete your old account - and I'm sure it's deliberate. Mine does say right at the top that I'm out of the game now though. :-) Before I met my partner I had a number of 'successful' dates - successful in that I wasn't bored, I had a nice time, but it was clear he wasn't the one. I met a number of nice guys straight after my separation but I wasn't ready. I had a few duff dates, too - but not too many in that I tried to only go out with guys who I thought would be fun to talk to. So for me, it's been great. |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 6, 2018 11:25:28 GMT -5
Then post a profile and keep it light. Say you want to do fun things, and then do the fin things you want to do!! Seems reasonable. I'm sure this is gonna be a disaster but maybe if I don't sleep with anyone I won't catch feelings, which is when it always goes pear shaped. Make sure you don't catch anything more serious than feelings. There are things out there that cannot be cured with a shot. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 6, 2018 12:49:40 GMT -5
Seems reasonable. I'm sure this is gonna be a disaster but maybe if I don't sleep with anyone I won't catch feelings, which is when it always goes pear shaped. Make sure you don't catch anything more serious than feelings. There are things out there that cannot be cured with a shot. Like all the money gone from your bank account, and your time. Maybe a shot of whiskey will help "cure" your feelings ,but I don't recommend it! |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 6, 2018 13:23:18 GMT -5
Make sure you don't catch anything more serious than feelings. There are things out there that cannot be cured with a shot. Like all the money gone from your bank account, and your time. Maybe a shot of whiskey will help "cure" your feelings ,but I don't recommend it! I was thinking something a bit more viral. |
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Post by workingonit on Jun 6, 2018 18:01:34 GMT -5
greatcoastal awesome to hear you are getting back out there, or trying. I have to say that I cannot possibly stomach the idea of on line dating. I really cannot stomach the idea of dating. Every partner I have ever had, including my h, I have met through experiences- activities, travel, etc. I just have to believe this is still a possible way to meet people! I know misssunnybunny has not had so much success but.... I have to believe. We should start a club of non-online daters!! We could meet online! HAHA...
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 6, 2018 18:57:50 GMT -5
So good to hear from you! How many of your friends (and their friends) have nothing but praise about online dating because it was one to two years ago? From my 2 to 3 days of study and experience it's gotten really bad and changed a lot. The friends I have who are either on or who have tried online dating have nothing good to say about it. They have met men, but have to sift through so many profiles to find ones that might make a decent date/lead to a relationship. The only person I know who successfully met someone online is my now ex; he met his new wife on OKC before match got their hands on it. Well, now I know two, thanks to elkclan2! I am glad you found your current partner there; in recent years all of what made OKC what it was (fun, quirky, not just a dating site) has been systematically removed by the folks at Match, and OKC is barely better than Tinder, from what I hear. I'll just keep trying and having fun experiences. I go out for fun with my friends, not on a mission to meet someone (that would be the little extra to make the night even better one of these nights!  ) |
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Post by baza on Jun 7, 2018 0:23:41 GMT -5
Any business (apart from Co-Ops and not for profits etc) have a simple raison d'être. To make money.
For the owners of the business and/or the shareholders if it is a listed Company.
Companies like OKC are no different.
They are not there to look after your best interests, they are there to look after their best interests, which is, to make money.
The idea is to hit up the punters for money which entitles you access to a data base of people who may or may not be interested in rooting you. OKC could not give a shit whether you find a person who wants to root you or not (although for marketing strategies they are very keen indeed to give the impression that they care deeply)
As long as you have ponyed up the requisite fee(s) OKC's mission is complete.
And personally, I haven't got a problem with that.
Sure, they may be acting unethically, even dishonestly, but they are in no way unique in that.
Take the banks in my jurisdiction for example. A parlimentary enquiry into the financial services industry has revealed appalling conduct and dishonesty within that industry.
Anyway, back to OKC, I am pretty sure that there are a couple of members here who got lucky and met on OKC.
I would just note that "got lucky" are the operative words.
They did not meet because of the superior and sound business practices of OKC, nor did they meet because of the highly professional screening processes of OKC either. Nor did they meet because of the stand out customer service skills of OKC.
They got lucky.
They could just have easily met by complete accident at the front bar of the Terminus Hotel in my town.
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