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Post by Caris on Jul 3, 2016 12:58:00 GMT -5
Fuck my life, I just met an asexual on Tinder. Helen, send that one my way. It's the only kind of man I could feel comfortable with atm. I'd know exactly where I'd stand, with no mind games. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 12:59:17 GMT -5
Anyone have a spare can of Refuser-B-Gone? No need for chemical repellants here Helen. Just the words: "It's not you, it's me." Or "I don't think it's a fit." Probably hundreds of others. Make a plan, and run it like a project. A very fun project with huge upside potential for you AND a potential mate. Let's start with a set of prioritized requirements without which there is "No Deal". 1. Cultural Compatibility: Nothing works relationally without this. You know what these are for you, and from what I have gathered, you shouldn't have trouble in this department in any progressive American urban area. 2. Fun: This includes interests as well as a fairly high natural or genetic component. You're going to have to find a fairly intellectually gifted guy. Dummies need not apply. As you're definitely aware, dummies are not normally self-aware, so you're going to have to actively enforce this requirement. But, with the base capacity, you have to find a man that's actually FUN within your parameters. I'd think he's also got to be somewhat outgoing and possess a degree of leadership capability to compliment your more reserved or introverted nature. Two passive introverts don't have much fun together. But if Potential Man can originate and organize some gun stuff, I'm sure you can adapt yourself to enjoying and encouraging this! 3. Attraction: You know what this means to you. And we ALL know it's very important for any Hetero-Social relationship beyond normal fraternisation. And, I've learned that tall rugged outdoorsy, with angular features isn't every woman's cup of tea. So, if you have eclectic taste, tell that poor insecure fellow dwelling over your pictures and description that he has a chance! 4. SEX: Because of the purpose of your current search -- having hetero-social fun -- which only exists with that special "Tension" -- I'd keep this to myself for the time being. But, you'll have plenty of conversations along the way -- without the pressure of performance anxiety, etc. to figure this one out on your own. I'd be looking for a healthily reasoned and fully developed relationship philosophy buttressed by honest and uncontrollable natural compulsion. Think about the uncomfortable feeling you get when a guy you're not interested in has OBVIOUS animal attraction to you!! You know what I'm talking about! Now consider that 1 through 3 are well addressed. Now, it's not so uncomfortable, is it! I think I know you well enough to write components of your profile. That'd be fun! |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 3, 2016 13:09:28 GMT -5
I don't think it really matters which dating site you might frequent, there will be some people that you are simpatico with immediately and others that are duds. My personal experience is that it seems in my age bracket most of the females are just seeking a companion. It is the word most commonly used by women when they speak about a male. You can expect to receive a # of messages from scammers, they're on every site. I've met 3 ladies who are on multiple sites and gotten 3 different takes on POF, OK Cupid and Our Time. Both males and females at POF seem to vastly over rate what they bring to the table, resulting in most emails going unanswered. The unanswered greeting is the most common complaint from both sexes. The complaint about OK Cupid is that it takes forever to answer all the questions and a large # of the questions are about fetishes and how kinky you are. There were way too many questions about foot, leather or latex fetishes for me. And after having answered over half of the roughly 300 questions I only had 3 matches within 50 miles of me. One of the women had a similar experience so perhaps the population of daters is pretty small where I live. One woman said all she got from males at Our Time were requests to sext. My conclusion is that dating sites are like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get. Good luck....
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 13:22:44 GMT -5
Fuck my life, I just met an asexual on Tinder. Helen, send that one my way. It's the only kind of man I could feel comfortable with atm. I'd know exactly where I'd stand, with no mind games. Ha! I was just gonna offer to send you one! Hell, I bet the ladies of ILIASM know all sorts of sex-avoidant men. Someone here can definitely hook you up! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 13:26:22 GMT -5
Anyone have a spare can of Refuser-B-Gone? No need for chemical repellants here Helen. Just the words: "It's not you, it's me." Or "I don't think it's a fit." Probably hundreds of others. Make a plan, and run it like a project. A very fun project with huge upside potential for you AND a potential mate. Let's start with a set of prioritized requirements without which there is "No Deal". 1. Cultural Compatibility: Nothing works relationally without this. You know what these are for you, and from what I have gathered, you shouldn't have trouble in this department in any progressive American urban area. 2. Fun: This includes interests as well as a fairly high natural or genetic component. You're going to have to find a fairly intellectually gifted guy. Dummies need not apply. As you're definitely aware, dummies are not normally self-aware, so you're going to have to actively enforce this requirement. But, with the base capacity, you have to find a man that's actually FUN within your parameters. I'd think he's also got to be somewhat outgoing and pisses a degree of leadership capability compliment your more reserved or introverted nature. Two passive introverts don't have much fun together. But if Potential Man can originate and organize some gun stuff, I'm sure you can adapt yourself to enjoying and encouraging this! 3. Attraction: You know what this means to you. And we ALL know it's very important for any Hetero- Social relationship beyond normal fraternisation. And, I've learned that tall rugged outdoorsy, with angular features isn't every woman's cup of tea. So, if you have eclectic taste, tell that poor insecure fellow dwelling over your pictures and description that he has a chance! 4. SEX: Because of the purpose of your current search -- having hetero-social fun -- which only exists with that special "Tension" -- I'd keep this to myself for the time being. But, you'll have plenty of conversations along the way -- without the pressure of performance anxiety, etc. to figure this one out on your own. I'd be looking for a healthily reasoned and fully developed relationship philosophy buttressed by honest and uncontrollable natural compulsion. Think about the uncomfortable feeling you get when a guy you're not interested in has OBVIOUS animal attraction to you!! You know what I'm talking about! Now consider that 1 through 3 are well addressed. Now, it's not so uncomfortable, is it! I think I know you well enough to write components of your profile. That'd be fun! You do clearly know me well. You hit the nail on the head. Have at my profile by the way. I may cut and paste portions. |
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Post by unmatched on Jul 3, 2016 13:26:45 GMT -5
@creelunion I just feel like men are better at not catching feelings. If I'm willing to have sex, I'm willing to have feelings. Men, can apparently easily have all the sex with none of the feelings. This frustrates me and is why I think I need to abstain from sex, so the no-feelings sex seekers will go elsewhere. I'll take you up on the fun light dates planning if anything ever progresses past coffee. You know, I don't think I can have sex without feelings either. But I am very willing to have those feelings without it needing to mean that I have to be with that person, have to marry them, that their opinion of me is the most important indicator of who I am etc. etc. Fair warning, I am a little out of practice at this, but I believe that if you can separate out all the needy crap that goes on in all our heads then it is possible to enjoy those feelings for what they are. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 13:30:44 GMT -5
@creelunion I just feel like men are better at not catching feelings. If I'm willing to have sex, I'm willing to have feelings. Men, can apparently easily have all the sex with none of the feelings. This frustrates me and is why I think I need to abstain from sex, so the no-feelings sex seekers will go elsewhere. I'll take you up on the fun light dates planning if anything ever progresses past coffee. I dunno this is just me but I doubt I could have a sexual relationship and not fall in love. But then when I hear guys are like this gals are like that, I am usually like the gals. So maybe I'm an anomaly. I can have platonic female friends. That may be in part due to the fact that I have decided this relationship I'm in now is my last one. No sense getting all mushy if I'm not going to go through it all again. But no, if I had sex with a woman on an ongoing basis I'd fall for her. There's this one lady I only met once, and she will always have a piece of my heart...although that might be because I only met her once. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 3, 2016 13:42:29 GMT -5
Helen, send that one my way. It's the only kind of man I could feel comfortable with atm. I'd know exactly where I'd stand, with no mind games. Ha! I was just gonna offer to send you one! Hell, I bet the ladies of ILIASM know all sorts of sex-avoidant men. Someone here can definitely hook you up! Yep. Pay someone to take mine I would! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 14:26:21 GMT -5
Research Fellow -- Adult Urban Fun
By "Fellow", I mean Man.
I'm looking for someone to help me perfect a wide range of fun activities I've been working on for over 40 years, as well as identify and experiment with new ones. If this sounds like hard work, I assure you it's not. It's FUN goddamnit!
I'm a city girl and most of my fun to this point has been focused in the city. But, while know I haven't exhausted all the city has to offer, I might actually enjoy short bursts of more rural fun with the right assistant. Understand, I'm not talking about camping or fishing, but I suspect there's something outside the beltway I might love to do once or twice.
I'm well educated with a Master's of Science degree. While I'd never try to gum up fun by calculating it's momentum, I have experimented some with ignorance and found it lacking.
My perfect assistant is healthy enough to explore the city for hours without getting gassed. He's clever and engaged enough to suggest, plan, and lead me through earth-shatteringly fun stuff I'd never be able to come up with on my own. He gets my attention and holds it. He always leaves me wanting more and wondering what's next. He's not afraid to tell me I'm going to love something new, and then show me!!
He's secure enough to join me in some of my "Old Faithfuls", and outgoing enough to make them seem new.
Let's keep this fun and light. If you're half of what I described above, I'll be in trouble. I'm willing to risk that.
Get your clever, witty, fun out and show it to me. Curl my hair with it.
Oooh, it's exciting isn't it!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 14:33:20 GMT -5
No requirements on "Looks".
Nothing that's too intimidating, but it allows you to explain to a fellow that doesn't know the difference between there and their that he's probably not going to be able to entertain you.
Weeds out the hunters and fishermen.
Asking for leadership qualities will intimidate the men you simply don't want to mess with, while alerting the "Good" ones that you'll recognize the difference. Leaders like being appreciated for this quality.
What do you think?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 14:34:40 GMT -5
And I had fun. I'd do better if I had a PC, but this is urgent, and I didn't want to have to wait till Tuesday to help you out.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 3, 2016 14:50:52 GMT -5
Anyone have a spare can of Refuser-B-Gone? Costco sells it in bulk. The label says "condoms". |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 17:39:35 GMT -5
Shall I add this content?:
I enjoy walking my dogs, reading, and masturbating furiously.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 18:35:54 GMT -5
Shall I add this content?: I enjoy walking my dogs, reading, and masturbating furiously. I like the dogs part. The other two aren't social endeavors. Remember, you're looking for SOMEONE ELSE to do stuff with!!! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 19:00:32 GMT -5
I'm joking in case that wasn't clear.
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