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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 2:33:10 GMT -5
Ooh, add one African scammer pretending to be a US serviceman stationed in Africa. I KNEW he was a non-native English speaker, which is fine, being a scammer is not however. I feel I will soon practice saying no to requests to wire money.
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Post by unmatched on Jul 3, 2016 2:50:25 GMT -5
Can you not limit it to local men only?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 3:06:53 GMT -5
Sadly not if they pay for the premium version and lie about their location. I did limit it to within my local area but if they lie about their location it doesn't help.
Add one potential green card seeker who says he doesn't speak much English. Maybe I am too suspicious...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 3:09:11 GMT -5
I think everyone of quality is in bed by 12 pm on Friday night. [Clearly I am still awake so don't qualify]. Let's hope Saturday day brings more genuine people, less cautionary tales.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 3, 2016 3:16:39 GMT -5
Give us an update again tomorrow @helentishappy. A good one will come along soon  xx |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 3:17:20 GMT -5
Give us an update again tomorrow @helentishappy. A good one will come along soon xx Ha! Try to stop me! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 3, 2016 7:37:23 GMT -5
Good for you @helen! Just have fun with it and expect nothing.
Think of it as a social experiment and be picky.
Also when you start talking to someone ask lots of questions.
First dates/ meetup - I recommend a coffee place or a bar to just get a beer or glass of wine.
Honestly it's nice to have just a FWB if you can find someone for that purpose alone. Then when you date someone or decide to date someone it's because you really want to be with them not just about sex.
I still have my married man from when I outsourced. He knows I'm dating.
His wife knows about me. He's in a SM and everything is out in the open.
We see each other enough to satisfy the sex part. Of course I would like to meet a nice man to be my partner in crime but I'm also enjoying my time to myself. My ex was such a jerk and such a difficult person to live with that now I do enjoy time to myself.
You never know though what's out there. So it's good that you are putting yourself out there. Just enjoy, have fun and don't take it too seriously. Most of the men on those sites aren't about a serious relationship.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 8:15:27 GMT -5
oh, and unmatched , to keep myself thinking straight I'll ask you all here and anyone who wants sex will have to Skype with @creelunion and get his permission first. He just seems like he has a good bs detector and as a father of a daughter he must be good at date screening/intimidating right? Helen, I think your BS detector, as well as your Character Judger, are perfectly functional and well tuned. Certainly better than mine. It's just easier for me and everyone else here to offer impartial suggestions from the safety of hundreds of miles away. You and DryCreek nailed it. Keep it fun and easy. Practice being the woman you want to be. The kind that the men you admire are looking for. You mentioned possibly abstaining from sex in an effort to avoid "Catching Emotions". Great plan. Bit I also detected a little hint that you feel your susceptibility to catching emotions is a weakness or unusual. I'm not sure if this is the case, but if it is, we should talk about that. You're perfectly normal in this regard and it's very important that you understand that, and manage it accordingly, for what it is. Maybe we can help you plan fun, light, airy dates that raise your spirits without dragging you down into the pear shaped abyss. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 10:20:06 GMT -5
bballgirl OMG, wow, what a fascinating situation (and ethical too) with a guy in a SM whose wife knows! A married FWB would be perfect, less chance of feelings. And a married FWB whose wife knows would be the holy grail of FWB. The problem with a single FWB is if they just want to be FWB it will probably end when someone better comes along and if I'm willing to be FWB, I'd also like to be more than FWB and that will hurt my feelings.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 10:25:46 GMT -5
@creelunion I just feel like men are better at not catching feelings. If I'm willing to have sex, I'm willing to have feelings. Men, can apparently easily have all the sex with none of the feelings. This frustrates me and is why I think I need to abstain from sex, so the no-feelings sex seekers will go elsewhere.
I'll take you up on the fun light dates planning if anything ever progresses past coffee.
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 3, 2016 11:07:08 GMT -5
bballgirl OMG, wow, what a fascinating situation (and ethical too) with a guy in a SM whose wife knows! A married FWB would be perfect, less chance of feelings. And a married FWB whose wife knows would be the holy grail of FWB. The problem with a single FWB is if they just want to be FWB it will probably end when someone better comes along and if I'm willing to be FWB, I'd also like to be more than FWB and that will hurt my feelings. Yeah it just blows my mind that this fell into my lap. I even talk to him about the guys I date and he talks to me about things too so it's working and yes there are not feelings. I am like men in that I can separate feelings from sex probably because for 23 years of marriage there was no passion in the sex because H was intimacy averse. I have learned a lot about passionate sex with FWB. We are very passionate together and if someone was watching us they would think there are feelings but we do a good job of communicating and being honest. We just really enjoy our time together and make the most of it. I totally understand your point of view about not wanting to be a FWB until the next one comes along. I wouldn't want that either but I do think that in life we have to take some risks in order to get something good. Fortune favors the bold. The fear of rejection is another issue that we deal with coming out of a SM but I don't fear that either anymore. I think I've been rejected so much from the one man that was supposed to love me that now rejection from a stranger, so what?! Last weekend I messaged a man in his late forties, all grey and he sent me back a response saying he was not interested. I did not let that bother me because I don't want to waste anyone's time or my time. I already wasted 23 years on my ex. Focus now is on me, what I want, what will make my life happy and that is not going to depend on a man being in my life, other than FWB. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 11:48:56 GMT -5
What a dick!! But yes, all you say is true, life's too short to waste time on someone who's not passionate about you. And life doesn't depend on a man.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 12:09:01 GMT -5
Fuck my life, I just met an asexual on Tinder.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 12:11:03 GMT -5
Anyone have a spare can of Refuser-B-Gone?
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Post by deleted on Jul 3, 2016 12:45:19 GMT -5
Fuck my life, I just met an asexual on Tinder. Sorry, but that's kind of funny in a sick and twisted way. That sort of thing would happen to me. |
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