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Post by lonelytiger on Oct 22, 2024 22:14:29 GMT -5
I think I had my light bulb moment today. She asked me to snuggle after turning down sexual intimacy and said she feels close to me when we snuggle and it’s just what she needs. She totally ignored my need for closeness so that we could fulfill hers. When I told her that I was hoping for something sexual she had the nerve to say we don’t always get what we want when we share what it is we need. All of the arguing the last several months on this are for nothing and I feel so stupid. If we weren’t in a lot of debt or had kids at home still I’d be discussing leaving. Hopefully only a few more years.
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Post by ironhamster on Oct 23, 2024 2:11:27 GMT -5
...If we weren’t in a lot of debt or had kids at home still I’d be discussing leaving. Hopefully only a few more years. The future belongs to those who prepare today. You know where this is going. Please, talk with an attorney about your predicament, and get some professional advice. It could involve planning a move to a state with family laws more in tune with your needs. It could involve moving the date closer because the longer you wait the more she gets. It could involve quitting your job, filing for bankruptcy, and forcing her back in the workforce so you are not the "primary earner" and she is not the "primary parent." Most attorneys will give you half an hour for free. Even if you are paying $500 for an hour of professional time, it could save you A LOT more when it's finally time to make your move.
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Post by lonelyhubby on Oct 23, 2024 8:14:16 GMT -5
One other trick I have heard of - when preparing, seek the free consultation with every attorney you can - when you do finally file - they may be prohibited form taking her case to defend because of your previous consultation. Also - ask an attorney who THEY would want to represent them in a divorce - target that person if you can
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Post by m76 on Oct 23, 2024 8:28:15 GMT -5
One other trick I have heard of - when preparing, seek the free consultation with every attorney you can - when you do finally file - they may be prohibited form taking her case to defend because of your previous consultation. Also - ask an attorney who THEY would want to represent them in a divorce - target that person if you can I'm pretty sure when I pull that trigger it'll be amicable. Although in Canada, it doesn't really matter, everything is 50/50.
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