Post by greatcoastal on Nov 13, 2023 21:46:58 GMT -5
after 25 yrs of marriage to the same woman, being at home raising children, homeschooling them, putting myself last ,and 'the family' first is much of 'who I am'.
Getting divorced,and having my family removed from me by my ex through her alienation did give me a ' new beginning' into the world of being divorced/single and in my 50's.
Branching out into the world of prospective 50+ singles certainly does open the door to people with new and different stories.....baggage? problems? prospects? opportunities?
I was impressed by this woman's boldness, yet sadly had to question "how much had she been drinking?" I'm still more of a 'giver' and would have liked to give her the opportunity to tell me much more about "her story".
You only get one chance to make a first impression in a situation like that, and I may handle it differently in the future.
I told another older female dancing partner about it and one of her responses was " that restaurant has a lot of drinking going on". This is one reason why I only go there with a dance group that's meeting, or one or two of my " wing girls/fellow dancers " and then meet people outside of the group,and can return to the safety of my friends.
Even this other woman who came onto me strong, had her own small group of other ladies that she appeared to be with.
I had gone out to dinner with another meetup group at a different restaurant right before that and met two other women. These women where heading up the meetup group and showed little interest in getting to know me. (it can be really confusing reading all these subtle hints?)
I then met two other woman at another restaurant. 4 women in one evening, face to face, conversations, and bodily contact!!
Much better odds than hours on a dating site, or dealing with the same ,much older crowd I see regularly at the dance studio!