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Post by jerri on Aug 25, 2020 23:48:03 GMT -5
jerri , since your hand technique helps, then maybe a ring would help. Or this variation: getmegiddy.com/Mind you, it sounds like he may have some health conditions to investigate, and some prescription options may also be handy. So, let him see the doctor, regardless. What a superb idea, it looked like he was slightly interested since it would not block his orgasm. I love it! Wooo Hooooo! I was encouraged because he was using his hips and breathing loudly.
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Post by Handy on Aug 25, 2020 23:48:44 GMT -5
Jerri, I would NOT be without my CPAP or maybe it is a BiPAP, different pressures on inhale and exhale. Anyway I really like mine. Too many people think they look weird or are uncomfortable. Well at first but it only took a couple of weeks for me to go from "this is weird" to I won't do with out one. I did come camping without power so no BiPAP, I was tired all the next days. Wood in the morning, well no but a heck of a lot less pee trips at night.
Just sayinf "IF" y0our H needs one, Life is much better than going without one.
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Post by jerri on Aug 25, 2020 23:52:22 GMT -5
With the help of a certain hooker, ED didn't stop this guy from having sex. She uses a low cost looking penis pump on the guy. Google: Old Man With Younger Asian Hooker
The doctor's version
Thanks, Handy, dejavu, I started watching it and stoped, better get back to watching the rest since you also suggested it. I have always loved your suggestions from SexlessMarriage forum. Can't believe I found you first try. I found the link in the SM forum to here.
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Post by jerri on Aug 25, 2020 23:57:10 GMT -5
Jerri, I would NOT be without my CPAP or maybe it is a BiPAP, different pressures on inhale and exhale. Anyway I really like mine. Too many people think they look weird or are uncomfortable. Well at first but it only took a couple of weeks for me to go from "this is weird" to I won't do with out one. I did come camping without power so no BiPAP, I was tired all the next days. Wood in the morning, well no but a heck of a lot less pee trips at night.
Just sayinf "IF" y0our H needs one, Life is much better than going without one.
It could be part of the challenge because he does snore for long periods of time. He may need a sleep study. My brother loved his too. <3
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Post by Handy on Aug 26, 2020 0:02:40 GMT -5
Jerri, the words " Old Man With Younger Asian Hooker" was my way of showing just how determined and how little work it was to have sex. I didn't want to put up the URL because it might be against the forum owner's policies. The video is on xhamster.com From what I saw, this hooker caters to old men. She has 5 minuet clients, no condoms, does a wash-up pre and after sex and then gets paid. By " I found the link in the SM forum to here." did you mean the website www.tapatalk.com/groups/sexlessmarriage/discussion/all Rudra is the woman that has it all figured out on that forum. ILIASM has Baza and others.
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Post by jerri on Aug 26, 2020 0:14:37 GMT -5
Jerri, the words " Old Man With Younger Asian Hooker" was my way of showing just how determined and how little work it was to have sex. I didn't want to put up the URL because it might be against the forum owner's policies. The video is on xhamster.com
From what I saw, this hooker caters to old men. She has 5 minuet clients, no condoms, does a wash-up pre and after sex and then gets paid.By " I found the link in the SM forum to here." did you mean the website www.tapatalk.com/groups/sexlessmarriage/discussion/all Rudra is the woman that has it all figured out on that forum. ILIASM has Baza and others. I hear ya. I noticed StoicWife was on here. I really like them all. Privateer was way to rough on people. I know you guys liked each other, so sorry for your loss. <3
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Post by Handy on Aug 26, 2020 0:20:30 GMT -5
Privateer was the "matter of fact type" so maybe that put some people off. It was sad to hear when she died but that just goes to show you how little a person really knows another posters status. I think she kept the web site more as a support forum because so many posters were looking for a hook-ups, which is sort of difficult given the fact people live so far apart.
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Post by jerri on Aug 26, 2020 0:25:57 GMT -5
If they were not on board with the echo chamber, she didn't hesitate to kick them off. Too many could not have a different opinion. Certainly had several personalities.
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Post by Handy on Aug 26, 2020 0:30:34 GMT -5
Jerri, if you really want harsh or rough on people post about your FWB on forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php/forums/8/1/marriage-builders-101.html and MelodyLane and others will shame you to pieces. On that forum the go to advice is the other spouse in most likely cheating AND if it isn't inline with Dr Harley's advice or books, it is rubbish, do it Dr Harley's way or quit posting. OTH, Mariage Builders has the best questionnaires and other lists that a couple can use.
Back to Ruda, she is good!!!!
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Post by jerri on Aug 26, 2020 0:39:15 GMT -5
We get enough shame in the world. I don't need more. haha. Good to know. P kicked off Plan9fromOs I believe was his name. He is on there. Loved his posts as well. He just wanted to help ppl on SM forum. Yes, she is good. ETA: Handy, You were on the divorce busting forum for a long time with Michelle W Davis. How come everyone kind of left in the SM section?
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Post by Handy on Aug 26, 2020 1:27:15 GMT -5
Divorce busting? Well a group of 20 to 30 of us were making so many posts, buying M W Davis books, discussing many other books and no one was paying the big $$$$ to the website's counselors they have available. One of the divorce busting counselors started telling our group to stop mentioning other books or else. About half of the group got banned for mentioning other author's relationship oriented books so we started our own forum. After our group left "Divorce Busting" that section died compared to what it used to be.
The new forum didn't get many visitors and some of the old posters quit paying for the hosting fees. One member found a free host so we started a second new forum. After 5 years, posts became fewer and fewer and the people were not making much progress solving their respective problems or divorcing. The 2nd mostly private forum is still operational but I haven't looked at it in a year.
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Post by mirrororchid on Aug 26, 2020 5:27:05 GMT -5
Divorce busting? Well a group of 20 to 30 of us were making so many posts, buying M W Davis books, discussing many other books and no one was paying the big $$$$ to the website's counselors they have available. One of the divorce busting counselors started telling our group to stop mentioning other books or else. About half of the group got banned for mentioning other author's relationship oriented books so we started our own forum. After our group left "Divorce Busting" that section died compared to what it used to be. The new forum didn't get many visitors and some of the old posters quit paying for the hosting fees. One member found a free host so we started a second new forum. After 5 years, posts became fewer and fewer and the people were not making much progress solving their respective problems or divorcing. The 2nd mostly private forum is still operational but I haven't looked at it in a year. What were the "divorce busters" most plausible tips? The posts I see from these lovely people seem to lean on communicate you pain and desires, point out how unfair it is to be denied a say, lather rinse repeat. Only one guy like that said Divorce is the nuke you can throw and should be deployed in terms of making it clear the option is on the table. That he couched it in those terms was shocking. The thing is, after you deploy it after each reset. I figure the refuser "calls the bluff" and the sexlessness sticks, or the divorce happens. Because good Christians, divorce; they don't open their marriage. Divorce is the proper Christian thing to do; Jesus said so. (look it up, no he didn't.)
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Post by Handy on Aug 26, 2020 11:59:52 GMT -5
My early memory of "Divorce Busting" was partly implying many professional counselor's long term advice would be to divorce and Michelle W. Davis (MWD) had a plan that avoided most of the divorce options if you followed the advice in her books and eventually the counselors could help you to turn your marriage around. The MWD books brought the problems to light that some counselors advice will make divorce happen because that is many counselors go to mindset. The MWD books suggested people with some help were better than counselors at saving marriages. Like here on ILIASM, there were groups of main topics so not everyone was in a SM. The groups of topics are still the same the last time I looked on the "Divorce Busting" web site. What first impressed to me was the idea that differences in sex drive and activity was a legitimate concern and valid reason why some marriages troublesome for many people. I got the hint wanting more sex didn't make a person a sexual pervert and that for most people having sex a couple times a week did not make me over sexed or that there was something wrong with me, contrary to my W's thinking. Like many other people, I wanted to fix the sexual part om our M and avoid divorce. Other members were hopeful they could do the same thing or something similar. As far as most "plausible tips?" Just the facts that other people have similar issues and some women are also sex starved, which was an eye opener for me. MWD even started a separate website for "Sex Starved Wife." I said it before, our group at the time read and discussed many relationship books. The MWD books and web site got the problems out in the open and was a place to unload and vent. What I really gained from the website is we were not freaks and this SM stuff was a common problem. MWD's books are not bad but do not contain that many "plausible tips." The book that helped me the most was "No More Mr, Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, "Boundaries" by Cloud & Townsend, "Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and the heavy were, if your partner is on board, a couple of David Schnarch's books "Passionate Marriage" and "Intimacy and Desire."
I read over 20 relationship oriented books. No More Mr Nice Guy, Boundaries, and David Schnarch books are the most useful to me.I could do the No More Mr Nice Guy and the boundaries by myself. The Scharch stuff takes two people going in the same direction.
Looking back on how "divorce Busting members faired, only one guy made it big and solved the SM issue. His name is "Young at Heart" (YAH) and still posts on "Talk about Marriage." He used a sex therapist and another therapist that uses the materials endorsed by David Schnarch. The sex therapist asked Mrs YAH if she wanted to be married or divorced. That is when she was onboard with the sexual issues they had. Some other WMD posters are divorced and some like a lot of ILIASM folks are just going along with few or no improvements or they divorced. WMD just brings the issues to light and tells people that a SM IS A PROBLEM for many people and quit calling people that like sex perverts and quit with the saying "all you think about is sex." She normalizes sexual activity in committed relationships
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Post by jerri on Aug 26, 2020 21:46:36 GMT -5
Book is on Pinterest. Open book and view book directly in the box after it is enlarged. I didn't open/click the read button or download. I viewed it from the box itself. The techniques are p. 77-185. The 180 degree technique is something all of us need to be familiar with. I used these techniques only one person needs to learn these. You are basically teaching spouse the techniques by your words actions. Little by little they tend to mirror our changed behavior.it takes time can't change decades in days. I have the hard copy which is easily bought used. pin.it/EspO6pQ
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