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Post by lessingham on Jun 19, 2020 1:53:41 GMT -5
Has anyone tried these. My wife wants us to try as a way forward. They look a bit legalistic but with a bit of word magic, they could be fun. Or not.
Recently we are trying the one minute blow job. She hates them but has agreed to one minute as a compromise, with the prospect of longer. Aint perfect but better thsn no bloe job I suppose
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 19, 2020 8:10:08 GMT -5
I've never had a 1 minute blowjob. I have had many blowjobs that did not result in me cumming. Same thing with PIV , many times only my female partner achieved orgasm, I just couldn't get there.
But some sexual activity is better than none, and perhaps after a bit of time, if you are doing something she enjoys, she might get around to making the oral treat one that ends in a happy landing.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 19, 2020 15:54:45 GMT -5
Come on, lessingham. Your wife gets great pleasure out of promising things and not following through. Even without that, what would be the point of a one minute blowjob from a woman who hates giving blue jobs? How little you would settle for in your own life. You keep trying to change her instead of realizing you can’t change another person.
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Post by lessingham on Jun 20, 2020 5:26:31 GMT -5
The relationship agreement will be an agreement , not a surrender document. I will not sign unless happy. And I agree a one minite blow job is neither here not there in the scheme of things , but it is a step. And maybe a two minuter is on the horizon!!!
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 20, 2020 6:52:27 GMT -5
The relationship agreement will be an agreement , not a surrender document. I will not sign unless happy. And I agree a one minite blow job is neither here not there in the scheme of things , but it is a step. And maybe a two minuter is on the horizon!!! I am pretty indifferent on this idea of a written agreement for a relationship. Didn't you do something along those lines when you married? It seems to me that if you can't take each others word to commit toward working on intimacy and physical closeness a written agreement isn't likely to do much more. It reads like pretty short term approach. Time will quickly tell. But I do agree that if you implement such an agreement it might offer the potential for more than just what is in the initial agreement. And the 1 minute blowjob could easily be smoozed into 3-4 minutes and then 8-10 as time goes by. And perhaps you might consider some sort of penalty for failing to keep either the spirit and/or letter of the agreement. Say if you or she fails repeatedly to give one another the agreed intimacy, then something you really want or like in you life goes away. |
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Post by csl on Jun 20, 2020 8:29:10 GMT -5
What’s the purpose for this one-minute bj? And who suggested it? Is it merely a placation attempt or is it supposed to be a step to something further?
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Post by csl on Jun 20, 2020 8:30:59 GMT -5
The relationship agreement will be an agreement , not a surrender document. I will not sign unless happy. And I agree a one minite blow job is neither here not there in the scheme of things , but it is a step. And maybe a two minuter is on the horizon!!! Maybe always seems to be the key element, doesn’t it? |
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Post by Handy on Jun 20, 2020 10:38:54 GMT -5
One minuet BJs sounds like offering $500 for a $5,000 vehicle.
But considering I am in the zero sex camp, maybe I just better not give advice.
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Post by lwoetin on Jun 20, 2020 14:47:55 GMT -5
I ain't getting a single minute these days so I would be thrilled to get even a few seconds. It was fun a year ago when she did give it more often. However, I would prefer to be the one giving instead of receiving. I saw this clip of a couple having sex and the guy commented that he was feeling really great. And she smiled and said, it is my Specialty. If I can have more chances to get my face wet, I can also say, it is my Specialty. I hope you can enjoy your intimate time with your wife. Perhaps one minute at a time for now.
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Post by Handy on Jun 21, 2020 3:03:29 GMT -5
One minuet BJ's sound like a lap dance, look but don't touch AND she gets paid while I get a hardon but no actual sex or relief.
OTH I am a PIV guy with magic hands that likes to touch bare skin.
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Post by lessingham on Jun 21, 2020 3:50:54 GMT -5
I read an article about Buzz Aldrin on the Moon. He praised Neil Armstrong as a can do guy. Buzz said if the return liftoff had failed Neil would have reversed engineered every step and retried every avenue. The last breath Neil took as they ran out of oxygen would be to say, "hey, I have one ladt idea!"
If the one minute blow job gets my wife over her blanket refusal, it is worth trying. If the relationship agreement helps even a tiny biy, it is worth a go.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 21, 2020 7:13:07 GMT -5
OK, you 2 have made a decision to try this agreement tactic and to see if it changes anything in the marriage or relationship dynamic. I think all that can be said at this point is "good luck". If it works then perhaps you can write a book and go on the talk show circuit. Really, "good luck".
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 21, 2020 12:09:57 GMT -5
lessingham, it seems apropos to say... “Good luck, Mr. Gorsky.”
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Post by lessingham on Jun 22, 2020 3:03:20 GMT -5
Of all the urban myths, that is the one I so wish to be true.
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Post by baza on Jun 23, 2020 1:56:20 GMT -5
With any 'agreement' YOU need to know what YOU are prepared to do in the event of the agreement being breached.
Do YOU know what you are prepared to do should your missus break the agreement ?
Is it clear what she is prepared to do should YOU break the agreement ?
If you don't know the answer to either of these questions then I'd seriously doubt that making a consequence-less agreement has any value at all.
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