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Post by saarinista on Jul 8, 2020 11:04:13 GMT -5
For a “feminist” you sure spend a lot of time discussing mythical straw women instead of focusing on the (apparently very little) positive about women. MRAs have nothing on you. Had to look that acronym up (Men's Rights Activist) Some are obnoxious. Some are pretty sensible: When saarinista says it's "regrettable, I get an air of sympathy/pity for her sisters, not condemnation. She's seeking better rapport. As for "Straw women", you suppose women who get upset at men with higher libidos to be mythical? We might discuss their relative prevalence but to suggest they don't exist? I'm a bit confused. I'm NOT all that sympathetic to my sisters at times. I simple can't condone a woman entering a sexual relationship and then randomly refusing her partner. Yet we see it happening over and over here. It's a matter of equity. If you start a relationship under certain terms, it's unfair to change those terms without renegotiating, which never seems to happen. Do men do the same thing? Sure, and that sucks, too. However, I see women doing it more often. I'm not saying that women are the only refusers, though. Far from it. |
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 8, 2020 11:32:47 GMT -5
Isthstit: “ Your jaw will not fall off. Give it a try. ”
I have no desire to give 30 min blowjobs. I enjoy giving bjs and my lover is very happy with what I provide. He either gets a happy ending or I get fucked. I hike we are in the subject of lengthy sex, I wouldn’t want 30 straight minutes of intercourse or cunnilingus either. Extended intercourse makes me sore as does too much pussy stimulation . People differ in what they like and what’s comfortable for them.
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Post by grower on Jul 8, 2020 12:13:32 GMT -5
One minute blow job sound great, I'll take 10.
It seems like, if it was part of the over all act of
love making. I would be fine with, it. There is a lot
of ground to cover. But hey I'm not lasting a 30
minute one. My main concern is that my partner is
satisfied. But when you are reduced to bargaining
for sexual favors, your fucked already. We have lost
the idea of two people physically loving each other.
If you just want to fuck, get a whore, pocket pussy,
dildo, whatever. Nobody wants to your personal stress
reliever and cum depository. my 2 cents
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Post by saarinista on Jul 8, 2020 12:32:18 GMT -5
Exactly, grower. Sex should be about mutual connection, willing reciprocity and enjoyment, not time clocks, calendars and dreary obligation. When it becomes the latter, you've got bigger problems than sex alone. |
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Post by lessingham on Jul 11, 2020 4:40:15 GMT -5
Ageee about the temporal mechanics , sex should be spontaneous. But if it is a badly damaged part of my life then it needs all the help it can get. And if my wife offers a blow job for a limited time, we do not set alarms, then that is a plus. And she said she now likes the idea, without the pressure to perform. So, an advance!
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Post by csl on Jul 11, 2020 8:32:05 GMT -5
And she said she now likes the idea, without the pressure to perform. So, an advance! Could you clarify that, please? I'm assuming that you aren't saying that she likes the idea if you don't actually expect her to do it, so what "pressure to perform" was she dreading? |
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Post by lessingham on Jul 11, 2020 10:04:41 GMT -5
She hates the thought of squatting on her knees as a rigid penis is shoved down her throat without any care for her. As I never suggested this, who knows where dhe got the dislike from. She is a mass of sexual negativity
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Post by csl on Jul 11, 2020 13:26:34 GMT -5
She hates the thought of squatting on her knees as a rigid penis is shoved down her throat without any care for her. As I never suggested this, who knows where dhe got the dislike from. She is a mass of sexual negativity She’s not wrong, is she? Why squat when there is a whole bed there? And a 69 position, whether oral or otherwise means that she could be cared for as well. I confess that I still don’t understand a concern about “pressure to perform “. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 11, 2020 13:41:40 GMT -5
She hates the thought of squatting on her knees as a rigid penis is shoved down her throat without any care for her. As I never suggested this, who knows where dhe got the dislike from. She is a mass of sexual negativity A couple of suggestions if I may. 1) The most obvious....don't shove your penis down her throat....Let her take in as much as is comfortable for her. After some time has passed (days. maybe weeks) with her giving you oral you could try persuading her to try and take a little more, but always always it has to be her decision on how deep you can go. 2) Change your position. Let her pleasure you in bed with you on your back and her on her side with her head more or less in your lap. This is a pretty comfortable position for both of you. 3) How about testing the waters on a 69? Giving each other oral pleasure is a highly sensual experience. Giving her an orgasm(s) orally could lead to much longer bj's for you. At least as long as it takes her to reach orgasm. As a tutorial on oral technique I suggest the Eros Erotica videos. They are available free at Pornhub and several other sites. Just Google Eros Erotica. EDIT: Damn csl, we were typing the same thing at the same time...... |
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Post by saarinista on Jul 11, 2020 16:54:04 GMT -5
I'm far from convinced either of these suggestions will help. But hey keep them in mind lessingham for your next outsourcing adventure. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 11, 2020 18:37:08 GMT -5
I'm far from convinced either of these suggestions will help. But hey keep them in mind lessingham for your next outsourcing adventure. Who knows saarinista,....After getting back in the dating game I was surprised that several of the women (and therefore their partners also) I met were relatively inexperienced at oral and anal sex. I was just thinking that perhaps Mrs. lessingham may fit in this category. Sometimes it is easier to bring someone along if they are shown the basics of how it works via some other means that's less personal , since they can explore the subject alone and at their own pace. Mrs. L may not go along at all, then again lessingham never though he would be getting any oral sex ever, so perhaps she just might.... Nothing ventured, nothing gained. |
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 11, 2020 19:48:54 GMT -5
Having read the replies in this thread I am now going to throw in my 2 cents.
1. A one minute BJ is infinitely better than no BJ.
2. If the man can sufficiently work himself up then 1 minute may be all that is needed. But of course that would probably be the last 1 minute BJ.
3. A thirty minute BJ? Oh hell no! If she cannot get me off with a 29 minute BJ then she is doing something horribly wrong or I am broken.
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Post by baza on Jul 11, 2020 19:51:13 GMT -5
Just trying to get a handle on this.
It appears the "agreement" was struck on 19th June.
That's roughly 3 weeks ago.
What's happened so far ?
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Post by lessingham on Jul 13, 2020 3:16:15 GMT -5
The agreement floundered on the no masturbation no porn demand. Stakemate there. The blow job idea was working fine but my wife has developed cold sores so that is on hold for the moment.
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Post by baza on Jul 17, 2020 20:00:12 GMT -5
Was just looking back through some back posts, came across one of yours from February 2019 Brother lessingham . At that time you were trialing a "flavoured condom" strategy that your missus had "agreed" to. It's not clear in the thread whether that strategy turned out to have legs or not. Incidently, cold sores is a ripper of a refusal technique, because they are infectious even if there are no visible sores. So a refuser needs only to claim that they have the cold sore virus - whether they do have it or not. |
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