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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 23, 2018 13:46:04 GMT -5
So I found a working hookup /dating sight. My first attempt into new territory. I am not recommending or saying don't go near it. It's all new uncharted waters for me. I am posting my edited portfolio and am putting myself out there for a learning experience for me and others (including our lurker crowd-and future references)
Have at it! I (and others) would appreciate good honest feedback, praise,concerns,criticism,ways to improve what I am looking for? .Reasons why you think it's good or bad? What your present or past experiences have been? What to expect and how to handle it? etc.....
Side note: I chose not to go the eharmoney, match, POF route , yet. They all cost money too. I have to wonder where all the 'refuser' types would be after a breakup or a divorce? my guess? On more of a dating sight. If I get to communicate with someone, especially face to face, and by the 3rd get together, if I learn that sex and intimacy is not one of their needs and goals, than we are not a match.
Side note: I am not posting this to (hook up) with woman on (iliasm) -not that I wouldn't consider it- I know that no one lives in my area.
It's only been a week. So far the woman who are my age, don't return my emails. Instead I have been inundated by woman between the ages of 29-35. They look like Sports Illustrated Swimsuit models. They have careers. Yet they say they are willing to relocate, want a LTR, have no children and eventually want to start a family. The no woman my age, versus the young 30's could change at any time. In one week this was my experience.
Introduction
Looking for a new beginning. I enjoy working out three times a week, bars are not my thing but I love to dance and I am a strong lead.
I am looking for intimacy, sex, and open communication along with easy going joyful times of just being together.
I am open to travel (within the state) and/or hosting. Come and enjoy the beach with me!
My Ideal Person Touch, quality time,words of affirmation, and intimacy are just as important to me as sex. I look forward to gaining your trust.
InformationEdit
Sexual Orientation: Straight
Looking For: Women
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Birthdate: 1964
Relocate?: No
Marital Status: Divorced
Swinger Type: Prefer not to say
Height: 5 ft 10 in
Body Type: Slim/Petite
Smoking: I'm a non-smoker
Drugs: Don't use drugs
Education: Associate degree (2 years college)
Occupation: Landlord/optician
Race: Caucasian
Religion: Christian
Have Children: Yes - at home partly
Want Children: Happy with what they have
Male Endowment: Average / Average
Circumcised: Yes
Speaks: English
Hair Color: Brown
Hair Length: Short
Glasses or Contacts: Glasses
Eye Color: Green
Astrology: Libra (Compatibility)
Personality Type:
Add/edit these topics on your own profile
Have you ever had cybersex?
Unsure/Prefer not to say
What kind of night life do you enjoy?
Intimate gatherings in my home
How big of a role does sex play in your life?
My sex life is little and that's why I'm here!
How much enjoyment do you get from receiving oral sex?
I love oral, but not every single time
What are your thoughts on anal sex?
I haven't tried it, but I'm interested
What's the largest number of people you've shared a sexual encounter with in one session?
I've only had one-on-one sex
Sexual InterestsAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
What types of sexual activities turn you on?
Giving Oral Sex
What types of sexual activities are OFF LIMITS to you?
Sadomasochism
What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?
Physical attraction
Besides the obvious, what areas of your body do you consider erogenous zones?
Ears
Have you ever had erotic pictures or video taken of you?
I'm not into "capturing the moment".
Does size really matter to you?
It doesn't matter. As long as it works, I'm happy.
Do you enjoy talking dirty during sex?
Haven't tried it yet, but I'm willing.
FantasiesAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!
having sex in an orange grove.
What role-playing scenes do you fantasize about?
I'm not into role playing
What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?
A bed, my kitchen countertop
Dreams & GoalsAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
Where would you like to live?
I live at the beach
What would be your dream house?
my current homes
What kind of relationship(s) do you want?
Long term
Physical StuffAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
What is your favorite clothing style(s) during the day?
Casual
What is your favorite clothing style(s) during the night?
Casual
How would you describe your body, style, and appearance?
Slim, broad shoulder, clean cut, young for my age, boyish.
What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?
Honesty
What do you wear for underwear?
Boxer-briefs
What do you think about tattoos?
A few is attractive but not too many
Do you exercise? How?
gym workouts, bicycling, surfing, swimming. Hard labor.
What is your sexual health status?
STD free (tested regularly)
What STDs are you comfortable with your partner having?
STD free (tested regularly)
Entertainment, Sports & HobbiesAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
What type of television shows do you enjoy watching?
I don't watch tv
What kind of music do you enjoy listening to?
Classic Rock
What does listening to music do for you?
It's inspiring
What types of activities interest you?
Reading, helping others
What types of sports and activities are you active in?
Surfing
Work & Living EnvironmentAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
What best describes the pace of your life?
Manageable
How much time does your job take up in your life?
I work part-time
Describe what you do for a living.
I semi retired, landlord and father.
How often are you online?
I'm on for an hour or two a day
What kind of place do you live in?
House
What do you like about where you live?
serene, romantic, tranquility, my front porch and back
deck. You can hear and smell the ocean. Open view of the stars,
with palm trees swaying in the breeze.
What is your current dating situation?
I'm divorced
What types of relationships have you had in the past? Share your story with us!
I was faithful and true for 25 yrs. To much time to family, we grew apart.
What is your family life like?
still strong.
How can Passion help you change your life?
A big ego boost, and I would love to give that to the right
woman.
Outlook on LifeAdd/edit these topics on your own profile
What words best describe your personality?
A bit naïve, getting more confident
What qualities do you look for in a mate?
Honest, someone who wants to be cherished and desired.
What factors are most important to you when looking for someone?
Age
Tell us what things in life are most important to you.
Trust, giving and receiving, sex and intimacy, joy, and
respect.
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 23, 2018 15:30:47 GMT -5
GC- a couple of thinks that jumped out at me: With all due respect, as a woman, I would be turned off by “boyish” and “a bit naive, getting more confident”. I suggest eliminating both of those. And that doesn’t even describe your personality! What about “caring”? “A good listener”? And you talk about honesty being important in a partner - make sure they know you are honest too!
Also, saying “Age” as the only factor “most important to you when looking for someone” would make me think you’re specifically looking for someone younger than yourself. ESPECIALLY since you made a point to state that you feel younger than your age.
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Post by jamesbonding on Sept 23, 2018 18:07:22 GMT -5
My first impression was pretty good. I liked the honesty.
"To much time to family, we grew apart." -- That should be "Too," not "To." Better educated women might be put off by spelling/grammar errors.
As for what to say about why you divorced - it's a difficult question and I really don't know what to say. Maybe others would have better suggestions. Can you skip answering the question so it doesn't even appear in your profile?
Regarding age, my AP was 17 years younger than me (and I was your age at that time). But the age difference was not important to either of us - we hardly even thought about it. On my profile on the dating sites, I think I said I was looking for women anywhere from 20 years younger to 10 years older than my age.
Do you have to pay to use PlentyOfFish now? Nine years ago it was free and very usable without paying anything. There might have been a limitation of 5 new contacts per day or something like that, but that never bothered me.
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Post by elkclan2 on Sept 24, 2018 2:23:42 GMT -5
I was always a bit suspicious of these people who message with a "I'm ready to relocate and start a new chapter in my life" blah, blah, blah. I used to get messages from guys in military uniform - including one who sent the picture of the US Navy's Chief Petty Officer (I think that's right - anyway - the highest ranking NCO in the Navy) - who I looked up on Wikipedia! I seriously doubt that that guy had the time to be messing around on OKCupid - and I also seriously doubt that if he was he was ready to chuck in his well-established Naval career to set up house with me. SCAMMER! Block and report!
All this stuff is a bit of a numbers game. I did find my partner through OKCupid, but there was a lot of separating wheat from chaff. It took some time. But I (mostly) enjoyed the process. Even the scammers - kind of enjoyed that, too. When I was feeling a bit bored I'd mess with them sometimes - it really infuriated me that these guys were pretending to be US military using the actual pictures of servicemen who had no idea their pictures were being used until they'd get blowback from some pissed off person. It infuriated me that these people were preying on the lonely.
One trick is to copy and paste any substantial amount of text into Google, and if it appears again and again in dating profiles they're either scammers or so deeply unoriginal I'd have passed anyway.
I like your personal rule/guideline about 3rd date. Seems right.
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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Sept 24, 2018 5:52:51 GMT -5
I have had similar experiences on dating sites...so I actually stopped using them. I found that guys I messaged were nothing like their post/photos or the men around my age that I would have been interested in were looking for women 10 - 15 years younger. Men that messaged me weren't genuine...or just looking for a free ride (money and sex) lol
My kids are all in their 20s. They seem to have no trouble finding people organically - even in our small town. I am not seeing the same success in my mid forties!
Hopefully this new site works out for you!
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 24, 2018 12:08:08 GMT -5
If you are basically looking for sex it seems that you're on the right dating site. However, if you're looking for more such as a romantic, sexual and emotionally intimate relationship with a woman who has similar values including sharing your spiritual beliefs and appreciating your being a dad, I think you're on the wrong site. Based on the site's template you seem to be responding to, it seems like a site designed to help people meet sexual partners. Otherwise, i can't imagine any reason to include in your profile the size of your dick and whether or not you're circumsized or are into s&m. For instance, while I have my preferences, far more important to me are the size of a man's heart, his ability to be compassionate and empathic, his sharing of my political and social values, and having a spiritual/religious path that is compatible with mine. I'd want him to view sexual intimacy as important in a romantic relationship, and I'd want him to be sexually functional, but unless a man literally had a micropeen (a dick the size of a baby's), dick size or circumcision/noncircumcision would not be a deal breaker for me.
I believe you've made a mistake in ruling out eharmony. The two women I know who used it definitely did like sex. One was mid 60s, had been a widow for 8 years after a marriage that had included frequent sex until her husband became bedridden a few years before his death. A couple of years after he died, she got involved in a hot affair with a younger married man. After a while, she got tired of that and realized she was over her grief over her husband enough to start looking for a new husband. She decided to use e-Harmony and ended up connecting with a man her age, religion and who also had similar interests and was interested in sex. They have been married now for 6 years. The other woman I know who used eHarmony was in in her mid 50s and in the process of divorcing. She lied on e-Harmony and said she already was divorced (You have to be single, widowed or divorced to be on e-harmony). She was in a sexual/relationship with a single man but wanted to move on because she didn't view him as a good potential longterm partner. She definitely likes sex and told me she was having a very active and fulfilling sex life with her romantic partner but wanted to find someone more financially stable for a longterm partner. She ended up not finding anyone on eHarmony -- perhaps because potential partners found out she had lied about being single. I suspect there aren't a lot of women like her who'd use e-Harmony. She is a Christian, active in her church, prominently wears a cross, but her lying and cheating behavior isn't in line with Christian values.
Anyway, consider whether you are using the right platform and giving the kind of message that would attract to you the kind of women and relationships you'd want. From the women you've described who've seemed interested thus far, I think you're attracting women hoping to be sugar babies.
Great that you've included your interest in dancing. if it is true that if a woman enjoys dancing and is fun to be with, you'd be glad to go dancing with her even if she's not a great dancer, say that. Otherwise, women who aren't great dancers may think that you'd only like to be with other great dancers. You're suggesting that with "strong lead" but that may go over their heads.
You've always indicated that your church is important to you so that would be important information to include in your profile along with some info about what activities you enjoy at your church. Since at least in the U.S., people are no longer hanging out with people whose political orientation is very different, including your political leanings would help you find a compatible woman. Saying what you enjoy reading also would help with this.
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 24, 2018 12:13:35 GMT -5
I have had similar experiences on dating sites...so I actually stopped using them. I found that guys I messaged were nothing like their post/photos or the men around my age that I would have been interested in were looking for women 10 - 15 years younger. Men that messaged me weren't genuine...or just looking for a free ride (money and sex) lol My kids are all in their 20s. They seem to have no trouble finding people organically - even in our small town. I am not seeing the same success in my mid forties! Hopefully this new site works out for you! Okay, if this is true, that men are just looking for woman 10-15 yrs younger, than what are the woman my age looking for? I am not hearing back from them.One of them ,by the way, is an atheist and a secular humanist. Yet she kept checking out my profile for days. We had a polite, interesting conversation online. She is not interested. Meanwhile I am receiving today two more emails from woman who are both 35 yrs old. |
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 24, 2018 12:37:58 GMT -5
FWIW: When I was on on-line dating sites, I was 62 and was interested in men 52-66 whose politics were in line with my progressive politics; were honest; liked (not just lusted after) women; were compassionate, empathic, intelligent enough for me to enjoy conversing with them without having to dumb myself down; were no longer angry or bitter about their failed past romantic relationships; were not big sports fans, hunters, or guys whose idea of a great time is camping (My profile said that my idea of camping is staying at Motel 6. I don't eat meat. Guns repel me as does hunting.). I also wanted a man to have longterm friendships preferably with men and women and to be a happy person with interests of his own, not a man desperately looking for a woman to save him from misery and to create a social life for him. I didn't want a man who had so many family or job responsibilities that he'd have little time for me. I wanted a man to be self supporting and his spiritual/religious values needed to be compatible with mine. I'm an atheist Buddhist. He needn't also be atheist or Buddhist but i knew I wouldn't be compatible with a person in a proselytizing religion or who assumed that atheists are immoral, unethical people. I wanted a man who liked sex and was good at it, but viewed it as something to do as part of a relationship that's at least a friendship, not something that one falls into on a first date. I also wanted a man willing to be in a monogamous sexual relationship. And I definitely didn't want to date anyone who had been incarcerated or who had a history of drug addiction.
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 24, 2018 12:48:34 GMT -5
A divorced, attractive, childless, slim sex-loving, house-owning woman friend who just turned 50 (and looks younger) is looking on dating sites for: a single or divorced or widowed man her age who is healthy, active, attractive, doesn't have kids or at least doesn't have a lot of responsibility for kids or elderly parents, is not religious, enjoys outdoor activities like running, hiking, travel, kayaking and is good in bed. She's in a professional job and would like her romantic partners to be able to converse with her friends and colleagues.
Another divorced, attractive (slightly overweight but busty, long red hair), childless woman friend about age 55 (looks younger) is looking for an attractive, intelligent, progressive man who is self supporting, likes animals, and enjoys camping. She also wants him to like sex and to be sexually functional and to be able to converse with her friends, who, like her, have professional jobs. She'd prefer that he not have major responsibilities for children or elderly parents.
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 24, 2018 12:49:54 GMT -5
My first impression was pretty good. I liked the honesty. I agree with this. I am just seeing this on a laptop now. I viewed it before through tapatalk on my phone and it only showed the bottom third of your original post (starting at "How would you describe your body, style, and appearance?") so there wasn't as much to go on when I first responded. I do agree though with NSMs suggestion that you may be on the wrong platform and that could be why you are attracting so many women who seem to want a sugar daddy. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 24, 2018 16:43:32 GMT -5
If you are basically looking for sex it seems that you're on the right dating site. However, if you're looking for more such as a romantic, sexual and emotionally intimate relationship with a woman who has similar values including sharing your spiritual beliefs and appreciating your being a dad, I think you're on the wrong site. Based on the site's template you seem to be responding to, it seems like a site designed to help people meet sexual partners. Otherwise, i can't imagine any reason to include in your profile the size of your dick and whether or not you're circumsized or are into s&m. For instance, while I have my preferences, far more important to me are the size of a man's heart, his ability to be compassionate and empathic, his sharing of my political and social values, and having a spiritual/religious path that is compatible with mine. I'd want him to view sexual intimacy as important in a romantic relationship, and I'd want him to be sexually functional, but unless a man literally had a micropeen (a dick the size of a baby's), dick size or circumcision/noncircumcision would not be a deal breaker for me. Anyway, consider whether you are using the right platform and giving the kind of message that would attract to you the kind of women and relationships you'd want. From the women you've described who've seemed interested thus far, I think you're attracting women hoping to be sugar babies. Great that you've included your interest in dancing. if it is true that if a woman enjoys dancing and is fun to be with, you'd be glad to go dancing with her even if she's not a great dancer, say that. Otherwise, women who aren't great dancers may think that you'd only like to be with other great dancers. You're suggesting that with "strong lead" but that may go over their heads. You've always indicated that your church is important to you so that would be important information to include in your profile along with some info about what activities you enjoy at your church. Since at least in the U.S., people are no longer hanging out with people whose political orientation is very different, including your political leanings would help you find a compatible woman. Saying what you enjoy reading also would help with this. Thank you for taking the time to give me a caring response! I am not going to word this very well, so forgive me as I type this out. I know what I want, and I don't know what I want! After having my eyes opened to all that I sacrificed and went through, I am well trained at putting myself last. I am also well aware, possibly too paranoid ,about woman my age who have long given up on sex, and want a friend only. This ,is one of my main reasons for trying out a sight that is more of a hook up sight. (you've read my experiences with meetup groups) I haven't even experienced being with a person who wants a NSA to know if I would like it or not. I haven't been with a woman who wants a STR to know if I would like it or not. I haven't been with a woman who wants a LTR/FWB to know what that will be like, weather she is my age or much younger. I do believe that eharmony would not be the place to experience that. I also remember, what others said on here and what I have read. eharmony makes you fill out this L O N G profile of questions. They then claim to match you with the person(s) that best fit your profile. They do that. The fact that they live in Alaska, and you live in Florida, is irrelevant. No refund! Then you keep paying your money, month after month and they tell you " we found your match ,there are no others". At least on a sight like the one I joined I can put in " within 20 miles or 70 miles" and go from there. Also in a lot of sites like POF or Tinder you do the deciding. About the dancing. I learned to dance because our singles group had dances every month 25 yrs ago.. I did not want to be a wallflower. I personally enjoy it. Yes there are women who like a guy who can dance. I met my ex on the dance floor at our singles group. my experience with 'losing my second virginity' was helped by my time together on the dance floor. I have also heard the opposite. Men who dance are gay! Dancing for a man is one of the farthest things that men like to do. It's not masculine. Don't tell a woman ,you like or know how to dance ,especially ballroom dancing!. (Remember, I've been out of this....dating thing..... for 25 yrs!) Next comes church. My faith IS strongly ingrained in my everyday thinking. Church is not. There are things about the hypocrisy of today's church that repeat themselves from the same "religious" crowd that the Bible warns about. Another MAJOR roadblock was/is my ex. and many other woman I have known who are just like her. Very fake and " religious" on the outside. You want to know the real person? take them to court. Here is just one example : The church I attend has a women's bible study that meets during the week in the morning. One day I was in the building, volunteering my time to set up all the chairs (300 of them) by myself. I was asked to leave, by one of the pastors. I pressed for "why, aren't these the same woman I am around on Sunday?" I was told " because the woman will be coming into the building and some of the ladies have had past problems with men. We can't have you on the property". I said " but you will be here, and the other men pastors, do they leave?" I was told "they stay in their office". That's reverse discrimination. False allegations, before anything even happens. Guilty until proven innocent. Other men have shared the same story at our men's group. It seems to be a recurring theme in churches. ( Please,let's not get into it . I digress) Starting off by finding out if someone has a strong desire for sex and intimacy, and finds me desirable, is currently A higher priority. I've gone the other wrought and failed terribly. I don't even like to talk politics anymore. it's to stressful. Instead I am meeting people who love nature, outdoors, art, children, sex and intimacy. I just haven't been with another woman long enough to see how true it all is and where it would lead me. If I ever had the opportunity to host an orgy at my house I can. I have my new home to myself every other week. I have every other week to travel. Would I like that? Probably not- then again... I have no idea. Would I like to end up in another SEXLESS relationship with a woman who shares my values on politics, religion, and dance? HECK NO!!! I will do my best to always fall back on this. " I am content being single and can be happy without a partner. I know where my true faith is. I will not put that in another person. Meanwhile I understand that it is not good for a man to be alone. To thine own self be true. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 24, 2018 16:55:40 GMT -5
My first impression was pretty good. I liked the honesty. I agree with this. I am just seeing this on a laptop now. I viewed it before through tapatalk on my phone and it only showed the bottom third of your original post (starting at "How would you describe your body, style, and appearance?") so there wasn't as much to go on when I first responded. I do agree though with NSMs suggestion that you may be on the wrong platform and that could be why you are attracting so many women who seem to want a sugar daddy. I did like your suggestions and made the appropriate changes. In my Pic it's me from the waist up. I am wearing a shirt, my glasses, and a big smile. Other men, mostly younger than me want to show off their 6 pack ( if it really is them) and of course, the 'dick picks". I was pleased to see the number of women who cry, "no dick pics". This sight, like many others is full of people who don't even read your profile, they just go by the picture and briefly scan a few things. I am also filtering through the responses I get from those who could be wanting a sugar daddy. Finding out how self supportive they are, and letting them know, "my kids still live with me, I get alimony, come and visit me ,but your not moving in. |
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 24, 2018 17:29:21 GMT -5
"About the dancing. I learned to dance because our singles group had dances every month 25 yrs ago.. I did not want to be a wallflower. I personally enjoy it. Yes there are women who like a guy who can dance. I met my ex on the dance floor at our singles group. my experience with 'losing my second virginity' was helped by my time together on the dance floor.
I have also heard the opposite. Men who dance are gay! Dancing for a man is one of the farthest things that men like to do. It's not masculine. Don't tell a woman ,you like or know how to dance ,especially ballroom dancing!. (Remember, I've been out of this....dating thing..... for 25 yrs!)"
When I got back into the dating scene 6 years ago as I was divorcing, i went to a lot of dances with one of my women friends and her boyfriend, who hung out with me to give me confidence. We all were 50s-60s. Most of the people where we went to dance were between about 40-70. It definitely was not a place where gay men hung out. They go to places where they are likely to meet other gay men, not heteros. Anyway, if you like to dance, I think it could be explained more in your profile. There are plenty of hetero middle aged women who like to dance and would be attracted to a man who danced. They'd also be smart enough to figure out that if you were on a dating site obviously looking for women, you're very likely to be hetero.
One of my single woman friends who on-line dated loved dancing and wanted to find a romantic partner who also liked dancing. She made "dancing' part of her on-line name. My partner used to dance before I started dating him. As you did, he took ballroom dancing when he was young as a way of meeting women. Unfortunately, he had back surgery 10 or so years ago and that lead to a foot problem that makes dancing difficult for him. I'm sorry because I'd love to go dancing but wouldn't feel comfortable doing it with other men except for my gay son, who, alas, lives far away.
Maybe at some point you'll reconsider eHarmony. One of my friends who liked sex and met her husband there is an atheist Jew who was Jewish by birth. Her husband had converted to judaism and wanted to be with a jewish partner, but didn't mind that my friend was nonpracticing and atheist. As for distance, they lived a 4.5 hour drive away, but met soon after talking on the phone a few times. They clicked and started seeing each other. By the end of the year, they decided to marry and now have been married around 6-7 years. So distance may not be as much of a factor as you might think if you were to meet the right person.
When do you find this out : "Starting off by finding out if someone has a strong desire for sex and intimacy, and finds me desirable, is currently A higher priority. I've gone the other wrought and failed terribly."
I didn't find my partner of 5 years sexually attractive until we'd gone on about 3 days over a 3 month period (we were both super busy so didn't have much time to see each other). Before we dated, I didn't even find him physically attractive. I'd known him for years and had wondered what his girlfriends saw in him. I also thought he was dull and told dull jokes. I went out with him strictly as a practice date and because I figured if he wasn't romance/sex potential, he could become more of a friend. But on the first date, I found out how much we had in common, and I learned a lot about him that caused me to admire his character. The next month, he invited me to a small Oscar party at his house, which was fun. A couple of weeks later, we went to a play -- dutch treat -- with some friends, and ended up hanging out together afterward and having our first kiss. Instant chemistry! That's when I became sexually attracted to him.
Now, I look at him and he's literally the love of my life. I find him handsome, sexy, sensual, funny, etc. He can just look at me and I get turned on. But if he had expected that from our first date or the first time I saw his picture, we definitely wouldn't be together.
Still curious about what you want from dating sites: a series of brief hook-ups with sexually willing women? The opportunity have brief relationships with sexually willing women? The chance to meet someone who'd become a longterm sexual/romantic partner?
I know what i was hoping for when I got back into the dating world after 35 (!) years was to have a series of about 3 month long monogamous, romantic sexual relationships. I thought i really wanted to be a serial monogamist. But then I met the love of my life and now we've been monogamously together for 5 years and I have no desire to be with anyone else. So, don't be surprised if your goals change.
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Post by sadkat on Sept 24, 2018 20:51:03 GMT -5
From the perspective of a woman in her mid 50’s, if I were out looking for a date, my first priority would be to find out what you were looking for. Is it a hook-up, short term relationship, long term relationship? I didn’t get a clear idea from your profile. I think you need to think about and decide what you really want. As for age, I would not consider anyone greater than 10 years older or younger. I’d want to be challenged intellectually. I’d also be looking for specific characteristics that are important to me. So, use spell check and make sure your profile is free of errors. Be specific about what is important to you so that someone like me can do a good comparison.
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 24, 2018 21:11:19 GMT -5
From the perspective of a woman in her mid 50’s, if I were out looking for a date, my first priority would be to find out what you were looking for. Is it a hook-up, short term relationship, long term relationship? I didn’t get a clear idea from your profile. I think you need to think about and decide what you really want. As for age, I would not consider anyone greater than 10 years older or younger. I’d want to be challenged intellectually. I’d also be looking for specific characteristics that are important to me. So, use spell check and make sure your profile is free of errors. Be specific about what is important to you so that someone like me can do a good comparison. That's fine, and I greatly appreciate your answers,truly! let me ask you this, in a respectful manner, after you are divorced and the dating world is an entirely new concept for you, after 25 yrs of being programmed to not think about ever being with anyone else, would you find the freedom to have or decide ,on a NSA, or a STR or a LTR or a FWB an easy decision? Since you haven't experienced any of them? That's just me being honest about it. That's a characteristic that's important, (being honest) I hope to have more communication, before I meet a person and when I meet this person. ( I'm not going to drop my pants for just anybody) Again, respectfully , if someone can't get past a type error, or they used "their instead of there". That reminds me too much of my " you will never be good enough ex". On a happier note  There have been 35 yr old women who already have quite an extensive background in their careers and achieving their ambitions, and are very well spoken intellectually who I have been communicating with. If it never goes anywhere, It's all good practice. A learning experience for what I want and how to say it. |
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There have been 35 yr old women who already have quite an extensive background in their careers and achieving their ambitions, and are very well spoken intellectually who I have been communicating with. If it never goes anywhere, It's all good practice. A learning experience for what I want and how to say it.