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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 22:01:35 GMT -5
Because you've SEEN so many MEMBERS! geddit? Bow chicka bow wow Some members are better than others... Sorry...thread hijack off |
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Post by unmatched on May 24, 2016 22:43:57 GMT -5
I just noticed that CreelUnion has 4 stars, and is no longer a "Full Member" but a "Senior Member." SNORT --Wait, so are you! How many stars ARE there? is there an "Awesome Member" category? There is - all you have to do is play Word Association games for about a week and you will be there in no time  |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2016 8:03:17 GMT -5
I just noticed that CreelUnion has 4 stars, and is no longer a "Full Member" but a "Senior Member." SNORT --Wait, so are you! How many stars ARE there? is there an "Awesome Member" category? I hadn't noticed that. Rats. I guess this is like everything else. I peaked at Full Member, and it's excuses and medication from this point forward. I just have to come to terms with my mortality. |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2016 12:12:14 GMT -5
I just noticed that CreelUnion has 4 stars, and is no longer a "Full Member" but a "Senior Member." SNORT --Wait, so are you! How many stars ARE there? is there an "Awesome Member" category? I had to like this so I could unlike it. I'm so embarrassed. Been researching all morning about how to get that "full member" back. I don't want to be like the guy that bballgirl wrote about that didn't have enough stamina to walk up a set of stairs. |
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Post by timeforliving2 on Jun 15, 2016 22:27:08 GMT -5
*** However what I've learned is if two people are compatible, there's attraction, chemistry, affection, get along, things in common, etc. then THAT is AWESOME. I agree. I never really bought into the "soulmate" idea at any time in my life, but certainly after a SM I think in terms of how compatible people are together in the important areas of life... several that you just mentioned. I don't think there are any 2 people that are 100% compatible / the same on everything... so then it comes down to thinking about that sliding scale on *how* compatible you two are on all of the key things you're looking for. What's also important is having a list of deal breakers, and being clear on what they are / where the line is on each one. Ideally I think you want to have your deal breaker list before starting a new relationship, but if you are in early stages you can put one together or review/update one too without being potentially conflicted / biased. BBallGirl... Wishing you good luck on this relationship. I also think deep down you know what you want, so be honest with yourself, and as you said, communicate something immediately to this guy if some aspect is not working for you. Can't waste time! TL2 |
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 15, 2016 23:14:00 GMT -5
*** However what I've learned is if two people are compatible, there's attraction, chemistry, affection, get along, things in common, etc. then THAT is AWESOME. I agree. I never really bought into the "soulmate" idea at any time in my life, but certainly after a SM I think in terms of how compatible people are together in the important areas of life... several that you just mentioned. I don't think there are any 2 people that are 100% compatible / the same on everything... so then it comes down to thinking about that sliding scale on *how* compatible you two are on all of the key things you're looking for. What's also important is having a list of deal breakers, and being clear on what they are / where the line is on each one. Ideally I think you want to have your deal breaker list before starting a new relationship, but if you are in early stages you can put one together or review/update one too without being potentially conflicted / biased. BBallGirl... Wishing you good luck on this relationship. I also think deep down you know what you want, so be honest with yourself, and as you said, communicate something immediately to this guy if some aspect is not working for you. Can't waste time! TL2 Thanks TL2. Yes I actually made my list before I was even divorced. Before I even thought I would get a divorce. So yes I do know what I want. I'm still in touch with this man. We had a fun time. He's been not well so we haven't been able to see each other since but we text every day and I'm sure we will see each other again. The beauty of it is I'm in no hurry. I'm actually content being by myself until i know it's the right one. |
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Post by baza on Jun 16, 2016 5:25:29 GMT -5
Your opening post to the thread Sister BB -
"So I had a very good date yesterday with a pretty cool man. We have A LOT in common with our interests.
I realize that it's very early in this acquaintance.
He did convey to me that he doesn't want to rush into intercourse. My mind thinks: ok maybe he's being a gentleman and I appreciate that. The other part of my mind goes a million miles a minute (I love alliteration): what if he has ED? What if he just wants companionship and not crazy hot sex? What if this and what if that?
He wants to go to a hotel this weekend for some fun but not sex. In my book hotels are for fucking!
I'm a little confused however so far I like him."
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You've now got some of the answers to your "what ifs".
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 16, 2016 18:28:53 GMT -5
Your opening post to the thread Sister BB - "So I had a very good date yesterday with a pretty cool man. We have A LOT in common with our interests.
I realize that it's very early in this acquaintance.
He did convey to me that he doesn't want to rush into intercourse. My mind thinks: ok maybe he's being a gentleman and I appreciate that. The other part of my mind goes a million miles a minute (I love alliteration): what if he has ED? What if he just wants companionship and not crazy hot sex? What if this and what if that?
He wants to go to a hotel this weekend for some fun but not sex. In my book hotels are for fucking!
I'm a little confused however so far I like him."- You've now got some of the answers to your "what ifs". Thanks for reposting that for me. You are very logical and really know how to get to the core of things and I appreciate all of your valuable insight. Yes some of the what ifs are answered and they are positive. A few things I'm still confused about but time will answer those what ifs as well. I only went on two dates and had so much fun but he got an sick, had to go to the hospital for treatment but he's getting better and we will see each other again. Thanks for helping me realize that some things I was concerned about turned out to not be of consequence. |
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Post by cc on Jun 24, 2016 16:57:00 GMT -5
Okay, I don't want to get off topic at all here, so I hope this is a good question. At our age, with our past, how SAFE do you feel being alone with someone in a hotel room? I watch too many police procedural's. Not safe at all. :eek: |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2016 23:04:59 GMT -5
Okay, I don't want to get off topic at all here, so I hope this is a good question. At our age, with our past, how SAFE do you feel being alone with someone in a hotel room? I watch too many police procedural's. Not safe at all. :eek: When I met one lady for the first time, within ten minutes she worked it into the conversation that her cousin was the county sheriff. Good for her. We had corresponded quite a while before meeting, but meeting in the flesh is another level of vulnerablility. We did end up in a hotel room. That was a bigger risk for me than for her. If she had made any accusations, I'd have had my nuts hooked up to a car battery in the basement of the county jail. |
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Post by cc on Jun 25, 2016 0:01:15 GMT -5
I watch too many police procedural's. Not safe at all. :eek: When I met one lady for the first time, within ten minutes she worked it into the conversation that her cousin was the county sheriff. Good for her. We had corresponded quite a while before meeting, but meeting in the flesh is another level of vulnerablility. We did end up in a hotel room. That was a bigger risk for me than for her. If she had made any accusations, I'd have had my nuts hooked up to a car battery in the basement of the county jail. 😂 |
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Post by cc on Jun 25, 2016 0:01:52 GMT -5
😂
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