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Post by ironhamster on Aug 19, 2017 15:19:56 GMT -5
What she does is up to her. Her health is a totally different matter.
How is she "dependant"? Is she an invalid? Is she hooked on a wealthy lifestyle?
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Post by celibatejoe on Aug 19, 2017 15:33:11 GMT -5
Oh god, I am by no means wealthy. I barely make my age, but I do have a job, and she doesn't, and probably will never have one.
She has a home and someone who cares about her, which is good because her own family doesn't.
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Post by ironhamster on Aug 19, 2017 16:00:40 GMT -5
Oh god, I am by no means wealthy. I barely make my age, but I do have a job, and she doesn't, and probably will never have one. She has a home and someone who cares about her, which is good because her own family doesn't. Well, I'm glad it works for the two of you, but I don't get it. She must be freaking incredible at cooking and cleaning and conversation. Um. Is it possible that the only reason she refuses you is that you suck in bed? I can tell you that my wife takes her lack of sexual ability seriously enough to cry about it never being enough, but won't do a thing to fix it. Do you feel bad, similarly? |
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Post by celibatejoe on Aug 19, 2017 16:07:06 GMT -5
She doesn't cook, clean or articulate well. She has little education and swears like a sailor. Plus she is always disappearing to have a cigarette.
She doesn't want pity sex. We've talked about that much. She wants to desired, not serviced.
My wife has plenty of sexual ability. She can be a freak, but that's not what I need.
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Post by ironhamster on Aug 19, 2017 16:40:37 GMT -5
She doesn't cook, clean or articulate well. She has little education and swears like a sailor. Plus she is always disappearing to have a cigarette. She doesn't want pity sex. We've talked about that much. She wants to desired, not serviced. My wife has plenty of sexual ability. She can be a freak, but that's not what I need. If I were in your shoes, and I actually cared about her, I'd be down on my hands and knees before her begging her to find a third. |
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 19, 2017 16:51:47 GMT -5
Celibatejoe, she doesn't seem to have much on the ball. Why did you marry her? Because she worshipped you?
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Post by celibatejoe on Aug 19, 2017 17:01:00 GMT -5
If I were in your shoes, and I actually cared about her, I'd be down on my hands and knees before her begging her to find a third. That's the BDSM solution, right. That makes no sense to me at all, and wouldn't to her. She'd be quite offended if I did that, actually. |
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Post by ironhamster on Aug 19, 2017 17:06:44 GMT -5
If I were in your shoes, and I actually cared about her, I'd be down on my hands and knees before her begging her to find a third. That's the BDSM solution, right. That makes no sense to me at all, and wouldn't to her. She'd be quite offended if I did that, actually. That has nothing to do with anything other than being a caring person for someone you say you care about. Polyamory has nothing more to do with kinky fun than monogamy does. |
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Post by ironhamster on Aug 19, 2017 17:09:25 GMT -5
I feel I should echo NorthStarMom's question. It seems like you picked one from the bottom of the barrel. Do you by chance have a hero complex? Are you helping her become a better more productive person?
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 19, 2017 17:32:58 GMT -5
Or does he need to have a partner that worships him?
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Post by celibatejoe on Aug 19, 2017 20:37:28 GMT -5
It's really not my suggestion to make, one way or the other. I'm not that kind of paternalistic, manipulative, controlling husband.
She'll cheat if she wants. She'll not cheat if she doesn't. It's her decision to make, not mine.
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Post by celibatejoe on Aug 19, 2017 20:39:03 GMT -5
Celibatejoe, she doesn't seem to have much on the ball. Why did you marry her? Because she worshipped you? She has a lot more than you, if you ask me. Talk all the shit you want about me. Leave my wife out of it. |
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Post by h on Aug 19, 2017 21:07:10 GMT -5
Celibatejoe, she doesn't seem to have much on the ball. Why did you marry her? Because she worshipped you? She has a lot more than you, if you ask me. Talk all the shit you want about me. Leave my wife out of it. Umm, you're the one who listed all the things she doesn't do... |
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Post by Venus Erotes on Aug 19, 2017 21:11:12 GMT -5
I'm seriously confused here...
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Post by celibatejoe on Aug 19, 2017 21:23:31 GMT -5
She has a lot more than you, if you ask me. Talk all the shit you want about me. Leave my wife out of it. Umm, you're the one who listed all the things she doesn't do... That's true, and in retrospect perhaps I shouldn't have. My wife and I are an odd couple but I don't need to defend my motives. There's a lot more to marriage than sex, and that is not why either of us married the other. |
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