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Post by bballgirl on Jul 11, 2017 8:14:56 GMT -5
Hang in there greatcoastal It sounds like that was very much in your favor and it will work out. The process is in motion and at some point this year, you will be divorced. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 11, 2017 10:49:11 GMT -5
Hang in there greatcoastal It sounds like that was very much in your favor and it will work out. The process is in motion and at some point this year, you will be divorced. I'd be honored to be in the same "graduating class" as greatcoastal. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 11, 2017 11:22:14 GMT -5
greatcoastal , I'd be curious to hear how far back the manipulations of funds have been unearthed. I'll bet it's well before you filed. Separately, I may have already relayed this story, but there was a woman who concealed in her divorce that she'd won a chunk in the lottery (like <$100k). When she got dragged back into court over it, the judge awarded 100% of the winnings to her husband for her underhandedness. You should be so lucky. I wouldn't call what occurred in our early years "manipulation". However there has always been a much higher percentage of control of money and investments handed over to my wife. Yes, handed over. Her income (double mine) covered expenses, and mine was gravy. She invested the "gravy" in stocks. A foreign planet to me! Now fast forward 19 yrs (6 years ago) . Now about $200,000 came into play. (Inheritance money) Under my control. Along with adopting two other children, and the sale and buying of a bigger house. Well before I filed. Lots, and lots, of manipulation! All on her part. Now go forward to the past year. The divorce. Lots, and lots, of manipulation, and moving of funds! |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 18, 2017 8:33:24 GMT -5
Some good news!!
My judge is having surgery, and was not going to be available tomorrow. My court date is postponed, I get to keep my judge. My name will be put on the roster after his recovery from his minor surgery.
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Post by tamara68 on Jul 18, 2017 8:42:24 GMT -5
Some good news!! My judge is having surgery, and was not going to be available tomorrow. My court date is postponed, I get to keep my judge. My name will be put on the roster after his recovery from his minor surgery. Do you need more time for preparation? |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 18, 2017 9:17:23 GMT -5
Some good news!! My judge is having surgery, and was not going to be available tomorrow. My court date is postponed, I get to keep my judge. My name will be put on the roster after his recovery from his minor surgery. Do you need more time for preparation? Thank you for asking! No, I don't. However it seems like every day my STBX pulls another stunt that backs my case. More and more dirt against her! What's crazy is that it's not a matter of "justice is blind, the law will prevail, equal treatment for everyone". The reality is, "which judge you get!" This is where having an experienced attorney helps. She knows which judge is more favorable, more up to date on current laws, the most competent for dealing with a controller like my STBX. (she also knows which judges DO NOT like my stbx's attorney!!, He ran for judge once and said some nasty things during his campaign that he lost. All remembered by the current judges on the bench.....politics!) Why that should have anything to do with my divorce, is beyond me. But the truth is, it does. Such is life! Instead of getting 50/50, ( and believe me, somethings need to be 100/0 for justice to be truly served!) this judge is more likely to go 70/30 in my favor. |
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Post by tamara68 on Jul 18, 2017 11:01:14 GMT -5
I hope it Will all be in your favor!
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 11, 2017 10:28:23 GMT -5
FINALLY!! My W. was served her notice late yesterday: On Dec. 12 2017, an Amended Motion for Temporary Relief and Motion for Contempt!
Things have continued to be postponed due to my W Contempt of standing orders to answer subpoenas, (which has happened) then came the courts shutting down for 2 weeks due to Hurricane Irma. This rescheduled all cases in the court system.
There's so much more going on here... I'm reluctant to post too much of it, I'd rather wait until the outcome.
I will share that my W's reluctance to buy groceries, pay for our child's health care, spending of retirement fund money for court costs, and cancelling auto insurance,etc... have all been in violation of the courts standing orders. Due to this, and many other things I am going for full custody.
Even though things have been delayed, dragged out, and postponed-like the bad things that happen in our marriages- there is a silver lining. This has given more time to gather more evidence in my favor that will benefit my case-and hopefully the whole family- for years to come.
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 11, 2017 10:33:17 GMT -5
So happy for you! It will all work out for you and your kids!!
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 11, 2017 11:03:45 GMT -5
So happy for you! It will all work out for you and your kids!! The kids.....my teens and adult teens. There have been so many times when I find myself talking one on one with my son or daughter and saying " you don't have to do that, you can stand up to her, good for you for saying no". Then there is "your mother refuses to pay this, your mother is cancelling that, your mother is trying to do this." All things that affect them, and they need to know what's happening. It was good to see them take a stand, to agree that their mother is being controlling, selfish,and how much of all this ,comes down to manipulation and money, however.....-this is the important part- I am trying to back off from saying so many negatives about their mom and just in general. I think they've got the picture, and I wan't to start building up the fact that I can be a happy person and that better times are ahead. Also understanding that they too have enough going on in their own lives to deal with. having Grandpa need constant supervision after his health problems has shined a spot light on how much my W. expects everyone else to jump to her commands and do her work for her. I told the teens " This is your mom's responsibility, avoid as much of it as you can, it's way past time for HIS family to start taking care of him, you don't need to be forced into adult hood by nursing Grandpa. The reality of the house going on the market and my STBX loosing her half and ownership due to all the expenses she will owe. Change is coming. |
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Post by DryCreek on Oct 11, 2017 11:16:19 GMT -5
greatcoastal, she needs to spend a few days in jail to gain some respect for the courts. It makes me wonder if she fired her previous attorneys or if they fired her as a client for being such a dumbass. But it seems like, in the end, there are enough assets that you'll end up with an actual settlement and not just a lein against her that can never be satisfied. So this will eventually work its way out in your favor. Be merciless and firm with your demands, like the full custody. As underhanded as she's been, I'd be inclined to ask for quite a lot more than you might think is a fair share, on the basis that there are probably still assets you don't know about.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 11, 2017 13:10:54 GMT -5
greatcoastal , she needs to spend a few days in jail to gain some respect for the courts. It makes me wonder if she fired her previous attorneys or if they fired her as a client for being such a dumbass. But it seems like, in the end, there are enough assets that you'll end up with an actual settlement and not just a lein against her that can never be satisfied. So this will eventually work its way out in your favor. Be merciless and firm with your demands, like the full custody. As underhanded as she's been, I'd be inclined to ask for quite a lot more than you might think is a fair share, on the basis that there are probably still assets you don't know about. "a few days in jail" Does that ever happen? That's not the impression I get from countless stories of others. If anything they get away with it free and clear. My expectations is that it paints a clear pic. of what we (me and the judge) are dealing with. Hopefully the judge will not be "happy" at all with her attitude and she will receive a good "spanking" ie.- I get Child custody, real estate, alimony, child support, and she gets limited visitation. "ask for quite a lot more" that's exactly what my attorney is doing after receiving my W's bank statements from the last two years. Thousands put away monthly while withdrawing from our retirement investment. Meanwhile she is spending hundreds less on groceries and health care. All a big contempt of standing court orders. Her latest attorney is the kind who can't answer a phone. They are more than happy to continue the process and take "our" money. |
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Post by tamara68 on Oct 15, 2017 1:32:43 GMT -5
I hope it will work out. I am sure the judges make her pay.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 15, 2017 8:25:44 GMT -5
greatcoastal , she needs to spend a few days in jail to gain some respect for the courts. It makes me wonder if she fired her previous attorneys or if they fired her as a client for being such a dumbass. But it seems like, in the end, there are enough assets that you'll end up with an actual settlement and not just a lein against her that can never be satisfied. So this will eventually work its way out in your favor. Be merciless and firm with your demands, like the full custody. As underhanded as she's been, I'd be inclined to ask for quite a lot more than you might think is a fair share, on the basis that there are probably still assets you don't know about. I'm doing more research on child custody. I need a better understanding of the lingo. I did not know the difference between sole custody, shared parental responsibility, legal custody, and physical custody. cheshirefamilylaw.com/different-types-of-child-custody/These vary from state to state as well. It's been difficult finding someone -other than my attorney - to talk with about these things. People in my Divorce Recovery group are either looking to get divorced, or got divorced and remarried years ago. laws and things have changed since then. Others are learning from me and watching to see how my case goes. |
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Post by shamwow on Oct 16, 2017 7:28:32 GMT -5
Is there a reason this hasn't gone before a judge yet? In texas she would have been served. Then deposed. Then the matter would have been brought before a judge.
It sounds like you've got a strong case. Does the state of Florida require you go back every month and smash your head against the unyielding rocks of her position?
Medallion obviously isn't going to work here and a judge will make the decisions. What is the delay in getting it in front of one?
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