Post by cagedadventurer on Jun 17, 2017 7:26:42 GMT -5
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Try this:
Say nothing to him. Don't talk or posture. After he gets home from working hard in 100 heat so that he can support your family, as soon as he steps out of the shower get on you knees and suck his dick and when done - still on your knees - look up into his eyes and say "thanks for everything you do and working so hard. let's do this more often." Smile and walk out of the room.
No bullshit.
From what you have told us on the forum all your actions have been 'sound and fury' and you haven't just fucked him. You talked to him about fucking him. You have been dramatic about signaling you want to fuck him. You have talked to disembodied spirits on a digital Ouija board about fucking him... You have done many thing except just fuck the dude.
Just fuck him and stop the bullshit. If he denys you - then you can come here and talking about having a sexless marriage.... until that point, you are someone who is annoyed that you are being asked for sex but your life partner not happily paying the 'required tolls' for the privilege.
tiffanyc, because of your ideas of romance, I thought I'd add something of value this morning BUT THEN I SAW THE POST FROM molecularchoas!! He said it! You need to just deliver the goods, expecting nothing in return. Do this for 30 days straight, in some fashion where you let him know he IS WORTHY and not falling short of your expectations anymore and you will see a miraculous turn-around from your husband as he feels you are for real and he does not have to be that perfect husband/man on floor #5 for you not to be disappointed in him. But please ask yourself if pride is in the way – if it is, it does need to go to the way-side. I am telling you, molecularchaos is RIGHT. He is speaking for a guy – us good guys who work and want to be romantic but we just cannot be 365 day Romeo’s then be penalized when falling short. You will build trust with him again and this will solve some other issues you have.
I say this in a non-judgmental way really but he IS RIGHT. Say those words, tell him how you appreciate what he does! He has a crazy job and dangerous.
I had to think of my cousin who married again for time #3. Her vows were hard to stomach but I attended this wedding due to our relationship, not because I was for this marriage or the previous divorce. It has been just 5 months and she is on her way out. Nothing but counseling, blah, blah, blah! She is 53! THE PROBLEM IS SHE IS mentally paralyzed by THIS NOTION OF ROMANCE! It cannot be a pre-requisite. It will be there but not like your writings – almost NEVER. So this is the new reality that may get you to a healthy marriage of trust and respect for each other.
ONE MORE TIME – DO WHAT MOLECULARCHAOS SAYS. In 21-30 days you will have a new man and a new life! 30 days straight, and more than once some days!
