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Post by solodriver on Apr 26, 2017 16:07:08 GMT -5
Sooooo..... no change, huh? Sexless before menopause and sexless afterwards? Maybe it's just me, but I'm not convinced that menopause enters into the matter at all. You're probably right, it's just another excuse. That's the way I looked at it. But when she put the "sex life is over" to it, I quit trying and will not ever try with her again. Even if she had a change of heart, which so far hasn't happened. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2017 17:35:12 GMT -5
I found it just to be much more powerful than previous excuses and it might be THE excuse. My SO wasn't ever enthused about sex so I'm not sure why I was surprised by the sudden end to our so-called sex life. I've tried to find some Zen with it but it's still hurtful. I have no advice to offer, nothing has ever brought our libidos into anything I would consider acceptable but you're not alone. God how I wish I didn't still care about sex or her or both after 30 years together.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2017 18:01:22 GMT -5
My wife jumped on the menopause wagon even before she had it
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Post by hopingforachange on Apr 26, 2017 18:36:52 GMT -5
I can totally see you responding "I need a little UP time." Your passive aggressiveness is inspiring! Oh, or how about, "how bout you get some down on your knees time" Ok, wait, which one is on thier knees? Are we taking turns having down time? |
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Post by lyn on Apr 26, 2017 18:37:38 GMT -5
1. (Him) Wait, the (insert sports team) are playing
(Me) - you watch - I'll just sit here with my face in your lap. - did you notice my face in your lap? Yes, I slid your shorts off without you noticing - oh you didn't notice that either. So, guess might as well take your dick out of my mouth, much easier to talk that way.
2. (Him) Wait, the (insert sports team) won OR lost - need to deal
- (Me) you cry or celebrate - I'll just sit here naked - like a fool - and wait for you. - oh this - why am I naked? I just thought..... oh never mind.
3. (Him) My knee hurts
(Me) - k you just lay on your back - I'll do everything, some head first? Climb on second? Oh that might jostle your knee? Yeah probably right - all of my 110# on your 250# - probably jostle you right off the bed. Wouldn't want THAT.
4. (Him) Too tired from work
(Me)- you lay down - I know playing golf and hanging out with your friends is very stressful. I'll make you your favorite dinner, give you an amazing, naked massage with your favorite strawberry scented oil - oh you fell asleep - no way you're waking up. You seem to be drooling on the sofa.
5. (Him) maybe later - I need to do some "stuff".
-(Me)You're just not interested at all? Oh, you prefer chatting with your "guy" friend several times a night, in your own room, while I go to bed, alone again.
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Sorry - couldn't resist.
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Apr 26, 2017 19:23:59 GMT -5
Your passive aggressiveness is inspiring! Oh, or how about, "how bout you get some down on your knees time" Ok, wait, which one is on thier knees? Are we taking turns having down time? Oh yes, I like this game, I'll go get me knee pads |
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Post by unmatched on Apr 26, 2017 19:30:14 GMT -5
1. (Him) Wait, the (insert sports team) are playing (Me) - you watch - I'll just sit here with my face in your lap. - did you notice my face in your lap? Yes, I slid your shorts off without you noticing - oh you didn't notice that either. So, guess might as well take your dick out of my mouth, much easier to talk that way. 2. (Him) Wait, the (insert sports team) won OR lost - need to deal - (Me) you cry or celebrate - I'll just sit here naked - like a fool - and wait for you. - oh this - why am I naked? I just thought..... oh never mind. 3. (Him) My knee hurts (Me) - k you just lay on your back - I'll do everything, some head first? Climb on second? Oh that might jostle your knee? Yeah probably right - all of my 110# on your 250# - probably jostle you right off the bed. Wouldn't want THAT. 4. (Him) Too tired from work (Me)- you lay down - I know playing golf and hanging out with your friends is very stressful. I'll make you your favorite dinner, give you an amazing, naked massage with your favorite strawberry scented oil - oh you fell asleep - no way you're waking up. You seem to be drooling on the sofa. 5. (Him) maybe later - I need to do some "stuff". -(Me)You're just not interested at all? Oh, you prefer chatting with your "guy" friend several times a night, in your own room, while I go to bed, alone again. ----------------------------------- Sorry - couldn't resist. I think I might be in love... |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 26, 2017 19:37:25 GMT -5
1. (Him) Wait, the (insert sports team) are playing (Me) - you watch - I'll just sit here with my face in your lap. - did you notice my face in your lap? Yes, I slid your shorts off without you noticing - oh you didn't notice that either. So, guess might as well take your dick out of my mouth, much easier to talk that way. 2. (Him) Wait, the (insert sports team) won OR lost - need to deal - (Me) you cry or celebrate - I'll just sit here naked - like a fool - and wait for you. - oh this - why am I naked? I just thought..... oh never mind. 3. (Him) My knee hurts (Me) - k you just lay on your back - I'll do everything, some head first? Climb on second? Oh that might jostle your knee? Yeah probably right - all of my 110# on your 250# - probably jostle you right off the bed. Wouldn't want THAT. 4. (Him) Too tired from work (Me)- you lay down - I know playing golf and hanging out with your friends is very stressful. I'll make you your favorite dinner, give you an amazing, naked massage with your favorite strawberry scented oil - oh you fell asleep - no way you're waking up. You seem to be drooling on the sofa. 5. (Him) maybe later - I need to do some "stuff". -(Me)You're just not interested at all? Oh, you prefer chatting with your "guy" friend several times a night, in your own room, while I go to bed, alone again. ----------------------------------- Sorry - couldn't resist. Oh my goodness! I do have a dark sense of humor. That was tragically funny! |
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Post by orangepeel on May 8, 2017 23:43:09 GMT -5
Sooooo..... no change, huh? Sexless before menopause and sexless afterwards? Maybe it's just me, but I'm not convinced that menopause enters into the matter at all. You're probably right, it's just another excuse. That's the way I looked at it. But when she put the "sex life is over" to it, I quit trying and will not ever try with her again. Even if she had a change of heart, which so far hasn't happened. That's basically exactly where I am. I salute you in solidarity. |
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Post by greatcoastal on May 9, 2017 7:40:08 GMT -5
Just to take this a step further, I got to hear all the excuses my W. uses on other people when asked to do something that's not her plan, or all her way, where she has full control.
Last night my daughter and I made plans to walk the beach, after dinner. Full moon night, no homework, she's off her crutches, bring the dog, the dog goes to the groomer the next day, and it's turtle nesting season.
I'm going out the door with my daughter, the phone rings. My son calls me. He locked the car keys in the trunk! There goes my plans. My daughter goes in the house and asks her mother to go with her.
The excuses.
I've been at work all day. I'm too tired.
Daughter: I've been at school all day. I have been on crutches for 4 months.
I have to leave early for work.
Daughter: I have to leave early for school, I'm up and making my lunch and your still in bed.
I've already changed my clothes for bed.
Daughter: You can't even take a minute to change your clothes? It's only 7:30 Pm?
I can take you there and drop you off?
Daughter: you cant even come on the beach with me?
I'm not going to stay late and watch the turtles.
Daughter : That's okay, the dog would bark at them anyways.
I'll take you but were not going to stay long.
I get home from picking up my son, and what do I later see posted on Fakebook? Pictures, of my daughter, the dog, the full moon over the Atlantic, and a statement.
"Having a wonderful mother daughter time. Very relaxing! A beautiful night to take the dog to the beach" (this was my W's first time EVER going to the beach with the dog)
(like she planned and executed the whole thing, such a great mommy!) (My daughter and I washed dried, and combed the dog. I swept up the sand, washed the towels, and cleaned the tub. My W. went straight to bed)
A side note; my other daughter (a year younger) gets invited too. She tells her older sister, " I want to go to bed early" . That didn't happen. My daughter, and I have explained to her (like my wife) "you keep turning every one down, and no one is going to ask you anymore. You say that people are not nice to you, yet you don't do anything for anyone, or talk to anyone anymore. no wonder dad doesn't invite you out anymore."
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Post by becca on May 9, 2017 7:56:09 GMT -5
There have been many but I believe his most creative was this one.
"Right now I need to take all my sexual energy and put it into building this business for us" (It had probably been about 6 months at that point)
Me: So...when will we have sex again?
H: Good Lord! Is sex all you think about?!
Me: Guilty as charged.
Silly me for craving affection, intimacy and connection with my husband. That was about 7 years into the marriage. I stayed for 24 total.
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Post by snowman12345 on May 9, 2017 8:17:35 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but i get it. We have been working on the start of menopause for at least 10 years. Gonna have to disagree. I'm 67 and Wife is 66, and menopause hasn't slowed her down one iota. It sure did my 59 year old wife! |
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Post by csl on May 9, 2017 9:04:08 GMT -5
Gonna have to disagree. I'm 67 and Wife is 66, and menopause hasn't slowed her down one iota. It sure did my 59 year old wife! I'm in the middle of writing an article for my blog on the difference between "won't" and "can't". All too often we do/not do what we give ourselves permission to do/not do. |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on May 9, 2017 9:43:02 GMT -5
Just to take this a step further, I got to hear all the excuses my W. uses on other people when asked to do something that's not her plan, or all her way, where she has full control. Last night my daughter and I made plans to walk the beach, after dinner. Full moon night, no homework, she's off her crutches, bring the dog, the dog goes to the groomer the next day, and it's turtle nesting season. I'm going out the door with my daughter, the phone rings. My son calls me. He locked the car keys in the trunk! There goes my plans. My daughter goes in the house and asks her mother to go with her. The excuses. I've been at work all day. I'm too tired. Daughter: I've been at school all day. I have been on crutches for 4 months. I have to leave early for work. Daughter: I have to leave early for school, I'm up and making my lunch and your still in bed. I've already changed my clothes for bed. Daughter: You can't even take a minute to change your clothes? It's only 7:30 Pm? I can take you there and drop you off? Daughter: you cant even come on the beach with me? I'm not going to stay late and watch the turtles. Daughter : That's okay, the dog would bark at them anyways. I'll take you but were not going to stay long. I get home from picking up my son, and what do I later see posted on Fakebook? Pictures, of my daughter, the dog, the full moon over the Atlantic, and a statement. "Having a wonderful mother daughter time. Very relaxing! A beautiful night to take the dog to the beach" (this was my W's first time EVER going to the beach with the dog) (like she planned and executed the whole thing, such a great mommy!) (My daughter and I washed dried, and combed the dog. I swept up the sand, washed the towels, and cleaned the tub. My W. went straight to bed) A side note; my other daughter (a year younger) gets invited too. She tells her older sister, " I want to go to bed early" . That didn't happen. My daughter, and I have explained to her (like my wife) "you keep turning every one down, and no one is going to ask you anymore. You say that people are not nice to you, yet you don't do anything for anyone, or talk to anyone anymore. no wonder dad doesn't invite you out anymore." 1) I am so glad your daughter didn't back down! Growing up, this would have been referred to as "back talking" and I would have been condemned, I call this a logical discussion. Good for you for raising your children to be able to have a logical discussion about their wants without getting punished. Woohoo you. 2) this is a perfect example of why I cannot wait for Facebook to die. I stopped using it in October. I feel so much better for it. The amount of fake and hate that is spewed is disturbing. My cousin is an excellent example, she will post pictures of her kids that other people have sent her because she doesn't spend enough time with them to actually have many, but she is continuously praised as being the best mom ever. If you can, I highly seggust you log out of Facebook and don't look at it for a month, then look and see how you feel. If you can, it's not easy. 3. Why the heck didn't your wife just go help your son with the car, I'm sure you would have actually enjoyed the beach, lol! |
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Post by hopingforachange on May 9, 2017 9:59:52 GMT -5
I still use Facebook, but it is obvious when people put the fake crap up there. It looks/ described to perfect and reaks of BS.
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