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Post by cagedtiger on Apr 30, 2017 20:17:23 GMT -5
She's actually been very good at making sure I have access to the dogs - she finally emailed late Wednesday about letting me take the dogs for the weekend while she was out of town, and I've been staying at the house with them this weekend. I definitely mentioned wanting to take my puppy when I spoke to my lawyer, and I think my wife knows that's coming. I'll just make sure to give her the day's notice she's asked for, I guess. Just "play along" CT. Before you know it, you and your puppy will be playing fetch in your NEW backyard (or the dog park ..... that works too😉). Dog park. Puppy is THE BEST wingman ever there already.  |
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Post by lyn on Apr 30, 2017 20:24:26 GMT -5
Yes!! I hear that😉
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Post by cagedtiger on Apr 30, 2017 22:04:54 GMT -5
Proof of her extreme cuteness:  |
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Post by hopingforachange on May 1, 2017 7:49:21 GMT -5
Proof of her extreme cuteness: Yep, she looks like a good wingman. Come later spring time when the farmers markets start up, takes her with you and go to enjoy the walk around other people. She will certainly provided easy conversation starters. |
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Post by cagedtiger on May 3, 2017 13:40:54 GMT -5
"You're ready to get back out there and date," my therapist said with a big smile and slight nod.
"I mean, I'd stay off the dating sites and be as discreet as possible for the time being, but you're not exactly shy, so I think you'll be just fine."
That was Monday's therapy session, after talking about the wife's continued refusal to play ball or talk about how to move things forward, except for maybe with my parents (since she visited them again over the weekend).
This afternoon is another appointment with the lawyer to start getting ready to force her hand - I'll be informing her this evening that I'm changing my direct deposit come next pay period, and taking my bills back into my own accounts, and sending her a draft of a separation agreement to peruse and (hopefully) start contributing to. Otherwise, I'll be seeing if I need to start getting ready to sue, and when I can do that.
The legal question of dating is another tricky beast, thanks to the painfully antiquated separation and divorce laws here (thanks, Southern Baptists). Just because I'm ready to date emotionally (and very, very ready physically), I don't know if I am legally, nor do I know all the potential pitfalls and traps she could roll out if she gets vindictive in the future.
In the meantime, when I email or text her about things, I'm getting single word replies, two or three days later. Don't know what she's thinking it's helping achieve, but it feels fucking childish. My apologies for the language, but I'm really, really frustrated by all of this.
Ugh, this shit is already getting old.
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Post by lyn on May 3, 2017 14:11:26 GMT -5
Proof of her extreme cuteness: THE perfect wingman aka Chick Magnet😉 |
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Post by lyn on May 3, 2017 14:20:40 GMT -5
"You're ready to get back out there and date," my therapist said with a big smile and slight nod. "I mean, I'd stay off the dating sites and be as discreet as possible for the time being, but you're not exactly shy, so I think you'll be just fine." That was Monday's therapy session, after talking about the wife's continued refusal to play ball or talk about how to move things forward, except for maybe with my parents (since she visited them again over the weekend). This afternoon is another appointment with the lawyer to start getting ready to force her hand - I'll be informing her this evening that I'm changing my direct deposit come next pay period, and taking my bills back into my own accounts, and sending her a draft of a separation agreement to peruse and (hopefully) start contributing to. Otherwise, I'll be seeing if I need to start getting ready to sue, and when I can do that. The legal question of dating is another tricky beast, thanks to the painfully antiquated separation and divorce laws here (thanks, Southern Baptists). Just because I'm ready to date emotionally (and very, very ready physically), I don't know if I am legally, nor do I know all the potential pitfalls and traps she could roll out if she gets vindictive in the future. In the meantime, when I email or text her about things, I'm getting single word replies, two or three days later. Don't know what she's thinking it's helping achieve, but it feels fucking childish. My apologies for the language, but I'm really, really frustrated by all of this. Ugh, this shit is already getting old. Well, trying to communicate "adult-issues" with a child (overgrown one at that) is extremely difficult! If there's any consolation to her consistent approach, it's that she is just that, "consistent". All you can do is what you need to do to move forward - and be realistic about your stbx's ability to participate in this stuff like an adult. Especially since she's so against the inevitable outcome. I'm not sure how your State handles a one-sided divorce situation. Most states one can proceed without much from the resistant party. You got this CT, just think about all of the skills you've built during this debacle - extreme patience immediately comes to mind. Among many many other things I'm sure. Now take that beautiful pup out and meet some women "friends"........ |
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Post by cagedtiger on May 3, 2017 14:22:56 GMT -5
Proof of her extreme cuteness: THE perfect wingman aka Chick Magnet😉 She already does that at the dog park. All the cute owners know her, because they've all noticed how close she stays to me. "well, mommy and daddy are going through a breakup, and it's been really hard on the pups..." "Awwwww..." |
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