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Post by cagedtiger on Feb 14, 2017 12:20:31 GMT -5
Of all days, my dad decides to email both of us the full text of 1 Corinthians 13.
You know, the whole part about love believes all things, endures all things, etc.
Ugh. Please, stop. I've already told him it's not helping anything.
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 14, 2017 12:28:28 GMT -5
1 Corinthians 13 makes a nice verse for a hallmark card but it is far from our reality. It is a great thing for 2 people who are in love completely. It does not work for roommates.
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Post by shamwow on Feb 14, 2017 13:35:21 GMT -5
Hey tiger. When I announced I wanted a divorce and told my mom, she got the idea somehow that I was going to hurt myself. So I had to get on the phone with my wife, mother in law, and mom to make sure that I had "talked myself off the ledge."
I don't know how well you know your Bible, but there are a LOT of verses you can toss back at him outlining the obligations that husbands and wives have to each other. Perhaps fight "fire with fire".
And just for your information, I'm not anti-religious. I am, however, anti "force religion down your throat".
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Post by Deleted on Feb 14, 2017 14:13:52 GMT -5
He means well, but just doesn't get it. I am sorry.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Feb 14, 2017 16:26:47 GMT -5
yeah - reading that passage only helps illustrate what you and W do NOT have - so in a way, it is helpful (though quite poignant) to be reminded of what you will look more closely for in the next relationship. (I know you can't say anything that snarky to your pop.)
But - just take it that given the tools available to him, he did what he THOUGHT may help. Too bad it was misguided, but he was just trying to be kind (and loving).
I'm sorry he was club-footed in his attempt though.
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Post by wom360 on Feb 14, 2017 16:58:09 GMT -5
Thank him for sending proof that you're in a loveless marriage.
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Post by LITW on Feb 14, 2017 17:05:41 GMT -5
How not to help involves any platitudes, or any rhetoric that boils down to "just stop it".
My dad (an my mom) is very good at platitudes. I know he means well, but they dont help ... at all.
Take a deep breath and move on with your day. Thats the best course.
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Post by baza on Feb 14, 2017 17:10:40 GMT -5
It's a sidebar Brother cagedtiger.
Peripheral to the main game of you dismantling your ILIASM shithole.
He can't help you with that, and your missus won't help you with that.
As ever, it's all down to you to get the job done.
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Post by ggold on Feb 14, 2017 19:12:29 GMT -5
cagedtiger My mom is apparently praying continuously to St. Michael the Archangel so that he may intervene and save my marriage! (UGH!!) I get it! I wish they could just fully support us in our decisions. We are adults.
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Post by shamwow on Feb 14, 2017 21:03:43 GMT -5
cagedtiger My mom is apparently praying continuously to St. Michael the Archangel so that he may intervene and save my marriage! (UGH!!) I get it! I wish they could just fully support us in our decisions. We are adults. I grew up Catholic, but I didn't realize they had an angel dedicated to people who don't want to fuck their spouse but want to remain married. I guess you learn something every day. |
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Post by ggold on Feb 14, 2017 21:20:49 GMT -5
cagedtiger My mom is apparently praying continuously to St. Michael the Archangel so that he may intervene and save my marriage! (UGH!!) I get it! I wish they could just fully support us in our decisions. We are adults. I grew up Catholic, but I didn't realize they had an angel dedicated to people who don't want to fuck their spouse but want to remain married. I guess you learn something every day. LMAO!!! I didn't know either!! |
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Post by cc on Feb 17, 2017 22:56:36 GMT -5
Oh man, do you know what my christian brothers and sisters say? Pray more. Be understanding of him. I am! They all seem to think when we reach out that they have advice we haven't tried. I hate when God is thrown at us...as if we read those verses all is good. "Oh, wow, I no longer need love."
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Post by cc on Feb 17, 2017 22:58:38 GMT -5
cagedtiger My mom is apparently praying continuously to St. Michael the Archangel so that he may intervene and save my marriage! (UGH!!) I get it! I wish they could just fully support us in our decisions. We are adults. My mom swears that 2 days on the beach will fix us. I told her, "Your not listening!" Again, if you just pray more it will all be ok.  Save |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Feb 18, 2017 2:04:32 GMT -5
Of all days, my dad decides to email both of us the full text of 1 Corinthians 13. You know, the whole part about love believes all things, endures all things, etc. Ugh. Please, stop. I've already told him it's not helping anything. My mom does the same thing. She likes to ask a question and open the Bible and then poke your finger at it and viola! a passage stating a solution to your problem. As we know, you can interpret the Biblical words in any way you want, so I do. |
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Post by cc on Feb 18, 2017 15:53:34 GMT -5
I'm a devout Jesus follower...But I know his plan is not for me to feel like this in my marriage. It isn't for me to be lonely. This isn't how we three set up this covenant. H and I know all the verses. I've had us in so many marriage groups. Simply as a woman I am hearing from the church that I need to be more and self sacrificing. What do they think I've been doing? No one is equipped in the church to deal with this. It's too hard.
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