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Post by Rhapsodee on Feb 21, 2017 12:12:43 GMT -5
My mom does the same thing. She likes to ask a question and open the Bible and then poke your finger at it and viola! a passage stating a solution to your problem. As we know, you can interpret the Biblical words in any way you want, so I do. I just tried this. (Actually I did in online and not in a real book, but I guess that counts...) I got: I spread out my hands to you;
I thirst for you like a parched land.
Psalm 143:6
Maybe there is something in it? That is one that would definitely convey the message I want to send to my hub, but he would probably just bring me a bottle of water. Seriously, it is definitely worth a try. |
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Post by solodriver on Feb 21, 2017 12:42:07 GMT -5
I just tried this. (Actually I did in online and not in a real book, but I guess that counts...) I got: I spread out my hands to you;
I thirst for you like a parched land.
Psalm 143:6
Maybe there is something in it? That is one that would definitely convey the message I want to send to my hub, but he would probably just bring me a bottle of water. Seriously, it is definitely worth a try. If you do it and it works, please share, you may onto something and you too can make money with your program.  |
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Post by cagedtiger on Feb 21, 2017 14:38:33 GMT -5
My guess is your family acting in "good faith" and "just trying to help" is intervening to save your marriage and because they probably think you are making a mistake. I have told my Parents and brother and I get back immediately "You have our full support- We Love You" - they are not trying to fix anything and are just respecting my decision whatever it might be. Conversely, I told some of my good friends and most respect my decision but seem to be trying to talk me out of it - I suspect - it is scaring some of them because their in SM marriages too and do not want to confront it themselves. There was a a post on another thread about "PERMISSION" - that seeking other advice and all that including from family approval is seeking "permission" - well I think many on this Forum can go past this and as adults and we are the best expert on ourselves (in most cases) we can weigh and act and know what is in our best interests. You have our full support (no brainer of course on this Forum!!!). Respect. I'm actually starting to think that they might be working together to plan an intervention of a sort- the wife replied that the visit with my parents was "lovely." Not sure what to think about that either. As for the "seeking permission" part, I didn't actually tell my parents I was planning on leaving ahead of time. Close friends knew and my brother knew, but they also know me and my situation better than my parents do. Looks like it's time to go home and have a long, very blunt talk with them. After sending a long, very blunt email that leaves no ambiguity. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Feb 21, 2017 15:00:49 GMT -5
cagedtiger it seems a jolly splendid time has been had by the parentals and the wife. I'm sure they sat and ate scones and drank tea and laughed at how silly this all is and how you'll come round. Be gentle (ish) with your Dad. X
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Post by McRoomMate on Feb 21, 2017 15:42:55 GMT -5
cagedtiger Courage Caged Tiger! and you know you got our full support. Sounds like you are going to be outnumbered - way outnumbered. The truth is on your side and so is your Heart and all of us. I will be needing a massive dose of courage myself in about 30 to 60 days or so maximum - but I am also as part of my Exit Plan building a support network as well as stashing cash, new job search, etc. There has to be PREPARATION and SUPPORT. All the best!
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Post by leifericson on Feb 21, 2017 15:44:39 GMT -5
Seriously, bible verses to fix your dead below the waist spouse? Why not bring out the snake oil? At least that's a lube.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2017 16:01:43 GMT -5
My mom does the same thing. She likes to ask a question and open the Bible and then poke your finger at it and viola! a passage stating a solution to your problem. As we know, you can interpret the Biblical words in any way you want, so I do. When people do that, I like to quote this verse, "And it came to pass, when he began to reign, as soon as he sat on his throne, that he slew all the house of Baasha: he left him not one that pisseth against a wall, neither of his kinsfolks, nor of his friends." |
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Post by solodriver on Feb 21, 2017 18:36:47 GMT -5
My mom does the same thing. She likes to ask a question and open the Bible and then poke your finger at it and viola! a passage stating a solution to your problem. As we know, you can interpret the Biblical words in any way you want, so I do. When people do that, I like to quote this verse, "And it came to pass, when he began to reign, as soon as he sat on his throne, that he slew all the house of Baasha: he left him not one that pisseth against a wall, neither of his kinsfolks, nor of his friends." Hey Flashjohn I love it, what OT chapter and verse is that please?
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Post by solodriver on Feb 21, 2017 18:56:11 GMT -5
Of all days, my dad decides to email both of us the full text of 1 Corinthians 13. You know, the whole part about love believes all things, endures all things, etc. Ugh. Please, stop. I've already told him it's not helping anything. My mom does the same thing. She likes to ask a question and open the Bible and then poke your finger at it and viola! a passage stating a solution to your problem. As we know, you can interpret the Biblical words in any way you want, so I do. Hey your mom was right Rhapsodee, I found one that fits most of us perfectly:
"I opened to my beloved, but my beloved had withdrawn himself (herself), and was gone; my soul failed when he (she) spake: I sought him (her), but I could not find him (her); I called him (her), but he (she) gave me no answer."
Songs of Soloman 5:6
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Post by snowman12345 on Feb 21, 2017 19:05:26 GMT -5
My mom does the same thing. She likes to ask a question and open the Bible and then poke your finger at it and viola! a passage stating a solution to your problem. As we know, you can interpret the Biblical words in any way you want, so I do. Hey your mom was right Rhapsodee, I found one that fits most of us perfectly:
"I opened to my beloved, but my beloved had withdrawn himself (herself), and was gone; my soul failed when he (she) spake: I sought him (her), but I could not find him (her); I called him (her), but he (she) gave me no answer."
Songs of Soloman 5:6
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Post by shamwow on Feb 21, 2017 19:24:28 GMT -5
Hey your mom was right Rhapsodee, I found one that fits most of us perfectly:
"I opened to my beloved, but my beloved had withdrawn himself (herself), and was gone; my soul failed when he (she) spake: I sought him (her), but I could not find him (her); I called him (her), but he (she) gave me no answer."
Songs of Soloman 5:6
Snowman you always know how to make a point so effortlessy . A picture truly is worth a thousand words. |
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Post by cagedtiger on Feb 21, 2017 19:35:25 GMT -5
I take my faith seriously, but my parents and I have... very different beliefs.
This is a bit what going to their church feels like to me:
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Post by hopingforachange on Feb 21, 2017 22:54:57 GMT -5
absolutely interesting aside. Sounds like an IDEAL CHURCH . . . Maybe have your Divorced Pastor sit down with you and your father . . . this might give some badly needed credibility to get your parents off your back and out of your business. We all know WHY and you have our full support but there out in the field with your family - a Pastor might get them to calm down - I am thinking to get them out of your business is the point. I don't know if he's talked to our friends here or not, but I'm hoping to grab a beer with him the next time I'm home in a few weeks. Bring him up to speed, since we're friends, and he was the one who did our (very abbreviated) premarriage counseling. I emailed the wife to set up when we're meeting up, and asked her how the weekend in the mountains was, and how the visit with my parents was. Then emailed my dad about something unrelated and asked how the visit with her was. He said the visit was "fruitful." Not even sure what that means. You cod reply back, I haven't tasted fruit and x month. She hasn't sat in my shade in x months. Song of Solomon 4:16 Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits Song of Solomon 2:3 Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, So is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, And his fruit was sweet to my taste |
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Post by csl on Feb 21, 2017 23:20:57 GMT -5
Seriously, bible verses to fix your dead below the waist spouse? Why not bring out the snake oil? At least that's a lube. Yeah, you might want to check out my posts on the Has Anyone Turned.... thread. We "bible-thumpers" do have a track record of some success. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2017 10:55:28 GMT -5
When people do that, I like to quote this verse, "And it came to pass, when he began to reign, as soon as he sat on his throne, that he slew all the house of Baasha: he left him not one that pisseth against a wall, neither of his kinsfolks, nor of his friends." Hey Flashjohn I love it, what OT chapter and verse is that please?
I Kings 16:11, in the King James Version. |
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