What's the Biggest Thing You Have Hidden From Your Refuser?

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What's the Biggest Thing You Have Hidden From Your Refuser? Dec 15, 2016 22:11:45 GMT -5 GeekGoddess likes this

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Dec 15, 2016 21:29:23 GMT -5 brian said:

Dec 15, 2016 7:26:47 GMT -5 JonDoe said:

She was mad that I didn't tell her about the surgery.

Again, why? It's not like she cares, right?

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What's the Biggest Thing You Have Hidden From Your Refuser? Dec 15, 2016 22:23:52 GMT -5 GeekGoddess likes this

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Dec 15, 2016 22:11:45 GMT -5 csl said:

Dec 15, 2016 21:29:23 GMT -5 brian said:

She was mad that I didn't tell her about the surgery.

Again, why? It's not like she cares, right?

She says she cares, and maybe she does care about things like that. She clearly does not care about my need for intimacy and/or sex. At this point, she's just my room mate, and I operate in that manner and tell her things that I would tell a room mate. I even talk about how I need to find a lover. Very open about all of this. There shouldn't be any surprises when this comes to an end.

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What's the Biggest Thing You Have Hidden From Your Refuser?

Post by csl on Dec 15, 2016 22:11:45 GMT -5

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