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Post by cagedtiger on Nov 30, 2016 14:50:33 GMT -5
The secret I don't share with my wife is how much fun I have dancing. She knows I go out dancing with friends(I tell her, and also invite her and she always declines). It is pretty much innocent, but last week something happened accidentally. I was doing a 2 step and stepped into the girl going to do a 360 (a spinning full turn locked together). But lo and behold I surprised her when I stepped in and my right breast firmly pressed against her right breast and has I whipped her around, her boobs gloriously slid in full contact all the way across my chest until her left breast slid away and off my left breast. More action than my last 3 years of marriage. Of course 3 things happened; Loss of mental focus(could not think to lead another move), Instant hard-on, and How can I lead that move again!! I do know some dirty dance moves, but that was the beat one ever. I feel you there. I don't think I realized until the last year or so how much I've missed dancing, and how strongly the lack of a partner was affecting me. I have to give you kudos- I don't trust myself to be able to dance innocently with anybody right now! |
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Post by DryCreek on Nov 30, 2016 15:47:15 GMT -5
If she knew that I'd talked to our ministers about this many months ago, she'd never set foot in that church again. And if the neighbors knew? <evil grin> |
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Post by cagedtiger on Nov 30, 2016 15:54:53 GMT -5
If she knew that I'd talked to our ministers about this many months ago, she'd never set foot in that church again. And if the neighbors knew? <evil grin> She barely knows the neighbor on one side, doesn't know the others. I talk to them all- which also annoys her. |
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Post by bballgirl on Nov 30, 2016 16:02:37 GMT -5
And if the neighbors knew? <evil grin> She barely knows the neighbor on one side, doesn't know the others. I talk to them all- which also annoys her. That was my ex. I would sit outside with the neighbors while the kids played outside. He didn't like that and would bad mouth them to me. They would say hello to him he wouldn't respond. They thought he was shy. SMH |
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Post by baza on Nov 30, 2016 22:22:32 GMT -5
The biggest thing I kept under my hat was my exit strategy.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Dec 1, 2016 0:32:00 GMT -5
I hide in plain sight.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 1, 2016 10:31:46 GMT -5
This place! He'd shit a brick if he knew all the stuff I talk about on here. My wife found me on EP. She read all kinds of angry posts that I had put on there during my angry phase. In all honesty, it was stuff I should have expressed to her but couldn't find the courage to say. She may or may not have shit a brick.  I'm not sure. If she did, she did not share that info with me.  It certainly felt like it was the end of the world when she found me there and read all of that stuff. The world did not end though. It's still spinning and I'm still here. Still married and still alive. I'm still sharing things on here and she probably knows. Any bricks that were shit are in the past. Any future bricks will not have a tremendous effect either. She got to hear how I really felt and that's really not all that terrible in the grand scheme of things. So, my story has two points 1.) Be careful on here and make sure you cover your tracks, don't get too complacent if you really want to keep this stuff to yourself 2.) If you slip up on number 1 and he finds this place and reads things that you'd rather him not read, don't sweat it too much. He probably should hear all of those things anyway. What's the worst thing he can do? Stop having sex with you? Divorce you? Chances are, if you're here, he's already withholding sex and you'd probably welcome a divorce that he initiates since it'd make your decision making much easier. Right? I bet that made an interesting conversation 😬 You are are right though...it's only the truth so if he ever does see it...meh! Bothered he he. Having said that...I am very careful! |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2016 12:52:44 GMT -5
This place! He'd shit a brick if he knew all the stuff I talk about on here. My wife found me on EP. She read all kinds of angry posts that I had put on there during my angry phase. In all honesty, it was stuff I should have expressed to her but couldn't find the courage to say. She may or may not have shit a brick. I'm not sure. If she did, she did not share that info with me. It certainly felt like it was the end of the world when she found me there and read all of that stuff. The world did not end though. It's still spinning and I'm still here. Still married and still alive. I'm still sharing things on here and she probably knows. Any bricks that were shit are in the past. Any future bricks will not have a tremendous effect either. She got to hear how I really felt and that's really not all that terrible in the grand scheme of things. So, my story has two points 1.) Be careful on here and make sure you cover your tracks, don't get too complacent if you really want to keep this stuff to yourself 2.) If you slip up on number 1 and he finds this place and reads things that you'd rather him not read, don't sweat it too much. He probably should hear all of those things anyway. What's the worst thing he can do? Stop having sex with you? Divorce you? Chances are, if you're here, he's already withholding sex and you'd probably welcome a divorce that he initiates since it'd make your decision making much easier. Right? I agree Chatter Fox and I suppose the other thing I hide is ILIASM, my story is similar but different. She originally found out about ILIASM because I told (mistake 1) her, I had only really mentioned it to her because we are in a SM, and ILIASM is a support group and helps me cope. She didn't mind as long as I was happy and did not hit her up for sex or mention our sex lives because people will surely recognize her (not a chance). I am honest with her and one day she came into my home office and saw I was laughing hysterically at something posted. She came around to look and instead of just reading the post she studied the webpage and asked me about the website, she noticed my original user name (mistake 2) and I knew she was going to research my posts, so I changed my username and have not been posting very much. It sucks but I am just going to lay low for awhile, and not post anything relating to our SM that she may recognize for awhile. |
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 1, 2016 14:51:08 GMT -5
My wife found me on EP. She read all kinds of angry posts that I had put on there during my angry phase. In all honesty, it was stuff I should have expressed to her but couldn't find the courage to say. She may or may not have shit a brick. I'm not sure. If she did, she did not share that info with me. It certainly felt like it was the end of the world when she found me there and read all of that stuff. The world did not end though. It's still spinning and I'm still here. Still married and still alive. I'm still sharing things on here and she probably knows. Any bricks that were shit are in the past. Any future bricks will not have a tremendous effect either. She got to hear how I really felt and that's really not all that terrible in the grand scheme of things. So, my story has two points 1.) Be careful on here and make sure you cover your tracks, don't get too complacent if you really want to keep this stuff to yourself 2.) If you slip up on number 1 and he finds this place and reads things that you'd rather him not read, don't sweat it too much. He probably should hear all of those things anyway. What's the worst thing he can do? Stop having sex with you? Divorce you? Chances are, if you're here, he's already withholding sex and you'd probably welcome a divorce that he initiates since it'd make your decision making much easier. Right? I agree Chatter Fox and I suppose the other thing I hide is ILIASM, my story is similar but different. She originally found out about ILIASM because I told (mistake 1) her, I had only really mentioned it to her because we are in a SM, and ILIASM is a support group and helps me cope. She didn't mind as long as I was happy and did not hit her up for sex or mention our sex lives because people will surely recognize her (not a chance). I am honest with her and one day she came into my home office and saw I was laughing hysterically at something posted. She came around to look and instead of just reading the post she studied the webpage and asked me about the website, she noticed my original user name (mistake 2) and I knew she was going to research my posts, so I changed my username and have not been posting very much. It sucks but I am just going to lay low for awhile, and not post anything relating to our SM that she may recognize for awhile. You may have just outed yourself again. I hope not but the way I look at it and my POV in life is : " if it's the truth then I don't have to apologize". That philosophy came in handy when the MIL overheard me talking about her, but it was so truth so no apology. I divorced her narcistic, manipulative, jealous, secretive ass too!! |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 1, 2016 15:34:51 GMT -5
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That philosophy came in handy when the MIL overheard me talking about her, but it was so truth so no apology. I divorced her narcistic, manipulative, jealous, secretive ass too!! [/quote][
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MIL's.... we need a whole forum devoted to those! X
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 1, 2016 15:39:55 GMT -5
" That philosophy came in handy when the MIL overheard me talking about her, but it was so truth so no apology. I divorced her narcistic, manipulative, jealous, secretive ass too!! [ " MIL's.... we need a whole forum devoted to those! X [/quote][ No kidding!! I might start a thread in off topic! To some degree I think his relationship with his mother influenced his intimacy aversion. A lot of times childhood effects how we are as adults. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 1, 2016 15:42:19 GMT -5
I'll join right in if you start a thread bballgirl. I'd love to get some stuff off my chest about his Mother! X |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Dec 1, 2016 17:18:22 GMT -5
" That philosophy came in handy when the MIL overheard me talking about her, but it was so truth so no apology. I divorced her narcistic, manipulative, jealous, secretive ass too!! [ " MIL's.... we need a whole forum devoted to those! X [ No kidding!! I might start a thread in off topic! To some degree I think his relationship with his mother influenced his intimacy aversion. A lot of times childhood effects how we are as adults. [/quote] Hoo boy, am I all in for that one. Emphasis on the narcissism, that doesn't seem to skip a generation ... |
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 1, 2016 17:43:09 GMT -5
[ " MIL's.... we need a whole forum devoted to those! X [ No kidding!! I might start a thread in off topic! To some degree I think his relationship with his mother influenced his intimacy aversion. A lot of times childhood effects how we are as adults. Hoo boy, am I all in for that one. Emphasis on the narcissism, that doesn't seem to skip a generation ...[/quote] Yep MIL is a narcissist and so is the ex. I diagnosed them both on Pinterest. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Dec 1, 2016 17:54:14 GMT -5
[ No kidding!! I might start a thread in off topic! To some degree I think his relationship with his mother influenced his intimacy aversion. A lot of times childhood effects how we are as adults. Hoo boy, am I all in for that one. Emphasis on the narcissism, that doesn't seem to skip a generation ... Yep MIL is a narcissist and so is the ex. I diagnosed them both on Pinterest. [/quote] Yep, same story, but I didn't need any help with the diagnosis. MIL was known to be a narcissist and wife demonstrated that she learned well from the mistress within days after the wedding. |
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I'm not sure. If she did, she did not share that info with me. 
It certainly felt like it was the end of the world when she found me there and read all of that stuff. The world did not end though. It's still spinning and I'm still here. Still married and still alive. I'm still sharing things on here and she probably knows. Any bricks that were shit are in the past. Any future bricks will not have a tremendous effect either. She got to hear how I really felt and that's really not all that terrible in the grand scheme of things.
