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Post by novembercomingfire on Dec 31, 2016 16:36:49 GMT -5
No kidding. Sometimes feel like a prisoner doing a life sentence marking off another year on the wall of my cell. The difference is that I am the one with the key. Well, from experience, by now the lock very well may be too rusty for the key to do you much service. Time to blow up the prison entirely. |
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Post by baza on Jan 22, 2017 18:31:24 GMT -5
I've asked her that actually, a couple of times. She won't answer. Still. If you're still going to counseling, that might be a good place to ask it. Especially with a third party in the room. I recall an episode of marital counselling back in the day, where I floated this analogy about my ILIASM deal. I said words to the effect - - - "I think that I bring some pretty good things to the marital table, but they don't seem to have any value to Mrs baz. It feels like I am bringing $au to the table, but Mrs baz doesn't value $au, and prefers some other currency like Euro's or Peso's or something, but she won't say what that currency is. If I knew what Mrs baz preferred currency is, then maybe I could go to the exchange house and change some $au for a different currency. But I do not know what the right currency is". That resulted in a very silent drive home, as most of our joint counselling did. |
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Post by Dan on Jan 25, 2017 12:09:16 GMT -5
For whatever reasons he gets his sex drive when we are on vacation. Craziest thing ever. Not so crazy; maybe actually "normal" or "common". My therapist once asked that specifically: do you at least have sex when you are on vacation, or away from the house and kids for the weekend? Her point was that the weight of house and kids and work and bills is real, and might lessen anyone's libido (male or female), but get away from that even for a day or two, and a normal, healthy thing when relaxed and with your spouse is to enjoy sex. The flip side of that point was "if you are not having sex even then, that's a sign of actual trouble". From this, thinking back on excursions that my wife and I had in the past decade, it was even clearer that my marriage was in trouble. This -- in an odd way -- was actually a comforting confirmation! As up to this point, I was simply buying the party line that I was just one of those husbands who was demanding too much sex. This was a turning point of sorts, as it gave me permission from a medical professional to consider that I might actually be "normal", and my wife's libido was the one that wasn't. |
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Post by leifericson on Feb 20, 2017 20:27:23 GMT -5
I used to ask for sex as my only present at Christmas time and I truly meant it. He bought me a vibrator instead.   upload pic |
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Post by leifericson on Feb 20, 2017 20:29:08 GMT -5
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