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Post by itsjustus on Dec 22, 2016 13:32:14 GMT -5
Good Lord no! No holiday sex! Birthday sex? Yep!! Anniversary sex? Yep!! Our anniversary was May 10th, my birthday, May 16th. I ROCKED May!!!! The rest of the year...no so much.
Vacation sex? One time. A vacation to Mexico. I told her explicitly that I really wanted the intimacy of sex the first day we got there, especially at such a romantic place. That was the only day we had sex......
No sexo en Méjico para yo.....suspiro!
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Post by brian on Dec 22, 2016 19:28:56 GMT -5
What's this sex thing you're speaking of?
Since I have been married,
- I have NEVER had birthday sex
- I have never had holiday sex
- I have never had anniversary sex
Hell, I can hardly remember having sex at all.
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Post by Lithium92 on Dec 23, 2016 6:09:56 GMT -5
Like Rex, I've done the AVEN thing too, and come to very similar conclusions in a pretty similar situation, and my wife's said much the same thing. 'Can't' is definitely the case with my wife.
AVEN is a hall of mirrors made of very nice, very earnest, rather Aspy people making up definitions and any number of sub definitions of something about which they are utterly clueless, ie sex. But it might help get your head round the thought process of people who just don't see sex as important.
In the end, they asexuals (apparently) get horny, fantasise, masturbate, see people as attractive, want to be close, can even do cuddles and hugs, but they just don't see their sexual feelings as anything to do with anyone else.
Oh, an on-topic...
One of the milestones in my journey to SM was a three week holiday of a lifetime to San Francisco to mark my fortieth birthday, eight years ago. We'd been married nine years. My wife paid for it, and organised a bunch of fantastic activities (including crossing the Golden Gate Bridge on the back of Harley with some bikers she somehow knew, which is one of my fave memories ever). Sex, however, wasn't one of these activities. I wasn't surprised, and didn't push it, because I didn't want to spoil the holiday.
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 23, 2016 8:35:38 GMT -5
This is exactly my STBX. She doesn't like kissing, cuddling, or long hugs. The best she can do kissing is the old hen peck, quick and no lips. She will love on the dogs though, but since this obviously won't lead to sex, she is fine with it. In fact, she kisses the dogs on the mouth almost every day. She even let's them lick her face and mouth too. Ewww gross!
I recall a time when we were fooling around in bed and as I started to rub her pussy she wasn't quite wet yet. So I wet my finger with my mouth and proceeded to gently play with her pussy. She immediately objected, complaining that was very gross and unhygienic. Seriously? How is that any different than licking her pussy? And don't get me started on the comparison to kissing dogs and letting them lick your mouth after they eat poop and lick themselves! Eww gross!
FML!!!
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Post by GeekGoddess on Dec 23, 2016 11:20:35 GMT -5
This is exactly my STBX. She doesn't like kissing, cuddling, or long hugs. The best she can do kissing is the old hen peck, quick and no lips. She will love on the dogs though, but since this obviously won't lead to sex, she is fine with it. In fact, she kisses the dogs on the mouth almost every day. She even let's them lick her face and mouth too. Ewww gross! I recall a time when we were fooling around in bed and as I started to rub her pussy she wasn't quite wet yet. So I wet my finger with my mouth and proceeded to gently play with her pussy. She immediately objected, complaining that was very gross and unhygienic. Seriously? How is that any different than licking her pussy? And don't get me started on the comparison to kissing dogs and letting them lick your mouth after they eat poop and lick themselves! Eww gross! FML!!! Oh wow. I remember before ever kissing that I thought "someone else's spit" might be nasty. But the first time I tried French kissing I got over that! I still think letting a dog lick you on the face is gross. You know that dog just licked his butthole with that mouth! Wow, @johndoe - I think your wife is a special sort. |
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 23, 2016 11:41:42 GMT -5
This is exactly my STBX. She doesn't like kissing, cuddling, or long hugs. The best she can do kissing is the old hen peck, quick and no lips. She will love on the dogs though, but since this obviously won't lead to sex, she is fine with it. In fact, she kisses the dogs on the mouth almost every day. She even let's them lick her face and mouth too. Ewww gross! I recall a time when we were fooling around in bed and as I started to rub her pussy she wasn't quite wet yet. So I wet my finger with my mouth and proceeded to gently play with her pussy. She immediately objected, complaining that was very gross and unhygienic. Seriously? How is that any different than licking her pussy? And don't get me started on the comparison to kissing dogs and letting them lick your mouth after they eat poop and lick themselves! Eww gross! FML!!! Oh wow. I remember before ever kissing that I thought "someone else's spit" might be nasty. But the first time I tried French kissing I got over that! I still think letting a dog lick you on the face is gross. You know that dog just licked his butthole with that mouth! Wow, JonDoe - I think your wife is a special sort. Yep, she is one of a kind, a real gem! |
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 23, 2016 12:11:58 GMT -5
Oh wow. I remember before ever kissing that I thought "someone else's spit" might be nasty. But the first time I tried French kissing I got over that! I still think letting a dog lick you on the face is gross. You know that dog just licked his butthole with that mouth! Wow, JonDoe - I think your wife is a special sort. Yep, she is one of a kind, a real gem!Like a pearl that belongs in an oyster, at the bottom of the sea, (with the rest of them). |
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Post by DryCreek on Dec 23, 2016 15:38:51 GMT -5
This is exactly my STBX. She doesn't like kissing, cuddling, or long hugs. The best she can do kissing is the old hen peck, quick and no lips. She will love on the dogs though, but since this obviously won't lead to sex, she is fine with it. Yup. Dogs, cats, kids... get a very different side of W in terms of enthusiastic affection. Like you point out, probably because it's safe. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2016 20:44:30 GMT -5
Lithium92: "One of the milestones in my journey to SM was a three week holiday of a lifetime to San Francisco to mark my fortieth birthday, eight years ago. We'd been married nine years. My wife paid for it, and organised a bunch of fantastic activities (including crossing the Golden Gate Bridge on the back of Harley with some bikers she somehow knew, which is one of my fave memories ever). Sex, however, wasn't one of these activities. I wasn't surprised, and didn't push it, because I didn't want to spoil the holiday." Just like my trip to the Bahamas for my 50th. We did some fun activities....but sex was not one of them.
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Post by nancyb on Dec 23, 2016 20:47:32 GMT -5
My STBX and I have travelled extensively and not once did we have sex on our trips or anywhere else.
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Post by DryCreek on Dec 23, 2016 21:17:38 GMT -5
Just like my trip to the Bahamas for my 50th. We did some fun activities....but sex was not one of them. Ya. And our two weeks in Italy. Once in a lifetime trip. No amore! |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Dec 23, 2016 21:25:03 GMT -5
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 23, 2016 21:26:33 GMT -5
Both trips to China, we stayed in 5 star hotels. Fortune cookie say "no sex for you."
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 23, 2016 22:26:19 GMT -5
Just like my trip to the Bahamas for my 50th. We did some fun activities....but sex was not one of them. I am still amazed to hear stories like this, even though I share very similar experiences. I suppose I should be simply nodding and saying "Yep, been there, done that too", but the thought of a man not only turning down sexual advances from his wife, but also flat out refusing to have sex boggles my mind. Then again, when I stop and think about it rationally, you probably have similar thoughts from the female perspective of this twisted life in a SM. Each time I read posts like this, I immediately envision a sexy, enthusiastic wife standing there in nothing more than high heels, sheer black thigh-high stockings and a sexy, naughty smile with tatas akimbo. Then I think "Who could possibly say no to that?" I could be bleeding from a major artery or have just cutoff a finger, and I would try to find a way to tend to her needs before mine. I hope we all have a special someone to truly celebrate our next birthday and holiday. ❤️ |
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Post by ggold on Dec 23, 2016 23:13:44 GMT -5
Do you usually get lucky around the holidays? [br Can you please explain to me what holiday sex is?or sex in general lol! |
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