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Post by mescaline on Sept 20, 2017 13:00:28 GMT -5
I'm sure you're right again. Hobsons choice situation from my perspective though, and presently this is the lesser of two evils in my judgement. At the moment anyway.
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Post by mescaline on Sept 20, 2017 8:19:54 GMT -5
Thanks Flashjohn, you are right of course. I justify it by reminding myself that our SM only directly affects me. The other decisions would affect the children.
Although I'm fully aware that if I scrutinise my decisions too much my rationale may collapse. Perhaps that's why I am here...
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Post by mescaline on Sept 20, 2017 0:29:34 GMT -5
Another new member here, married for 9 years, two kids disappointing sexlife since the kids came along and no obvious solutions on the horizon. I've been searching for answers for years and stumbled across the concept of "why chasing", seems this is my excuse for procrastination! I really like the posts about "owning your own choices and decisions". As the kids are quite young, 6 and 8, and I'm the breadwinner I'm not going to be leaving in the near future, but I'm preparing myself for that eventuality in the medium term emotionally and mentally, and considering the financial aspects too.
I don't want my wife left in trouble, we both made choices and decisions together and I feel strongly that breaking those agreements would be morally unsound. Strangely, much more so than a seperation/divorce!
Anyway, I'll do a spiel in the appropriate forum when I get a chance. Thanks for setting this place up everyone, I used to read EP quite a lot so recognise a fair amount.
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