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Post by nancyb on Nov 21, 2016 14:31:19 GMT -5
Yesterday I felt a strange euphoria but today I'm just kinda shocked, sad, and scared. Called my lawyer today and have put her on retainer. STBX and I have established Wednesday night as 'divorce night' a time to discuss the progress of the separation. I suspect he has a new partner...why do I feel so pissed off and jealous? I know it will be the same pattern of behaviour with anybody else. This would explain why he had the courage to ask for a divorce. This too shall pass but it's a rough go today.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 21, 2016 5:49:11 GMT -5
My thanks to you all for a warm welcome. In an addendum to the above post. Things came to a head this weekend. Huge confrontation and the outcome is...my refusing husband want a divorce. States we
have been 'living a lie' for 14 years and he has been unhappy and lonely for many. I feel so sad and angry but a little relieved. We never had any children together so 50/50 split.
So it seems we have both been unhappy and alone in our marriage. I guess the lack of sex should have been a clue. I will be okay. I have a good job; a pal that's a divorce lawyer; and am working on my social network. Let someone else deal with his dismal libido...
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Post by nancyb on Nov 20, 2016 20:45:56 GMT -5
No way. Living in a desolate, sterile marriage has been one of the worse things I have had to endure in my life.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 20, 2016 19:41:25 GMT -5
OOps it appears I inadvertently posted in the wrong place. Sorry.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 20, 2016 19:35:42 GMT -5
I am happy to have finally found this site. I have married for 28 years...limited sex in the first 14 and no sexual intimacy in the last 14 year. There have been cuddles and hugs but no tongue kissing or intercourse. My husband has completely denied there is any problem. He just kept saying he has a low libido and now he is saying that he has been unable to be sexually intimate with me because of an infidelity on my part 20 years ago. This is a new excuse that has appeared because I am starting to question whether he is latently gay and doesn't know it. He refuses to either discuss it or see anyone about it. My self esteem is in the toilet and as much as I know in my head it's not my problem it sure feels like this is my fault somehow. Why have I stayed? Plain and simple I love him but I just can't contain myself anymore. In the past I was a sexually adventurous woman. Now I am approaching 55 and I wonder how this could have happened. I feel shameful about this and haven't even discussed it with my therapist. Everyone from the outside thought we had the perfect marriage. Nothing could be farther from the truth.
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