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Post by nancyb on Nov 27, 2016 14:10:23 GMT -5
I have told my therapist and 2 of my sisters. I even told my therapist about the ILIASM site to recommend to other clients. I would say the response has been shock and disbelief but I only told them this past week.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 27, 2016 9:29:53 GMT -5
I have hidden the essential core of my being from my STBX. He has hurt me so much with his rejection over the years I won’t let him touch my soul and that's a real shame because I have a whole lot of love to give.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 27, 2016 7:55:01 GMT -5
I am still physically attracted to my spouse but this is lessening now that we are leading separate lives. The thought of intercourse with him after all this time just feels awkward and wrong now.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 27, 2016 7:49:22 GMT -5
I would have rather known straight up that I hadn't a hope in hell of having sex rather than hanging onto every tiny act of kindness as a possible invitation to more intimacy.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 26, 2016 7:20:57 GMT -5
Callisto: I feel your pain and anguish. So sorry you are having such a difficult time.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 26, 2016 7:18:51 GMT -5
As my divorce unfolds I am feeling an incredible burden lifting from my shoulders. I am scared about my future but I know with certitude I will never have something like this happen again. (SM)
I have WASTED 14 years of my life hoping and praying that things would change. I even convinced myself that it was 'normal' to lose interest in sex after 40. What a crock of shit.
Now I am changing my focus of attention towards myself and trying to determine my own part in this. I chose to stay all that time and honestly if my STBX hadn't asked for divorce first I think I would still be
stuck in the ILIASM shithole. It is my opinion that nothing will ever change in a marriage once this dynamic comes into play.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 24, 2016 17:26:28 GMT -5
Hmm...I'm sorry but there is something a little creepy about that article and I've been to hell and back.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 24, 2016 14:23:24 GMT -5
Happy Thanksgiving to all my American neighbours.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 24, 2016 14:19:49 GMT -5
Happy Thanksgiving to all my American neighbours.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 24, 2016 6:09:15 GMT -5
My STBX would flirt outrageously with every woman we met. Acting like a real Don Juan...made me want to barf. Hi. How you doing? Getting stronger everyday. Things continue to progress with the divorce and it appears that my STBX and I might be able to do this amicably. I am still filled with sadness over the loss of a dream. The marriage, the lack real intimacy and sharing, it's been a facade for many years but its what I know.The new me is still in a chrysalis waiting to emerge. Thank you for asking.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 23, 2016 16:22:50 GMT -5
My STBX would flirt outrageously with every woman we met. Acting like a real Don Juan...made me want to barf.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 23, 2016 16:18:21 GMT -5
The one I always liked went something like...the only thing worse than being lonely is being married and lonely.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 23, 2016 14:32:20 GMT -5
Remember the old saying...it takes two to make a marriage and only one to make a divorce. Speak your truth.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 22, 2016 20:07:10 GMT -5
I used to ask for sex as my only present at Christmas time and I truly meant it. He bought me a vibrator instead.
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Post by nancyb on Nov 22, 2016 19:50:05 GMT -5
I can't say I am feeling so fantastic today. I have this irrational fear that because my STBX refused all my advances over the years that perhaps I've lost my ability to be attractive to men period. How does one rebuild their self esteem after years of being told through his actions that you're not sexy? I'm not talking so much about what I look like...I have no illusions I am 55...but that inner sense of getting your groove back? Maybe it will just take time and as I take each little step towards freedom it will grow? That is my hope springing eternal.
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