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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 2:35:18 GMT -5
Hub started joining me on Friday evening walks on the beach. I think the attraction is because we can stop at Del Mar Pizza afterward. It's really good New York style pizza. The first couple of times we walked were awkward. Then conversation started to flow. Or rather he started talking more. Last week, I used the opportunity to discuss the issue I was having with our daughters treatment of me. He didn't get it at all. He saw it as my issue and my fault. I didn't let it go. Every time he would give an example of how it was my fault, I would repeat what I wanted him to hear. I don't know what he said to our daughter but she has been working with me trying to mend the relationship. Things are looking hopeful. Tonite I was sharing the things going on with my friends. He says, "You have too many friends with health issues. You need to find people that have something else to talk about other than health and exercise. You need to explore other avenues of interest. Look at me, I'm not really interested in what other people have to say but I listen and realize that they are opening me up to other avenues. Wow, you are really walking well tonite. How long did you have that pain?" "About three years" I've had my pain for 16 years.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 2:22:52 GMT -5
You really need to post your story in your own post. You're a bit of an enigma I've tried, it's such a soap opera I didn't even know where to start. Things have mostly settled down now. I'm just in a good deal with a lovely lady whose sex drive exceeds mine. Perhaps I should say I am the lowER libido partner LOL. You are a very blessed man my friend. Please help show her the passion she so desires or she may show up in our group.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 2:17:15 GMT -5
I have always felt deeply that sex is the opposite of death. AARP has some great articles on their Web site regarding sex, romance and dating for us "seniors". Yes, sex is the opposite of death. It is the affirmation of life and joy. I find it sad to hear of people giving up sex because they are afraid it might kill them. Hell, I would be happy to go into the great beyond while passionately engaged with a horny woman. The undertaker would not be able to get the grin off my face. Or my erection to go down for a long time.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 2:15:47 GMT -5
I have always felt deeply that sex is the opposite of death. To me, sex is the absolutely best part of living, sharing passion, love, romance, physical intimacy with another woman. Without sex, we might as well be dead.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 2:13:31 GMT -5
Maybe I need to encourage my wife to start riding a bike.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 2:07:50 GMT -5
God I love this picture from the article
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 23:11:57 GMT -5
I can't believe that I am the only one..... You aren't. @heraclitus and solodriver , thanks for the affirmation. Because the whole world thinks all men want sex all the time - when a man doesn't, his woman almost always feels that it's because there must be something terrible wrong with her. I'm still trying to repair my self-esteem. It's so damaging to be in a relationship with somebody you love for years, and things seem to be great...and then they don't want to do anything sexual with you anymore. Even in my situation - where he did have some health problems - I just have to wonder. Did he not have good memories of our sex life? Weren't those memories good enough to motivate him to try to get us back to where we used to be? I'm not even a nympho (I don't think.) I'd be happy with sex once or twice a week. I don't think that's excessive. But if you were a nympho, that would be very alright also
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 16:04:28 GMT -5
I can't believe that I am the only one..... As I'm learning on here, you're not the only one. Before I came on this site, I thought that most women, after menopause, lost their sexual desire and that was just the way it was. Thankfully, I'm finding out that is not true. I do find older women can be very sexy and hot if they still have that desire.
I will be 57 next Sunday and my sex drive is very strong. I would do it daily (twice or three time even, lol) if I had someone with that kind of drive. The only difference for me now is that it takes me longer to get to the finish line for myself. But that's not necessarily bad, especially for my partner. It means we can enjoy the passion longer and I may help her achieve several orgasms before I do, which would be fun for me.
Maybe I will have that chance some day.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 15:27:07 GMT -5
Sadly, since menopause, she finds anything sexual disgusting.
Menopause does that to some women. Not me though. I went the other direction. I've been in menopause for 13 years and for some reason I don't have any of the issues that go along with it. Maybe it's genetics. Who knows. And thank god for that my friend. It means there's hope that I may meet someone like yourself one day that can share the passion that we so desperately are seeking.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 14:18:08 GMT -5
My wife used to enjoy watching me pleasuring and even encouraged me by whispering in my ear while watching. Now she finds it totally disgusting and never wants to do that again.
Um, I'm sorry but maybe something or someone else is going on with her? Sadly, since menopause, she finds anything sexual disgusting.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 13:14:04 GMT -5
I love how we can take something very sad and turn it into something very fun
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 12:55:47 GMT -5
I'm thinking of changing my name to "Lelo". I'd like to be Lelo's brother. You always need a backup. The have lots of models, each with a distinct name: www.lelo.com/ Pick a name, and we will be brothers in arms! Or, erm... well, if we are lucky, brothers in certain lady parts... OK I will be NEA2
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 12:52:44 GMT -5
@phinheasgage : "I agree with scheduling sex. It sounds contrived and vanilla but I tell you I start getting little tingles in my loins on Friday night in anticipation of Saturday afternoon. Of course, we both want to. With a spouse who would rather not, they'll see it as one more thing on their to do list." Or they will happen to have an upset stomach, a sinus headache, etc. Or a pet will want attention. Or they will bustle around doing 100 stupid unnecessary chores for 30 minutes while you wait in the bedroom. AMEN Sister Smartkat, preach it honey!
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 12:42:11 GMT -5
Hub leaves me alone every night while he goes out to the living room to watch his history videos. Lelo and I have a pleasurable time together. Afterward, I wrap her up in a paper towel and zip her back into her little cosmetic bag and drop it beside the bed to be cleaned up in the morning. I know he knows what is in the bag. I don't hide it. The thought of that gives me wonderful images to contemplate!
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Post by solodriver on Oct 22, 2016 12:34:41 GMT -5
I'm thinking of changing my name to "Lelo". Done. I'd like to be Lelo's brother. You always need a backup.
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