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Post by solodriver on Oct 24, 2016 23:18:44 GMT -5
What I wear to bed doesn't leave anything to the imagination!
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Post by solodriver on Oct 24, 2016 23:16:33 GMT -5
Beards. Oh god oh god oh god. Best sex toy ever. I'll be in my room. Anyway, no. He doesn't care what I wear, how I look or how I smell. I doll myself up for ME. I think he's oblivious. And a beautiful doll you are Andie
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Post by solodriver on Oct 24, 2016 1:35:01 GMT -5
And I don't mean to come off as bashing stay-at-home spouses, if it came across that way. Rather, I observe that she's now enjoying many retirement-like lifestyle benefits (which, truthfully, I'm a bit envious of) - and that my retirement will actually reduce her lifestyle, not add to it. Normally, the desire to adventure as a couple might override, but lacking that motivation I realized that our interests may not be aligned. It's an interesting factor to consider in the big picture. You didn't, DC. But I guess I do have a little guilt over pursuing my many interests even though they are low or no cost. The only difference I see happening when hub retires is him being around more. He will be paying more attention to what in doing, but not in a "let's do this together" kind of way. Ooooh! maybe he won't have the stress of the business and want to start having sex! Yah, right. I commented to my wife that since she's semi-retired and she no longer had the stress of getting enough sleep so she wouldn't be tired in the morning for work, what about trying to restart our intimate relationship.
She just chuckled. I let her hurt me again. I'm such a dumbass!
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Post by solodriver on Oct 24, 2016 0:23:33 GMT -5
If that floats your boat. I have many solo interests, but I would gladly set them aside for the opportunity to share a passionate life. If your desire for passion disappeared overnight (not that it will!), can you see you and your wife sharing a life and doing stuff together that is interesting to both of you? Or do you think you would still be on parallel tracks? We'd still be on separate tracks. She has become so self-absorbed that she would have no desire to do anything with me. It's really sad.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 23:36:09 GMT -5
That's because your refuser wasn't hiking with you!
Seriously, I'm so glad to hear you're doing better. Maybe you can get back to your Monday night dancing.
I meet a friend to dance on Tuesday nights. I would have to be on life support before I'd miss it! That is awesome Rhapsodee. You go girl.
Your last sentence made me think of something funny.
I'd have to be on life support before I would ever turn down sex lol!
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 23:32:33 GMT -5
My wife is 67 and I will be 57 next week. Every time I ask her to do something with me, she usually says No to me. I guess if or when I retire, I will have more time to do things by myself.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 23:22:21 GMT -5
I think the best feature of this story is how well your back has improved Sister Rhapsodee. Thank you! I hiked 7-1/2 miles today with ABSOLUTELY NO PAIN!!!! That's because your refuser wasn't hiking with you!
Seriously, I'm so glad to hear you're doing better. Maybe you can get back to your Monday night dancing.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 23:18:02 GMT -5
I just thought about what I want for my birthday!
Like Jim Carrey in the movie "Liar, Liar", for 9 hours I want my wife to have to tell the truth and she can't lie about anything.
Man I'd work her over just like a police interrogation complete with recording, then I'd file for divorce with a big smile.
Just curious, do you feel that an exposure of the truth is necessary for you to file for divorce? You don't need a reason, you know. I know that. But it would be interesting to get her true feelings about me, and us just to have a clear understanding. But you're right, the non-verbal is just as truthful and clear as a truthful verbal response.
But it would still be a great birthday present! Not as much as being with someone who enjoys and desires a hot, passionate, romantic relationship.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 22:41:12 GMT -5
I just thought about what I want for my birthday!
Like Jim Carrey in the movie "Liar, Liar", for 9 hours I want my wife to have to tell the truth and she can't lie about anything.
Man I'd work her over just like a police interrogation complete with recording, then I'd file for divorce with a big smile.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 22:37:35 GMT -5
Well 11 for 11 now. We actually did hug but that was as after she asked me if I liked her card and I was trying not to laugh. I stood up and gave her a hug. Felt akin to the hug you would give a distant relative. Oh yeah. Here's the card "Love You!" - Liar!
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 22:30:49 GMT -5
My birthday is next Sunday and I won't even get a card. But then again I don't need the "non caring, I don't really give a crap, but I will feel guilty if I don't get you a card" card anyway.
I hope you were able to have some enjoyment on your birthday. We have some really awesome people here in our group that I'd rather spend my birthday with, then anywhere or anyone else.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 22:24:33 GMT -5
phinheasgage and GeekGoddess,
Thank you so much for your understanding and support.
In an another thread, I shared that because my wife no longer cares about my needs, she has no say in how I deal with those needs.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 18:35:10 GMT -5
Sadly, since menopause, she finds anything sexual disgusting.
I don't know - I can see menopause leading to lack of desire, particularly if sex was all about feeling turned on rather than intimacy or connection. But to get to the point of actual disgust there has to be some other issue there too. well I can't get her to tell me why the change. She just tells me she thinks it's disgusting to play with myself and I should not be doing that. I guess she thinks it's something I should outgrow. I hope I never outgrow it.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 18:29:12 GMT -5
Or my erection to go down for a long time.
I'm afraid rigor mortis would make it quite permanent. And hopefully the grin What an open casket that would make
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Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2016 18:25:52 GMT -5
God I love this picture from the article
OMG. No, really....when a man does that to me...OMG. That is a MAJOR turn-on for me. I love doing this to a woman, as well as gentle whispers in her ears
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