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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 18, 2021 9:42:51 GMT -5
More and more this is becoming my "go to" philosophy...
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 17, 2021 8:13:07 GMT -5
And to prove the universe has a sense of humour. I had no coins for the car park so used the phone text service. I tapped in the code. I received a text back, how long do you want, Lucy. I replied 3 hours and she replied that I was greedy but it would cost me over a hundred pounds!!!!! Turned out it was a sex text line. She thought it was hilarious when I explained. The universe is not only weirder than we think, it is weirder than we can possibly imagine. You should have explained to her you were in a SM and had been for years. She would have understood the need for a 3hr. session.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 16, 2021 17:03:06 GMT -5
It has been raining on and off it seems steadily for 2 months here in NC. So I am just sitting here absorbing my resent Covid19 inoculation and making antibodies.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 16, 2021 8:20:08 GMT -5
Apparently the US isn't the only country where the citizenry is getting pretty fed up with the shenanigan's of their politicians. In India the farmers have decided to protest government actions and thousands of angry citizens decided to occupy government buildings. So in the capital of Delphi protestors did just that, including occupying the ancient and historical Red Fort Complex. It didn't make headlines here but it never the less may be another warning to bureaucratic elitist's that in a democracy the citizenry isn't defenseless, and that the infrastructure and government doesn't belong to them, but to the people who constitute the nation, and if given sufficient justification the citizenry may well reclaim what rightfully belongs to them.
EDIT: I want to add that I am not endorsing either of these 2 resent occupations of buildings in capitol cities. But I do understand it I think.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 16, 2021 7:56:17 GMT -5
Not sure if this was the headline in a local small town news paper, but it sounds right...
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 12, 2021 14:52:11 GMT -5
Jerri or DryCreek, can you put some local warm air in a quart mason jar and send it my way? I will return the jar to you with some -25F/-32C air in return.
UPDATE: I just watched the weather forecast for the south. You guys are going to have COLD weather too so skip the idea of sending me a quart of warm air.
If you really want some warm air i have plenty in my home. Every room is climatized to 68 degrees as per my instructions to the thermostat. It you want it warmer I can put it in the microwave for about a minute and it will be in the 90's.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 12, 2021 14:47:22 GMT -5
Accidently was able to get my 1st covid19 vaccination today. My daughter in law called to say a friend had posted on Facebook of a vaccination site and that there were few people there. It was about a 1/2 hr. away so I took a chance. I drove up and right through the 4-5 stops to answer questions, fill out insurance paperwork and get info for 2nd shot. So another successful mission. Sometimes it's better to be lucky than good.
EDIT: And I just want to add this is a piss poor way to go about addressing the current pandemic. Getting a vaccination should not be a matter of lucking into the information needed to find the vaccination site. My opinion is that this is another example of why politicians and governments are not trusted. NC has a democrat for a governor so it is his call on how the state goes about the inoculation effort. He's not a bad guy, just not a good governor. If a Republican was in office he would be effissorated on a daily basis by the liberal press in this state.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 11, 2021 12:11:52 GMT -5
"Often people find each other attractive because of their baked in unavailability".---Apocrypha
When I 1st entered the post marriage dating market(6yrs ago) I got a lot of "Hi" or "Hello" messages from women who were considerable distances from me, anywhere from 100 to 500 miles. I often thought WTH is that all about. It wasn't until I brought this up in a post on EP that I got the explanation you just stated that I understood what was going on. The distance made me more attractive because it pretty much prevented anything real form developing and allowed the woman on the dating site to fantasize what "might be" to perfection instead of living the somewhat less perfect what is.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 9, 2021 6:11:27 GMT -5
I am in the boat with Iwoetin in that I never took my W's rejection personal. I believe it was just a combination of menopause and her mindset that I was no longer an Alpha male, because I was no longer administering multimillion dollar projects. It was just the way her body and mind worked after hitting age 60. I applaud your mindset in still seeking to find a way to be more sexual with her. That's something that is rarely found in a refusing partner.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 5, 2021 9:21:24 GMT -5
I took him to mean he's suggesting someone compress threads down into the essential, original reading each contains, or combining similar threads. Baza has suggested when people find an author they identify with to go to their profile page, then their posts and read them in chronological order to follow their story. A person could create biographies of ILIASM members that way and portray trajectories of specific sexless marriages and the result (stay,cheat,open,leave). I've done a little of that for posts about "The Talk". There are a dozen and combining teh gems sprinkled within was rewarding work, but a lot of it, all unpaid. It'd be a service to society, but who's got the time? You have basically affirmed my thinking of what the poster is asking for. Which is for someone to do most of the work for him. I can do that readily. Stay and do nothing, leave, outsource. Maybe get some therapy along the way if they are really beat down. Now it's nice and concise. Maybe I am getting cantankerous in my old age but I have always been disinclined to do the work for those to lazy to do it themselves. Or perhaps there should be an audio selection where the posts are read out loud to the viewer to spare them the onerous task of all that time consuming effort of educating themselves via the written word. I say this because I can't help but feel that if someone is unwilling to just purview the main headings as a starting point, I can't see them making the effort to search through the biographies of the membership in the hope of finding an identical or reasonable facsimile of their own situation. Seems to me that would be even more work. I can appreciate the posters opinion or suggestions of how the site might become more visible for those desperately seeking help. And I will take his input as a genuine response at improving ILIASM. I just think he gives too little credit to his fellow man /woman as to their ability/ willingness to ferret out the best sources of information available, in addressing a SM.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 4, 2021 11:27:43 GMT -5
Hi, I am Brandon. I live in southern Kansas and just retired from the Military. I have been married for 24 years now and the last 10 have been with verry little sexual activity. It started off we would go months then it went to 2 a year and now i have gone over a year without any physical connection!! My wife has said for several years now that she thinks she is Asexual which i addmit i had to look up what it meant. I have been faithfull up to this point. I will admit i have signed up for every adult sex finder site there is but will not give my phone number or credit card info or pay for the service! I am struggling and don't want to hurt my kids or my wife but i can't help and ignore my feelings and needs anymore...Can I?? Thanm you for lisstening if anyone reads this and would like to chat please let me know i can listen as well! Congrats brandon44. You got something from your spouse most of us spend yrs. looking for. A Reason for their sexless behavior. Welcome to the forum Right now is a particularly difficult time to be looking for a dating or FWB type relationship. Covid19 has really put a crimp on things. AFF is supposedly one of the better sites for married individuals seeking something outside their marriage. I don't recommend Ashley Madison unless you have something really unique to offer the ladies. If or when you feel like it post your story on the Sexless Marriage or Staying theme. You will get more feed back there.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 4, 2021 8:35:30 GMT -5
Isthisit I would have zero interest in a man 15 years younger or older than me. I guess that leaves me out at 106 yrs old. Unless you are 91? but I doubt you are 91 yrs of age. Point 2, I never heard of “This Charming Man” before but I did look it up and listened to it. I forgot how many na, na, nas are in it but I like the bicycle item. Now if you would have said Queen, "We Are the Champions" I might be able to sing/lip-sink that song. I never heard of it either so I "Googled" it, a version by The Smiths came up. It was unintelligible for me. If this is a "deal breaker" criteria for Isthisit I fear she will be in for a very long wait.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 4, 2021 8:25:36 GMT -5
I originally found 3 other relationship forums because of books that had web sites and Youtube videos. Original content is a great way of driving people to communities. This forum has plenty of posts that (given enough curation effort) could be compiled into a kind of library that would be much more visible and immediately useful to new users who could then be steered to the forums and community. The podcasts of mirrororchid et al could also help here. This post is difficult for me to phantom. How specifically are you thinking of compiling the post into a library that would be more visible? My thoughts are that the numerous categories for posting are fairly specific enough while also allowing plenty of leeway for posters to expand or argue for and against a position or statement from others. How would you make it better? It seems to me any forum must require a certain amount of effort or even discipline from the reader. Some folks do arrive here totally lost and confused about the state of their union. Most are looking for the magic bullet that will restore the original premises they thought they had signed on to when entering their marriage. I think these folks are the one's who get the most help from what they find here. Honesty, empathy a commonality of history and even on occasion the tough love required to force them to see the reality of what they are facing. there are few theories or definitive explanations for what happened in specific marriages to the people involved. We aren't therapists as such. My past forays onto other SM forums and articles in magazines has lead me to believe that most are not really helpful, because but the time events have reached a state where SM help becomes the focus of one's reading, it's generally too far gone to bring it back. Maybe you know some sites that can boast of a steady chain of success in turning around such marriages or where people have found approaches that have been genuinely helpful emotionally or psychologically. I had no such luck in my searches.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 1, 2021 19:11:24 GMT -5
... I don't frequent other SM forums any more as I have found them to be generally useless. Intriguing. What do the others lack that you find here? I came here from EP and didn't seek out others. I've heard DeadBedrooms subreddit is relentlessly angry. I have been separated/divorced for over 6 yrs. now so I'll have to jog my memory to answer. I did a lot of reading of articles both from magazines and forum writers who more often than not built their themes around restoring SM that had only been sexless for a relatively short period usually only months or less than a year. Also many of them presupposed that both partners were looking for a way to turn things around. At that time a number of writers framed their fixes based on Biblical teachings. And a number of them were (to me at least) feminist oriented with the causes for a SM centering around the male not being sensitive or empathetic enough or being able/willing to communicate so as to engage his spouses feelings. And there were the "chore play" advocates in droves along with the scheduling sex as a remedy. A romantic get away was often recommended as a way to restart the intimacy. I tried many of the fixes I read at sites and in the articles, all to no avail. It wasn't until I arrived at EP that I got the straight skinny from the posters there that I finally came to realize I was p*ssing into the wind. Even then I spent considerable time still trying to do an end run around the issues while trying to keep the marriage together. I failed of coarse.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 31, 2021 8:26:47 GMT -5
A lot of people here have been bamboozled about NHS! How do you like it? How long does it take to get in if you are really sick and what about if you a just getting a physical? Asking in real life, I hope everyone has seen a documentary.😺 ETA they took away my Hs second appointment for his second shot. Must be doing more important seniors, new hospital staff...he can have very bad asthma Well, misinformation about the NHS (or similar structures across Europe) within the US advantages many powerful organisations. You asked how long it takes to get care when you’re really sick. The honest answer is it does not. Ever. (Umm, this is from the point of entry of care. If you choose to live in the middle of nowhere in Scotland, that’s your own fault.) The NHS provides world class critical care. No if’s, no buts. However, you get whinging from folks who think they are really sick, but are not. People wait for elective surgery, this is true. But then if those feckless bastards stopped living off Doritos and shifted their lardy arses off the sofa now and again there would be more resources available to cut those waits down. A lot. The issue in the U.K. is two fold. Firstly the public pay beer money and have champagne taste. Secondly they are blind to the value of what they have and overlook the brilliance of what is there, and just want to whinge about what is not. Summary: it is shit hot when you need it to be, and people wait for stuff that will wait. Let's try comparing apples to apples, OK? Here in the US medical care is readily available, what ever your ailment. Most of the time one can see a physician anytime, for anything, usually within an hour of walking into their practice. And for those without medical insurance, emergency care facilities at a hospital are required to treat anyone who shows up. Elective procedures are on hold for now but before those procedures could be done within a short time, say a week or maybe two. How does that compare to the NHS.
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