Post by worksforme2 on Jun 15, 2018 7:34:04 GMT -5
At first I thought someone had hacked into POF. But it seems many of the dating sites are being consolidated into one big pool of people with profiles being shared between sites. So I guess I shouldn't be surprised that a XXX site is now in the mix.
Post by worksforme2 on Apr 5, 2018 11:30:41 GMT -5
In my 1st divorce I pretty much got cleaned out since I had small kids and 30 yrs. ago men in N.C. always took an ass whipping irrespective of how the divorce came about. Take everything hat's yours. If you don't have room at the new house rent a storage unit for a month or so. A small unit will run about 60 to 100 dollars a month. You can put a lot into them and then make use of craigslist to sell what you really can't use. This woman has robbed you for years. You don't need to be rewarding her behavior.
Post by worksforme2 on Mar 17, 2018 7:30:54 GMT -5
No, but it was pretty much a mutual mindset. Our wedding was late in the afternoon, and afterwards we helped our relatives clean up the church fellowship hall for church activities the next day, so we were there until late. Then up early the next morning driving for something like 16 hours. We were exhausted and just collapsed on the bed, not even showering.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 14, 2018 19:12:27 GMT -5
I echo what has already been said about the possibility of him not having seen your friend request. I also was thinking that if he was in the relationship/self help section maybe he is thinking he needs to sort out his issues before engaging in anything potentially romantic. Maybe he isn't ready and knows it. Give him a bit of time.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 12, 2018 7:54:45 GMT -5
Sorry 2oldtostartover you are going to have to have the conversation. But don't make it about the sex. Think and talk in terms of your marriage. What her actions(inaction)is doing to the relationship. Lack of intimacy is hurtful. It's likely if you haven't really sat down and talked that she doesn't realize the extent to which she is damaging things. It's likely she has very little desire for intimacy and I'm betting she rarely thinks about sex. Hormonal most likely but still damaging to the relationship. Have the talk. Communication is critical if there is to be any sort of addressing this.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 7, 2018 14:33:59 GMT -5
I believe you are way, way, way over thinking this. If you are out in public with a woman and you are going through this sort of compiling and analysis of her actions, words, non-actions, body language, eye contact, conversation topics, etc., all the while trying to gauge and measure your own responses I expect what you will experience is her looking about for a TV so she can catch a Tide commercial. Relax for Pete's sake and just let the conversation and your interaction flow. Then go with the flow. Plan the meet and have a # of things you want to talk about. Hopefully you will have a couple of interesting(funny) experiences you can work into the conversation. Ask her questions. Women love to talk about themselves, their interests and what's going on in their lives. Success has been described as when preparation meets opportunity. So be prepared. Trust me if you are anything other than brain dead you will know if she is enjoying the evening and what the potential is going forward for both of you.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 2, 2018 13:59:42 GMT -5
After I started dating following my 1st divorce I eventually met and had along term relationship with a woman who had 2 girls, roughly the same age as my sons. We did a lot of stuff as a blended group and the kids got along well. My sons especially like the girlfriend and as you would expect gave their mom rave reviews as to the weekends with me. Their mom wasn't too happy. There isn't much you can do about it, unless you choose to make their time there boring. You are already talking about some of the things they do with their mom, try playing up how much fun they must have had. Dad's and sons often do different things than what mom's and sons do. And it is to be expected that males will find the time spent with their dad rates a higher value than what is spent with their mom. Sorry, but that's just human nature.
To all the gentlemen in the forum. Can you tell me how Cialis works? ie: When do you need to take it, what sort of erection does it achieve? My friend didn't use anything yesterday and the erection was about 70% I would say. He's a very fit, healthy 70 year old.
Cialis can be taken a variety of ways. In small doses (5mg) it is usually taken daily. Larger doses, up to 20mg. are taken on the day a man expects to be active. The medication is taken at least an hour before PIV is initiated. Daily doses are taken at the same time each day. Larger doses (20mg) are supposed to be good for a 36 hour time frame. 20mg. is the maximum dose to take in a 24hr. period. If his erection is 70% that's pretty good for age 70. Cialis may or may not improve the quality. He should discuss this with his doctor to see if he's a good candidate for the medication.
I have to imagine the sex you are getting is pretty bland. Mostly of the starfish variety. If one has to strong arm their spouse into sex I should think it's probably pretty mechanical on her part. That wouldn't be very satisfying for me. Coercion was a topic that made it's way through the forum a short time back. Most folks stated they wouldn't want it, instead preferring an intimate connection. I can see your approach working if the other person prefers the marriage to divorce, but that is a calculation that could change as the dynamics of the situation change. Periodically one reads about a woman killing her husband and defending her actions due to long term emotional and /or physical abuse. Do you suppose your approach to insuring sex in the relationship could meet the criteria for said defense?
Post by worksforme2 on Jan 29, 2018 20:08:05 GMT -5
You can also go on the internet and just google Questions to ask a Divorce Lawyer
Depending on who has the most asset or how they are characterized you may be ask what you want to do about them. For instance my X and I had separate IRA's. Hers had appreciated a good deal more than mine during the marriage so I was entitled to a few grand if I wanted it. I choose to let it go for the sake of maintaining good relations in the future. The same with tax refund money deposited in her checking from our joint tax returns.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
lonelywifey: Happy belated birthday saarinista! Hope you had a great, albeit sexless, day ;-)
Jun 6, 2018 9:49:31 GMT -5
saarinista: Thanks, guys! I just wanted to make sure someone was listening. I had a nice birthday, though no, I didn't have sex. But I did have a darned good chocolate layer cake (no not the whole thing, just a piece!)which was as good a substitute as there is!
Jun 6, 2018 14:10:25 GMT -5
saarinista: I know, nobody uses the shoutbox much, northstarmom . Dan and I were talking about how to make it more popular, but he's been off the boards lately sooo...oh well.
Jun 6, 2018 14:11:32 GMT -5
shynjdude: May you have sex befo' yo' nex', Saarinista!
Jun 6, 2018 20:04:46 GMT -5
nancyb: RIP Anthony Bourdain
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