Post by worksforme2 on Feb 14, 2018 19:12:27 GMT -5
I echo what has already been said about the possibility of him not having seen your friend request. I also was thinking that if he was in the relationship/self help section maybe he is thinking he needs to sort out his issues before engaging in anything potentially romantic. Maybe he isn't ready and knows it. Give him a bit of time.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 12, 2018 7:54:45 GMT -5
Sorry 2oldtostartover you are going to have to have the conversation. But don't make it about the sex. Think and talk in terms of your marriage. What her actions(inaction)is doing to the relationship. Lack of intimacy is hurtful. It's likely if you haven't really sat down and talked that she doesn't realize the extent to which she is damaging things. It's likely she has very little desire for intimacy and I'm betting she rarely thinks about sex. Hormonal most likely but still damaging to the relationship. Have the talk. Communication is critical if there is to be any sort of addressing this.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 7, 2018 14:33:59 GMT -5
I believe you are way, way, way over thinking this. If you are out in public with a woman and you are going through this sort of compiling and analysis of her actions, words, non-actions, body language, eye contact, conversation topics, etc., all the while trying to gauge and measure your own responses I expect what you will experience is her looking about for a TV so she can catch a Tide commercial. Relax for Pete's sake and just let the conversation and your interaction flow. Then go with the flow. Plan the meet and have a # of things you want to talk about. Hopefully you will have a couple of interesting(funny) experiences you can work into the conversation. Ask her questions. Women love to talk about themselves, their interests and what's going on in their lives. Success has been described as when preparation meets opportunity. So be prepared. Trust me if you are anything other than brain dead you will know if she is enjoying the evening and what the potential is going forward for both of you.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 2, 2018 13:59:42 GMT -5
After I started dating following my 1st divorce I eventually met and had along term relationship with a woman who had 2 girls, roughly the same age as my sons. We did a lot of stuff as a blended group and the kids got along well. My sons especially like the girlfriend and as you would expect gave their mom rave reviews as to the weekends with me. Their mom wasn't too happy. There isn't much you can do about it, unless you choose to make their time there boring. You are already talking about some of the things they do with their mom, try playing up how much fun they must have had. Dad's and sons often do different things than what mom's and sons do. And it is to be expected that males will find the time spent with their dad rates a higher value than what is spent with their mom. Sorry, but that's just human nature.
To all the gentlemen in the forum. Can you tell me how Cialis works? ie: When do you need to take it, what sort of erection does it achieve? My friend didn't use anything yesterday and the erection was about 70% I would say. He's a very fit, healthy 70 year old.
Cialis can be taken a variety of ways. In small doses (5mg) it is usually taken daily. Larger doses, up to 20mg. are taken on the day a man expects to be active. The medication is taken at least an hour before PIV is initiated. Daily doses are taken at the same time each day. Larger doses (20mg) are supposed to be good for a 36 hour time frame. 20mg. is the maximum dose to take in a 24hr. period. If his erection is 70% that's pretty good for age 70. Cialis may or may not improve the quality. He should discuss this with his doctor to see if he's a good candidate for the medication.
I have to imagine the sex you are getting is pretty bland. Mostly of the starfish variety. If one has to strong arm their spouse into sex I should think it's probably pretty mechanical on her part. That wouldn't be very satisfying for me. Coercion was a topic that made it's way through the forum a short time back. Most folks stated they wouldn't want it, instead preferring an intimate connection. I can see your approach working if the other person prefers the marriage to divorce, but that is a calculation that could change as the dynamics of the situation change. Periodically one reads about a woman killing her husband and defending her actions due to long term emotional and /or physical abuse. Do you suppose your approach to insuring sex in the relationship could meet the criteria for said defense?
Post by worksforme2 on Jan 29, 2018 20:08:05 GMT -5
You can also go on the internet and just google Questions to ask a Divorce Lawyer
Depending on who has the most asset or how they are characterized you may be ask what you want to do about them. For instance my X and I had separate IRA's. Hers had appreciated a good deal more than mine during the marriage so I was entitled to a few grand if I wanted it. I choose to let it go for the sake of maintaining good relations in the future. The same with tax refund money deposited in her checking from our joint tax returns.
Post by worksforme2 on Jan 28, 2018 12:13:05 GMT -5
I would say we are still friends. I see her on a regular basis at church and occasionally at a get together somewhere. We used to have some fun. We took in am movie or had dinner out or visited a local winery when out motorcycling. On a couple/3 occasions we had sex, so there you go. If one of us needs a favor from the other it usually happens. But we haven't dated in almost a yr. and definitely no sex, though I still get her tits out and play with them every chance I get in the hopes my timing will be right at some point. Maybe next time her tits are out I will see if I can get her pants off and perhaps masturbate her a bit. If I get that far I will try to get a few licks in. That would be fun.
Post by worksforme2 on Jan 27, 2018 15:02:12 GMT -5
FWIW, when I meet a prospective partner along with the talk about quantum physics I make it a point to work intimacy into the conversation. And I have had several ladies bring up the subject to make sure and I quote "I am healthy enough to engage in sex". No heart problems or anything like that. I would not leave this subject up to chance. I would let him know that you have an expectation that all forms of intimacy are expected if there is to be anything other than just a friendship.
Post by worksforme2 on Jan 24, 2018 11:30:06 GMT -5
My X had a somewhat mercenary approach to V-day. She expected flowers, a mushy card and an evening out running an expensive piece of meat(not mine) down her neck. Then we would return home, watch some TV and head to bed to sleep off the meal. (Don't believe that crap that either red meat or chocolate are an aphrodisiac for women) She was well mannered enough to thank me for the evening, just not well mannered enough to f*ck me.
This year my new partner has made it clear that baring the earth opening up and swallowing one of us there will be some "poking" going on.
PS.....there may well be some swallowing going on, on both of our parts
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