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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 22, 2024 9:10:12 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 21, 2024 18:40:37 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 21, 2024 18:33:09 GMT -5
xenolithic
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 21, 2024 10:23:26 GMT -5
The original purpose of this conversation relates to the fact that the daft information normalising the primary value of women is to look good before other qualities deserves to be questioned. At times being here feels like stepping into an episode of Mad Men. I have never watched Mad Men so I don't get the reference, never the less I'll go on. Sorry to be the one who has to tell you this. With the possible exception of Afganistan or outer Mongolia, women all over the world are mostly assessed firstly on the way they look. A woman does not need to be a movie star re:looks, but if she makes little effort to make herself attractive to others, both male and female, then she is most likely going to find herself a wallflower in the grand scheme of things. I am often attracted to a woman who would basically be considered average. But if she presents herself as approachable, and she has put on her face and her apparal accents her best features, then I am likely to find her attractive. I expect this holds true for most males.And it is generally acknowledged that in judging women on their appearance, the perception is that women are the most critical of each other. And as long as I am mansplanning this, I will probably push one more of your buttons. Mirrororchid could probably say this far more eloquently than me, but concerning a womans breasts. I am unashamedly on the record as a breast man. Woman often note that during a conversation with a man, the man's eyes will frequently wonder down to their breasts. Many men, including this man, it seems are hard wired to be captivated by a woman's mammories. It is in our nature, unless he plays for the other team. So as a man I can understand another man being distracted viewing the cleavage presented to him by a woman in a bikini. And be honest, some part of you, maybe way down deep, wants the attention wearing a bikini is likely to foster. Just not from this man. I will also go on record about chocolate. Cadberry and couple other British offerings are pretty good, but if I want to enjoy the best chocolate experience in the western world, I will be reaching for a Snickers bar. It blows British chocloteers out of the water.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 20, 2024 16:00:42 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 18, 2024 12:01:54 GMT -5
threats of self harm against someone is manipulation and emotional abuse. Perhaps you need to arrange a 72 hour legally enforce suicide custodial watch. any chance that 72hr. watch could go for 72 days just to be sure ?
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 18, 2024 8:12:25 GMT -5
welcome back ariso58,...Your situation reads like a pretty tuff row to hoe, but you sound like a pretty resiliant woman, and I think you have what it takes to make it through this. Having a spouse with medical conditions makes everything more difficult. The OCD and diabetes can both be managed with medication, if he is willing to take the meds. I doubt anyone faults you for finding another outlet for your intimacy needs. A fair % of membes here end up doing that. Unfortunately the 1st male to come into your life may not have worked out. Don't sweat it, there are a million men out theere that would make good partners for you. In an earlier post you said another soccer mom was helping with transpot for your kids. I hope she can continue to help. For kids sports is a huge thing, especially if the home life isn't what it should be. I'm 76, trust me, mid 30's is not old for a woman. Most women hit their prime about this time. I would encourage you to continue working on an exit plan. Figure out a way to squirrel away some of your money on a regular basis. Shore up your support network with your friends and family where ever possible. good luck...
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 17, 2024 9:17:18 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 16, 2024 10:28:25 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 14, 2024 16:23:36 GMT -5
kj252,....welcome to the forum. Your's is not a unique story. Many members have spoken of spouses who avoid touch like some sort of communicable disease. What is unusual is that she initiates sex on a weekly basis. Althought on the surface, it looks like she is selfish in that she rushes to her own orgasm. You don't say if she stays engeged until you finish. I hope so. Again other members have reported the same thing with their spouses. But often following their own orgasm they could care less about satisfying their spouse. The last yr. of my marriage my then W would initiate more or less quarterly by announcing she was " in the mood". Not very romantic . She also wanted an orgasm and then she would ask me if I was about done. I have always been a slow finisher, so she would encourage me to "hurry up and finish". So I get where you are coming from.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 13, 2024 14:54:40 GMT -5
welcome to the forum elsewhere,...as you have been lurking for a while, you know what we are about here.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 12:18:16 GMT -5
UPDATE: Since dropping my membership from Our Time I have been getting 3 times the attention from the site that I was receiving. But the quality of the attention is no better than it was as an active member. Virtually all the women are far away and few are actually in my age demographic. They ask if I would recommend their site and offered a rating scale. I gave them a zero and said no to the recommendation. Good on the zero recommendation! Now that I've turned 60 yrs. old I haven't tried "Our Time" . However I had the same experience with Match and Bumble. Some of the women have been off the site for years ( if they ever existed in the first place, and aren't just made up bots) It's all about the dating sites getting your $$$. Just before I left Our Time I Googled complaints about the site. Turns out one of the biggest complaints was exactly what I experienced. Not getting any responses from potential dates who lived close. And not seeing any potential dates being recommended who lived close. So apparently it didn't matter that I live in a rural setting. If others are experiancing the same thing it means the site isn't making any effort to actually facilitate 2 single people making a connection. Perhaps because if people met and formed a relationship they would leave the site. But my thinking is if one is not successful on a dating site you are probably going to leave that site anyway. UPDATE: I used to get an e-mail about once a week showing 9 member who supposedly match me. Unfortunately almost none of the matches met the criteria I listed as my preferences. Most were not in my age demographic and almost all lived far away, 50-150 miles from me. Now I get that same e-mail showing 9 picks for me just about every day, even though I left the site. And those picks are still not in my age demographic or living within the driving range I stated.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 12:08:07 GMT -5
I hope the HRT works out. My last year of marriage, I found a woman that was on HRT, and raved about the benefits. She was willing to talk with my wife about her experiences. I was so hopeful, but, my wife was adamant that there was nothing wrong with her, and how dare I suggest otherwise, so, that hopefully fruitful conversation never happened. Our wives took different paths on this but the destination was the same.
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Update
Apr 10, 2024 6:02:15 GMT -5
Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 6:02:15 GMT -5
Her new HRT patch has made a huge difference . But despite me mentioning it previously it was only when she decides to give it a go that the treatment started . I really want this to work . My kids are 13 and 11. Don’t want to be taking risks I tried to talk my then W into trying HRT, but she refused. 2 reasons She said she took enough medication dealing with her high blood pressure and cholesterol. She also feared possible cancer from the therapy. Her mom and sister both died from ovarian cancer and she was born with only 1 ovary, so no go on the HRT.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 8, 2024 6:58:31 GMT -5
Today I learned that Ravens have 17 primary feathers per wing, the large feather at the end or back of the wing. This feather is called a pinon. Turns out Crows have 16 primary feathers. So it seems the difference between a Raven and a Crow is a matter of a pinon.
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