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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 9, 2022 13:24:38 GMT -5
There were many Sunday mornings when I awoke asking this very question. I could have used Seri or Alexi back then.... Attachments:
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 8, 2022 6:56:37 GMT -5
Over the last couple years or so I have gotten used to seeing 4am on a very regular basis. It's rare for me to sleep an entire 8 hours unless I am exhausted from not sleeping. I have to take a bathroom break, usually around 3:30am. And more often than not I cannot get back to sleep. Count yourself lucky if you only see 4am as a random event.
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 1, 2022 13:23:57 GMT -5
northstarmom's analysis above is spot on. I had fought this economic premise repeatedly during my 2nd marriage. I agonized about divorcing when thinking of the years we had together. But eventually I went back to my old college econ classes and remembered one cannot recover sunk costs. Relationships should always take this into account. Focus on the present and the future. Learn from this mistake and apply the lesson to how you live going forward.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 28, 2022 17:58:26 GMT -5
Pretty sure this is a country song Looking for love in all the wrong places... 😉🤣 But what I find most strange is that the majority of women who do initiate contact more often than not live far away. Why a woman would think 75 to 100 miles is a good distance in a dating partner. What are they thinking? Looking for love in all the wrong places...I 1st heard that song in a John Travolta movie...Urban Cowboy
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 28, 2022 8:08:36 GMT -5
I don't think one can take a lot from this article as any sort of expectation. There is just too much in the way of variables. As to my own experience I would have to say I have had far more luck IRL initiating conversations and approaching a woman I find appealing. Grocery stores are one of my favorite places to start a conversation with a woman. So far my experience on dating apps shows me that very attractive women never initiate a conversation, at least not with me. But what I find most strange is that the majority of women who do initiate contact more often than not live far away. Why a woman would think 75 to 100 miles is a good distance in a dating partner. What are they thinking?
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 26, 2022 9:23:46 GMT -5
I have a cousin who lives in Michigan. Decades ago, his father-in-law had health issues beginning to really manifest themselves. The f-i-l was in his 70's at the time. My cousin thinking "how much longer cam he live"? invited him to move in. He lived for 17 more years. That is some real staying power.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 26, 2022 9:17:42 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 24, 2022 4:42:01 GMT -5
It is the Charlie Brown and Lucy syndrome. Lucy puts up the ball for Charlie and he hopes this time she will not move it as he kicks. And yup, there he is again flst on his back. My wife says things will change, plays flirty, suggests and then whoops, not tonight. Not now, maybe later. She has no intention of changing. She is deluding herself as much as me. So, like Charlie Brown, it is up to me not to play. I heard that same response so many times that if I had a dollar for every time I could probably go out for dinner and a movie. It finally stopped when i decided not to play anymore. I doubt that she is deluding herself about what she is intending to do. Unless you mean she is thinking she will never have to worry about your taking a stand in reclaiming your self-respect.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 22, 2022 5:18:40 GMT -5
welcome notwhatisignedupfor,...Glad that you found the site. I hope it and the membership provides you with some helpful advice and brings you some comfort in knowing you are not alone in going through the trials of a SM
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 21, 2022 9:35:12 GMT -5
Apparently, being over 65 is now an excuse for no sex!!!!! I always used to argue with her in the past thast she was delaying and delaying our sex life until we (she) was too old. That could also be the case when the couple is over 60. My X used to tell me "we are too old for that" as one of the excuses not to be intimate. Perhaps she was too old but my penis kept telling me something different. Your posts are becoming more enjoyable. You seem to be ever so incrementally asserting some independence from your controlling and abusive W. Keep it up lessingham. We are all pulling for you.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 21, 2022 6:11:37 GMT -5
POST OFFICE CONFIRMS In unfortunate spelling error child sends Christmas wish letter to Satan.... Attachments:
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 15, 2022 18:13:59 GMT -5
You ar4e very early in the relationship. But she has nevertheless exhibited a sexless trait usually occurring much later in a relationship. You don't give your ages or say anything about other forms of intimacy. How is she with hugging and kissing? Are you 2 intimate at home? I really need more information before hazarding a guess as to what might be going on.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 15, 2022 12:39:41 GMT -5
The bigger risk for me is not doing anything and then wondering what could have been. Where are the lonely ladies? A thousand generations of men have asked this question,...especially on Saturday night.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 12, 2022 14:46:38 GMT -5
30 yrs. ago there was no worse state than NC a man could live in if he had children and got a divorce. After 10 yrs. of marriage, she left me and got half of everything, except for the things she got 100% of. And I ended up paying a whopping sum for child support for the 2 boys we shared. I ended up moving back in with my mother for almost a year while I saved for a down payment on a 50 yr. old house that needed a lot of work. I never even thought about dating until I had been in the house for about 5 yrs. It seemed like a hard slog for me at the time, and it was. But I made it and you will too. Now my sons are married and have children of their own. Hang in there, better times are sure to come your way.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 12, 2022 10:36:01 GMT -5
On those very rare occasions when the subject of my marital status comes up, I pipe up that I have been divorced for about 7 yrs. now. No one has ask about why, for again about 7 yrs.
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