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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 13, 2023 8:32:00 GMT -5
angeleyes65 hit some of the things I was going to comment. I would add you could add some toys to the foreplay. If she is willing, there are pumps and other male devices to help bring you to an orgasm. Perhaps using one or more of them prior to PIV to get you close. Then you may not last so long in her. I also have always taken a long time to ejaculate, except when I am in a womans backdoor. Usually, anal will do it for me after 10-15 minutes. Again, if she is willing to give it a try. If she is not willing to stimulate you more prior to PIV then cumming quickly probably isn't going to happen. I agree in that it might be time to talk with your W about opening up the marriage. Since it would remove her having to endure sex with you, she may be willing to accept a don't ask don't tell fwb for you. Can it hurt to have that discussion?
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 7, 2023 22:15:12 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 4, 2023 8:06:23 GMT -5
Hello ... this is a big step for me. I've been married for 38 years and haven't had a physical relationship with my husband for at least 10 years ... I lost count a long time ago. I guess I'm here just to reassure myself that I'm not alone and that there's nothing wrong with my feelings of loneliness, frustration, and anger. Hoping that I can learn to live with the lack of intimacy in my marriage welcome to the forum wanted to be wanted,.....if you feel so inclined please continue telling your story and experience on the "Staying" category. If not then hopefully your reading hear will bring you some understanding of where you are in the marriage and where you might be headed that might be some consolation to you.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 31, 2023 11:43:45 GMT -5
I'm inclined to think if he'd winced at the offer and said, "Oof, sorry! I've got plans." It would have been an A+ extraction. I was actually looking forward to the tasting. She is an attractive woman and interesting to talk with. But there was just no chemistry for me and her leaning away and crossing her arms in front of her communicated to me she wasn't feeling it either. So wait for the right opportunity and call it a day, which is what I did.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 30, 2023 17:09:47 GMT -5
I had a 1st meeting with a woman on Saturday evening. And i want to know if I was being cheap or was she trying to take advantage of me.
I met this woman via a dating site, she reached out to me first. And after a couple lengthy conversations we decided to meet. She had mentioned she liked wine. There is a winery close to both of us that she had never been to. I have been there a # of times so I choose it for our 1st meet. At the winery we picked out the wines we though sounded good and ordered 7 to taste. We spent about an hour and a half talking and tasting. The wines were mostly pretty bad, but the conversation was good. However, I was not feeling any chemistry with her. And if body language means anything I don't think she was feeling it either. So at the end of the tasting, she went to the bathroom, and I went up and paid for the wine. When she came back from the bathroom she ask if we could have dinner. I had eaten before coming, she it seems had not. The food menu at the winery was pretty ritzy and so were the prices. And I had decided there was going to be no 2nd meeting. I suggested we go back to town, and she could pick from the restaurants there. Short story, I did not buy her a meal. Was I being cheap or did i owe her a meal for a bit of conversation? I know the guy typically pays for the 1st date, but this was just a meet and greet in my mind, not a date.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 27, 2023 8:47:28 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 26, 2023 10:10:46 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 25, 2023 10:36:32 GMT -5
Be careful ironhamster,...if she is half as vindictive as she seems it would be in character for her to go at you for slandering her good name or character assignation.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 25, 2023 7:58:56 GMT -5
If you are riding in front of the herd, take a look back now and then to make sure it is still there.
Using good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from using bad judgement.
Will Rogers.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 20, 2023 10:57:31 GMT -5
Know what another "red flag" is for me. When on a dating site and I see a female, I find initially attractive. Then I read a couple long paragraphs in which the woman says she is looking for her soulmate. And at the same time, she says she is living life to the fullest. The two seem incompatible to me. If she is living life to the fullest how will there be room for anyone else in the mix. When I see this, I immediately swipe left.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 20, 2023 8:26:41 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 20, 2023 8:19:19 GMT -5
One aspect of the gel might be the prohibitive costs. I had a pharmacy compound Cialis for me. A dosage of 6 gummies cost over $100. And it didn't work at all so it was money wasted. I expect a compounded gel would also be prohibitive for many men.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 17, 2023 9:05:09 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 15, 2023 17:36:58 GMT -5
welcome to the forum holdfast,...For many of us the staying option was our 1st choice. But for many if became untenable as not only the intimacy vanished but also the respect needed between couples. And you are right about eye opening. I have seen all sorts of couples and relationships, that ended up sexless. It seems no one is immune. I wish you well as you continue to educate yourself and as you find your way to what will work for you going forward.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 13, 2023 9:49:31 GMT -5
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